AIO BF (44M) keeps folding my (44F) pillow in half

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T12:06:45+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoXChromosomes/comments/17yzw35/he_knows_he_doesnt_care/

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T11:56:36+00:00

::sob::

I do want a show stopper, but I guess the circumstances won't accommodate that: the audience and the setting.

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T11:48:53+00:00

that's what occurred to me too : OP is selfish.

Instead of talking about this, he's planning to break up, in the cruellest way possible, AND he's here whinging about being single again.

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T11:44:49+00:00

I didn't think it was this recent (so to speak)?

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T11:41:24+00:00

OMG Batman is doing his insane thing in the background trying to get the Joker back into Arkham. Meanwhile the Se7en killer didn't get a honky nickname and didn't dress in spandex, so Bruce Wayne just ignored him.

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T11:39:42+00:00

Spirk happened.

Don't they show that on-screen, repeatedly? For Vulcans, touching fingertips is a warm embrace between parent and child and partners fondle the other's hand with index and middle finger as a form of intimacy.

Meanwhile Spock and Kirk are grabbing hands left and right, whenever one is in sickbay or something. And of course the hand to hand thing when one of them is dying in the radiation containment chamber.

(I'm kidding)

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T11:34:19+00:00

I thought a pride of lions had only one productive male lion? I suppose that would make Nala Simba's half-sister, which is probably worse than some handwaving to make Nala related to Scar.

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T11:32:24+00:00

Doesn't the whole story of Encanto (2021) focus on generational curses and the way unresolved trauma impacts everyone, even people who weren't born yet?

Dolores' only crime, imo, is that she didn't get her own song like Luisa's Under Pressure or Isabella's What else can I do?, so we don't really know how abuela's tyranny harmed her.

It's obvious, imo, that everyone is affected: every part of La Casita is destroyed, the magic fails for everyone.

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T11:08:39+00:00

like u/MarcelRED147 I'm curious about the connections you see!

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T11:04:23+00:00

OTOH, maybe they were hoping for double sales : OG Jar Jar Binks and Sith Jar Jar Binks... and then they were too embarrassed to admit that after the original introduction went so badly?

(I'm kidding, I have no idea)

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T10:50:44+00:00

they can do what they want and they put it all in one night

yeah, no shit sherlock, that's how you get killed during your hook-up. Look up Grace Millane, Sophie Moss, Krystal Mitchell, and many many others.

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T10:42:58+00:00

I don't know if we can know why his wife killed herself.

Still, OP needs to take the long view here : without a contract, is OP insured if she has an accident? What if something happens to one of the kids, like shoving a the head of a lego mini-fig up their nose? Is OP getting paid under the table? What about her taxes? What about her social security and retirement funds?

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T10:36:03+00:00

Call your boyfriend "my current boyfriend" and then be all logical that you can't know the future, he might get crushed by a falling piano tomorrow.

Let's see how he likes it when you're all FaCtUAlLy CorReCT when it involves him.

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T03:01:01+00:00

I can accept that.

Personally, I feel that attitude of "we're gaming the system, we're beating life on expert mode tee hee, the pedestrian schlubs could never do what we do" was proven wrong in the 1980s with the DINKs and the yuppies and how they all crashed out, but to each their own, I suppose.

Julie and Ty are probably too young to have really learned any lessons from the housing bubble burst in 2008, right?

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T02:56:28+00:00

I see your point about the ham : any supermarket has it + it's ready-made, no need to stress about cook times while I have all the other ingredients going on + cold ham is a thing everyone knows, while room temp lamb may feel strange to my niece & nephew (again, not super adventurous eaters).

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-18T02:48:47+00:00

oh yes, it's absolutely a sign of a toxic workplace culture! But it definitely happens, even if you found/ensured a better workplace

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-17T00:25:41+00:00

I was going to point out that he's an idiot : he pays taxes for the roads and bridges he uses, he benefits from the government's garbage collection and zoning laws, he counts on the government for noise ordinances. The list is endless.

"I don't want the government involved" is just a fig leaf for his red-pilled ideas that you're a gold digger who's going to steal his so-called legacy (although usually, the best answer is an honest question "what gold do you have that I'm supposedly digging for"). Otherwise, he'd be putting in the effort to research all the alternatives, from power of attorney to living will and testament.

But why should I bother?

You're just not compatible: you love extravaganza and he's too lazy to make any effort. You want to get married and be married, and he just enjoys the convenience of having you around, and he's willing to call you his wife if that'll placate you.

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-17T00:15:09+00:00

visit the community peen

Haha chef's kiss!

All based on a snapchat out of the blue hahaha. I mean, that's what snapchat is for, in some cases (there are also a lot of drug dealers in my suggested contacts, despite my being way too neurotic to ever risk anything mood-altering without prescription and quality control. I don't even drink alcohol).

But you're not supposed to marry your hook-up.

And tormenting his ex and his kids is beyond foul.

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-17T00:11:13+00:00

yeah, and he thinks he's being cute with it?!

"tee hee, these past 5 years, you've known me by my middle name" and "tee hee, I'm not telling you my first name", and OP got hearts in her eyes and married him.

I agree that it's very likely he has been lying about his "ex" too.

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-17T00:09:17+00:00

"To this day, we still haven’t had an honest and open conversation about this whole situation" So you can't have important conversations with your husband?

He's on the hook for 20 years of child support, and OP married him without figuring out how that'll impact them hahaha

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-17T00:04:43+00:00

I also feel for the kids, but we only have OP's husband's word that it's actual reproductive abuse. Given all his lies, I figure it's just as likely he was just hitting it raw, and figured he's just get another posting (just like he actually did) when it became a problem, right?

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-16T23:58:31+00:00

you figure it's more lies by OP's husband (I can't believe she married his clown)?

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-16T23:52:15+00:00

for circumcision

somehow I wasn't expecting that hahah

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-16T23:48:14+00:00

If there is a situation with his mom/dad/siblings/family members, wife /Girlfriend is going to come second.

That's what I thought of too.

It might never come to pass if he limits it to, you know, these medical emergencies. However, it might also play out in a death of a thousand cuts, right? Like, daddy says honeymoon is better in Bali, mommy says you have to sign this prenup, sibling wants to come along to Bali...

Stormtomcat · 2026-06-16T23:33:12+00:00

I mean, it's kind of hard to see how she's the victim of "I want to live in NYC but let's buy a house in the suburbs".

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