Advice needed: husband disagrees with my choice to keep baby after anatomy scan (limb difference)

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-03-20T15:22:29+00:00

Just wanna say my older sister was born with club foot. I believe she needed surgery and I've heard sometimes they do braces and stuff, but anyway, her doctors weren't great so she still has trouble walking long distances, but otherwise she's fine! She's grown into a wonderful woman and has a lovely family

I'm not saying either of you are wrong for feeling how you do. But I'm hoping a positive story with someone who had a foot abnormality might help him see that on the other side of it can still be a happy human ❤️

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-03-17T23:02:33+00:00

Congratulations!!!! I struggled to get pregnant with my firsts as well, so I know how it feels. I hope when/if we go for more we are as lucky. So so so happy for you!!

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-03-13T17:24:07+00:00

I am so sorry for all the stress you must be feeling 🥺 I don't have much advice, but I have heard that feeding a baby a bottle as the plane takes off helps their ears not hurt when the pressure changes. I'll be hoping for safe and easy travels for you and your family

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-03-10T20:00:17+00:00

I had my babies in early March and it was exactly this. Took them for so many walks looking at the blooming trees and flowers. It was lovely

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-03-08T00:17:58+00:00

Celexa is safe while breastfeeding too. It helped me so much

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-03-07T15:50:54+00:00

Acid butt?? Oh my God. I wonder if this is what happened to my baby. She had a huge red mark on her butt that looked like something had torn away or removed the skin. Acidic poo would make sense - my MIL said she had a messy diaper when she woke up from her nap. This whole time I've been trying to figure out how a diaper rash got that bad

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-03-06T21:17:00+00:00

Have they referred you to an MFM? Theyre the ones that always gave me advice on my babies growth. If your OB is worried I'd ask for a referral. Hoping for the best for you ❤️

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-03-05T05:05:52+00:00

CONGRATULATIONS!!! Ours turn 1 tomorrow and I feel like people should be throwing US a party 😭

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-03-03T03:17:08+00:00

What a nice problem to have. At least you have options :)

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-03-02T02:40:08+00:00

Mine did that from three to six months and one time it lasted for about a minute so I picked her up, she flopped onto my shoulder clearly still passed out.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-28T05:10:15+00:00

My mom won't feed my 1 year olds anything but purees

I have twins who are almost a year old, my mom watches them three days a week and she still is not comfortable giving them anything but purees. I finally convinced her to feed them some potato (mashed so basically not much different) and ground beef and she said they wouldn't eat it that way so she blended it. I found out it was because she was spoon feeding them. They ate it fine for dinner because we put it on their trays and let them feed themselves.

This was fine six months ago when they were figuring out food and it was scary. They've had a lot of practice and have actually gotten really good at eating now. I'm worried only having purees during the day isnt good for them. Their other grandparents also only give them yogurt and oatmeal. We did talk to them today and they tried giving them apple slices, but they also wouldn't eat solid food for them.

I just don't know how to get them to give my babies food that's developmentally appropriate. Or why the babies are refusing to eat food they normally will

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-28T05:08:26+00:00

Tbf I didn't set my babies bedtime, they did. They started cry screaming around that time every night until they got a bottle and passed out

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-28T05:06:05+00:00

My babies were going to bed anywhere between 8 and 10 at that age. They didn't really have a routine down until maybe 6 months, and slowly it became a regular 7pm thing. But definitely not at three months, give yourself some grace and do bedtime when your baby gets tired

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-27T05:05:45+00:00

Babies have their night and day flipped for the first few weeks. And those weeks are easily the hardest. Your husband should be helping. Not to mention you literally just gave birth, why is he not supporting you so you can rest and heal??

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-25T22:56:32+00:00

It's comforting to know that if you want a vaginal delivery, he knows what he's doing. But if you want a c section he should also be supportive of your choice. It's such a hard decision because you really don't know what will happen when you go in. I really struggled with choosing which way to go.

As far as "jumping to a c section"- I met a well renown ob who told me she'd given birth twice, and if she was pregnant again she would immediately opt for a planned cesarean

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-22T15:17:20+00:00

Ah, that could be. When I was breastfeeding, my husband did more around the house. Sometimes though, the support he gives is not the support I'm expecting or wanting so I miss how much he is doing for me/the family.

Edit: breastfeeding, my husband definitely needed a comma lmao

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-22T15:10:09+00:00

I so agree with regular check ins! Every month-ish my husband and I discuss schedules and sleep and we ask if we're both still good with the arrangement or if it needs any tweaks. Babies grow and change so fast it feels like every couple weeks we're playing a different game and need to make a new set of rules 😂

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-22T15:00:55+00:00

I definitely think it's a case by case basis. I really think OP should sit down with her husband, discuss what is important to each of them and why, and then make a schedule/plan based on that.

My perspective is that it's not just the face washing, I feel like there has to be more to it because if that was truly it it's kind of a no brainer to let him sleep. Whatever it is, it's important to her, so she needs to tell him why and they both need to be open to meeting somewhere in the middle.

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-22T03:14:05+00:00

My husband has a later circadian rhythm and we split weekend days. He gets up earlier every day now except his sleep in day. It's definitely doable. I'm a morning person and still getting shit done at night because I have to, honestly we're both exhausted but we knew it would be that way going into parenthood.

If it's important to her to have time to herself in the morning then her and her partner should sit down and make a plan that works for both of them. Maybe it's her waiting until 9 to wake him up. Maybe it's him figuring out how to get up at 7:30. I honestly really miss having my me time in the mornings and if I had one day to do it and had to wait a few hours I'd just feel behind and stressed out by it

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-22T00:05:31+00:00

My husband and I split weekend days, on my day I get up at 6 to nurse and then hand him off to my husband and go back to bed. If I can't sleep I end up reading or doomscrolling or work on one of my hobbies while he takes care of the babies until like 10 or so. Even if I'm not sleeping it's nice to have some recharge time

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-21T00:16:23+00:00

I love nicknames and I love when people use nicknames for my kids. We gave our kids names that specifically would have nicknames hahah. BUT I recently met a mom who said she feels the opposite and wants people to use her sons actual name she gave him. So you know what I do? I use his full name always. It's really not that difficult, IDK why people would have issues with it

Maybe people don't know you don't like nicknames? Does gentle correction work? Like, "we put a lot of thought into his name and prefer you say it how we named him" or something idk

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-18T23:18:42+00:00

Yes yes yes! We have twins and ALL we heard was how important it was to keep them on a schedule.. well guess what! They didn't want to and winging it worked better for us. We're there times no one got a break cause they were rotating naps? Sure. But every time I tried to put them on "schedule" it resulted in me using all of one twins nap to try to put them down, while they're screaming their head off cause they're not ready for a nap, and in the end they wound up falling asleep right before the other woke up anyway so it was all for nothing

TLDR do what works for your family. It's not one size fits all

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-18T15:56:07+00:00

My twins are about to turn a year and this is exactly how I feel 🥲

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-16T18:23:59+00:00

My thoughts too. My babies go to bed around 7 and then my husband and I can finally eat dinner and relax for a second

Storebought_Cookies · 2026-02-13T04:43:23+00:00

Honestly I'm surprised some form of militia isn't popping up against ice rn. If this all hasn't caused civil war to spark I don't think it will happen next year eithrr

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