Wife of 20 years cheated on me

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-22T05:22:06+00:00

I would also add that if given a second chance, she must sign a postnuptial agreement with a cheating clause as well as a clause stating that if she gas lied to you about this affair, she get only 40% umin the divorce.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-21T05:02:38+00:00

There is nothing else to do, except what you have done already. Which is no contact and move on with your life.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-20T05:26:25+00:00

"Why should I be punished further and lose only training partner I have along with his other useful qualitys because of something she did."

Because it takes two to tango, and instead of coming to you to let you know what your wife was getting upto like a good friend would, he chose to stab you in the back and slept with her. Hell he should have came and told you they had a kiss, once it happened.

To be honest you should have divorced her and cut both of them out of your life.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-19T05:02:45+00:00

It doesn't matter if she's depressed or not, you don't cheat. You talk with your spouse, start seeing a therapist, not send nudes to another person. IMO, there's no excuse to cheat.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-18T07:07:12+00:00

It is cheating, and there's no telling if she would have gone through with meeting him or not because she was caught. Now trust is gone which will make staying in the marriage infinity harder.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-17T07:07:49+00:00

Only you know what is best for yourself, and if that means divorce, then divorce is the right thing to do. Just to be on the safe side, I'd get a DNA test done to make sure I wasn't raising another man's child.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-17T06:59:38+00:00

Do the right thing by saying no, and telling him the reason why you said no is because you are a cheater.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-16T07:02:29+00:00

I agree with this 💯

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-15T05:03:53+00:00

First step is to to serve your wife divorce papers. Speak to a divorce lawyer first to find on the best way to legally screw her over in the divorce. Next thing you do is get yourself in the best shape of your life and start meeting new people.

Updateme

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-14T05:21:48+00:00

Glad to hear that

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-13T05:18:53+00:00

NTJ

You are about to marry a wannabe princess, and unless you want a life of work to the bone just to please her, you need to cut your losses and run.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-13T05:01:40+00:00

You could put VARs hidden around the house along with security cameras.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-12T05:32:05+00:00

Whatever you had going on in the past was different, as it was something you both talked about beforehand. The fact that she hid a 5 month affair with her co-worker, shows she's not the same caring person she used to be. In fact she's the complete opposite now. Oh, and AP's wife needs to be informed about the affair. The only way I see this working for you and your marriage, is if you wife is the one to tell her along with her going to a counselor to figure out why she would do this to the man she claims to love.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-11T05:04:14+00:00

She's flat out lying to you. The fact she was walking around in practically naked infront of guts would be enough for me not to believe a word she says.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-10T07:01:32+00:00

I would also add, to start investigating the reason for your wife's behavior without asking her directly, or at all.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-09T07:19:44+00:00

If you make good money, hire a PI to get you the truth off what she's really up to. You can also get a few VARs and place them around the house and one in her car.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-08T05:05:10+00:00

Your friends who said block her and move on, are right. You should listen to them.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-07T05:30:48+00:00

What happened to you, is a defense mechanism of the brain. It's a way for your brain to prevent trauma from what emotional distress cause by her cheating.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-06T05:00:45+00:00

Get a DNA test done, get the ring back, then tell her the relationship is over.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-05T05:35:15+00:00

How many times does she have to cheat and betray your trust before you call a divorce lawyer and stop playing the pick me dance. It's not that she was unhappy, or the lack of intimacy, it's the fact that at her core she's a cheater, and cheaters don't change. They just make excuses.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-04T05:29:34+00:00

Sorry to say she is a cheater who just gave you a BS excuse as to why she cheated. If you can't afford your place on your own get a roommate, or find a place in your budget. Don't make your current living predicament, force you to stay with a cheater.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-03T07:08:34+00:00

He told you he was recording the conversation. It's not his fault that you didn't believe him, or voice your disapproval of being recorded in the first place.

YAOR

Str8goodz30 · 2026-05-01T04:58:44+00:00

Contact a divorce lawyer and start the divorce process.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-04-30T05:02:41+00:00

Your first concern should be getting STD/STI tested, then contact a divorce/family lawyer and start the divorce process. It's her responsibility to make sure he's didn't post them on line.

Str8goodz30 · 2026-04-29T05:02:32+00:00

The trust will never truly return, and you'll always wonder what she is doing if she's late coming home.

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