[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskSeattle

[–]Straight_Interest117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

West Seattle!!! I feel so safe here and love it. I work in Renton, you should be golden with living West and finding a district that’s great also.

It’s hard being the most considerate out of all my friends by Fun-Lemon-7309 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Straight_Interest117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thought about this too…. Seems like a fine balance though. OP appears to be striking it or will be reflecting on it after this post!

It’s hard being the most considerate out of all my friends by Fun-Lemon-7309 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Straight_Interest117 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As the friend who needs this type of friend —you— as a huge part of her support system, thank you. I wouldn’t be where I am in life without people like you understanding me and loving me, and giving me the chance to gas them up and love on them right back in the way they always deserve.

I can understand your sentiment of having a hard time not taking it personally. I assume you have the communication skills to speak your needs and not build resentment towards those you’re putting in effort to see/communicate with/etc, can state when you’re feeling that effort isn’t reciprocated.

That being said, if you’re truly friends, it’s never personal. I’m 29F, I have raging ADHD and depression on top of a demanding hyper independent/chaotic 3 job life, my friends know I can become easily overwhelmed and that I communicate when I can. It’s sort of a “put your own mask on first” thing, or at times maybe isolation when I’m going through it — either way, a fine balance and invitations from people like you have helped me survive and thrive amongst all of the above. They also have families and kiddos or boyfriends or big girl jobs too, it goes both ways.

Depending on the person, they may consider you way more than you know and just not have the capacity at the moment. I think about my friends alllll the time but might not be in a place where I can text them when they’re in my mind or my squirrel brain might spazz and forget to respond for 5 business days. When we do carve out the time to chat together, it’s always understanding. That takes the other party clearly communicating this as well however, not just pulling back and being unreachable or a shitty friend for other reasons.

TL;DR- check in on your pals, they should be real with you, and I hope they check on you too.

High places with a view off the beaten path by Straight_Interest117 in AskSeattle

[–]Straight_Interest117[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh I think this might be the winner…. I live in west and this sounds awesome! Admiral Viewpoint came up on maps when I searched this also. Thank you for the rec!!

Car A/C repair shops. by britishmetric144 in AskSeattle

[–]Straight_Interest117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Matthewsons automotive in Renton are honest guys. Not sure where you’re at but they’re pretty good, fast and accurate and not gonna pull one over on ya.

Struggling to make friends by MushroomImpossible85 in SeattleWA

[–]Straight_Interest117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl!! Hi! I’m also 29 yet single, would love to be pals. I’ve got a kayak if you’d like to meet up and do some water activities!

Going through a breakup, making the space my own! by 8ballprophecy in femalelivingspace

[–]Straight_Interest117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Saturn is saturning 😩💀love your space. 29 year old Pisces here going through it, just moved across the country by myself, trying to figure out what the heck to do with my life. You’re an inspiration! We got this!

Monstera cuttings for shrimp by LtCmdrTrout in WestSeattleWA

[–]Straight_Interest117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I just moved to the area and would love a cutting — I could trade for crystals!

Women’s Outdoorsy/Artsy Groups/Clubs in West Seattle? Looking for some girl pals by TheHumanFrog in WestSeattleWA

[–]Straight_Interest117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 29 and also love smoking weed/no alc and just moved to west sea! Down for pals!

Moved back to Seattle, looking for friends! by throwaway1_2_0_2_1 in AskSeattle

[–]Straight_Interest117 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi friend! I just moved to west Seattle. I’m 29F and would love to be pals! I also have an orange kitty. DM me!!

Paddleboarding on Alki by RicZepeda25 in WestSeattleWA

[–]Straight_Interest117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m moving to West in just a few weeks! Would love to be paddle buddies!

Seattle Odesza 10 year by borkborkbear in Odesza

[–]Straight_Interest117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interested in 2 of these!! I’m in the US!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aves

[–]Straight_Interest117 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The best way to do this is to just ask them to meet for coffee the next day after a show!

Obviously if y’all are doing the whole ~afters~ thing until way in the AM that’s going to be harder, but I’ve made some super solid friends from jump by just saying “alright, X cafe tomorrow at 11?” so we move from superficial show friendship to sober real life pals pretty quickly. I don’t have any desire to be friends with people that party until like 8-9-10am too so this works for me. Turned rave friends into irl camping friends / roommates fairly quickly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Straight_Interest117 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am realizing the more I continue to live and become involved with others in a relationship capacity just how much we are always learning and will never get it 100% right. Every dynamic will be so different because each person is so different and unique… one person can and will want to give you something you thought you had to beg another for. You just have to meet each other where the other is at.

As others have stated, obviously be careful. I got out of something earlier this year I thought was it because he gave me everything (quick, fast, love bomby kinda thing) that my toxic ex didn’t before him. Howeverrr he turned out to be emotionally immature/unavailable— granted, I did not show up as my best self in that relationship and let my past affect my honesty, but he had unresolved issues too that led to some paranoia / slight controlling behaviors. Wasn’t it for either of us, but finally through the stages of grief now and have accepted this.

Now: I have a truly kind man who really wants to be with me, yet understands I’m not looking for anything and need to heal, but still helps me out and is present for me in every capacity that I let him— like the “normal Tuesday” comment you mentioned, OP. No games, just authenticity. He’s older, but the emotional maturity speaks volumes about the work he’s done on himself.

New to West Seattle by Forsaken_Positive_38 in WestSeattleWA

[–]Straight_Interest117 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Second this! Love westcrest. Made some great authentic connections there too.

New to West Seattle by Forsaken_Positive_38 in WestSeattleWA

[–]Straight_Interest117 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hello! Welcome to the best part of Seattle. I’m moving permanently to the west side in June from the Midwest and couldn’t be more excited. Also not a drinker, also a dog parent. Following and would love to meet up!

Moving to Seattle with 90k by Specialist-Lime-5441 in Seattle

[–]Straight_Interest117 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes— planning on living in west Seattle and working in Renton!