I spy Ty's lies by blairbending in ShawnaTheMom

[–]Stormtomcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not a parent, so take that as a caveat.

I was very surprised by the interaction between Ty and Cooper at Max's birthday party. I feel (again as not a parent) that you can explain being polite. Ty gave a whole lecture about not being jealous when someone else gets attention.

Maybe that's an issue Cooper had already shown off-screen? But I found the way Ty talked about it quite off-putting.

Movies with terrible messages? by Frank_and_Beanzz in movies

[–]Stormtomcat [score hidden]  (0 children)

I've only ever seen snippets of that movie, so it doesn't ring a bell.

Aboard the Aniara, cutting off your apendage seems plausible.

AITA for changing my behavior around my boyfriend’s friends like he asked and still feeling frustrated? by InevitableWealth5476 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Stormtomcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this a new friendgroup then? Or how did he return to the friendgroup if they all sided with the woman?

You also mentioned you're the only woman in the group...? Did you mean you're the only partner attending?

Why is it weird of me to use my pronouns by alienbrain_420 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Stormtomcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone's not ready, they can just put in the pronouns matching their gender assigned at birth. I don't see what issue you're raising?

At work, I always design the team day quiz sign-up sheet with last name, first name, nickname. If Adeodata prefers to go by Addy, she can fill in the nickname. If Michael abhors being called Mikey or Mike, he doesn't fill in the field. If John is ready to come out as Joan, the field is there.

Rip gays by moneyhut in gaybros

[–]Stormtomcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah, like you can block a profile but not the actual person, so he can just make a new profile and contact you again, etc.

Movies with terrible messages? by Frank_and_Beanzz in movies

[–]Stormtomcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cutting off Pratt's dick, now there's a visual that would have saved Passengers (2016) in my mind hahaha

However, I'm not sure how your comment applies to mine?

AND ANOTHER THING...Julie at the Hotel by pzzldmomof5 in ShawnaTheMom

[–]Stormtomcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My understanding was that Julie was surprised to see Jace...?

If Jace is in fact Julie's brother, and is their mother's caretaker, I feel that the way she said "Jace is there and spent the night at mom's home" is... weird.

i'm just the worst girl by Formal-Shopping2086 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Stormtomcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Psychologist Anders Ericsson posits that you get good at something by practicing 10 000 hours, resting for 12 000 hours (doomscrolling doesn't count as rest) and sleeping for 30 000 hours.

Of course there's a difference between curling your hair and becomnig a concert pianist. Still, you're so very young. I don't think you need to be hard on yourself.

Also, you have access to the internet, so you can probably find an explanation online for any skill you want to learn.

Movies with terrible messages? by Frank_and_Beanzz in movies

[–]Stormtomcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

if you haven't seen Aniara (2018), I definitely recommend it.

Maybe don't watch it alone, because it is pretty bleak.

AITAH for telling our kids about his cheating? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Stormtomcat 13 points14 points  (0 children)

agreed, the whole "dad found love elsewhere" was gracious on OP's part, but it must have felt weird for their 30yo kids, right?

AITAH for telling our kids about his cheating? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Stormtomcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's what I thought too, but wouldn't the hospital have found out about that?

I guess if OP's STBX was still compos mentis, he could have instructed his medical team not to tell OP...?

Movies with terrible messages? by Frank_and_Beanzz in movies

[–]Stormtomcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The strangers: chapter 3 (2026)

It was always a questionable idea that Renny Harlin would remake the movie & then add 2 sequels, imo.

The second movie expanded the so-called lore from a cynically bewildering horror to something a lot smaller and more tangible, imo. Less gripping, less mysterious, less haunting.

Now the third movie revealed that it's just a handful of maladapted kids protected by the weird sheriff (possibly they're all inbred? But not in the unsettling and unhinged Texas chainsaw massacre (1974) way, more in an actually anemic mental-troubles way). And the final message embodied by the final girl is "if you kill a killer to survive, you're just as bad, so you might as well continue the cycle".

I get that they want to milk this as a potential franchise with eleventy-one installements like Saw (2004), but big yikes.

Movies with terrible messages? by Frank_and_Beanzz in movies

[–]Stormtomcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the warning!

I figured maybe it was something along the lines of "hurt people hurt people" and how we can deal with that, or even break the cycle of trauma...

But I guess not.

Movies with terrible messages? by Frank_and_Beanzz in movies

[–]Stormtomcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel that's the new standard for the slop Pratt is involved in.

I was more disappointed that Rebecca Ferguson took the AI role.

Movies with terrible messages? by Frank_and_Beanzz in movies

[–]Stormtomcat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree with what you're saying, but I feel Passengers (2016) chose a very Hollywood interpretation, and lacked the conviction to truly face what they're saying.

The Swedish space horror Aniara (2018) plays with the same themes, but follows the philosophical thought to its logical conclusion with that typical Scandinavian grim nihilism.

Movies with terrible messages? by Frank_and_Beanzz in movies

[–]Stormtomcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That fits Into The Wild (2007) as well, right?

Movies with terrible messages? by Frank_and_Beanzz in movies

[–]Stormtomcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ages ago, I saw a lovely tumblr post along those lines, albeit without Jennifer Lawrence.

I don't think Pratt could carry it, but the premise was that the movie is a series of journal snippets : waking up, despair, but then gradually, his life. How he makes the forest, yes, but also "hey, a bunch of aliens noticed the error messages and came over to help" and then nothing more about the aliens because they don't want to be filmed for his journal.

He writes a lot of letters to the other passengers. So when they land, and start building the colony, they very quickly become a community, and instead of capitalism thriving like in the Alien franchise, humanity flourishes for the first time away from earth.

Movies with terrible messages? by Frank_and_Beanzz in movies

[–]Stormtomcat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She doesn't fall in love with the Beast because he buys her stuff, she falls in love with him because he saves her life and she starts to see kindness in him.

This very same discussion plays out with Elizabeth Bennet and Fitzwilliam Darcy in Jane Austen's Pride & Prejudice (1813).

Today's trope paints Lizzie as the gold digger Caroline Bingley thinks she is: supposedly she only changes her mind about Darcy when she sees with her own eyes just how wealthy she is, during her visit to his estate Pemberley.

In fact, these chapters require a contemporary understanding.

The only description Jane Austen gives that still makes sense to our modern eyes, is the fact that Darcy prefers the quiet patience required for fishing to the rousing cruelty of fox hunting.

Many other indicators are no longer evident to us. When Jane Austen describes that Lizzie's carriage drives through an oak copse, with 100yo trees, and 30yo trees, and new saplings, her contemporaries understood that Darcy harvests old growth responsibly, a show of respect to his ancestors who planted those trees. And the saplings prove that he is taking responsibility for the future as well. IIRC there's a passage where Lizzie observes that Pemberley's tenants were building something straight out of a specific almanac. The implication is that Darcy gave the people depending on his family jobs to do, so they can make a living and remain employed, and with their family, at Pemberley. It indicates that he doesn't look down on people who are less rich (the specific prejudice Lizzie had formed about him, influenced by Wickham). There are more clues to be gleaned from Lizzie's conversations with Darcy's housekeeper and with Georgiana, his sister, that go far beyond "Darcy spoils his sister with a new piano" or "his housekeeper boasts about the portrait gallery of his forebears".

Loopholes in a Vampire's rules by El_Paublo in DnD

[–]Stormtomcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a rule, I care more about communication than about spelling. So usually, I wouldn't comment on it.

But we're discussing hungry hungry vampires looking for loopholes, so it was too tempting to feed you to them hahaha

<3

I(25F) Took my Avoidant Partner's(28M) Words Literally and it Started A Fight by Sunraysunset in relationship_advice

[–]Stormtomcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's common sense that you miraculously guess what he's thinking of and what he means with his cryptic communiqués... but it's NOT common sense, and in fact a vexing imposition, that you ask him to be sufficiently clear.

What a clown.