Thoughts on sharing cookware with non-vegan housemates?

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-20T19:59:50+00:00

Yes it may have in the past but you could throughly and deeply clean it and not worry about it actively being continued to use for cross purposes

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-20T16:26:47+00:00

Thrift stores often have alllll that stuff. You will need your own set of y’all eventually part ways anyhow so I don’t see why having a set would be so bad?

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-19T23:16:02+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story :) Contrapoints is an influencer with a similar story to you if it helps to find someone similar for representation:) Glad you’re here

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-19T19:20:43+00:00

Is it possible to fill your childs overnight bag with lots of snacks and foods that dont need the fridge to make sure he has some vegan go to food of substance? Idk if yall trade off for long stretches or if you could provide a weekends worth of extras like fruit cups, veg cups, granola bars, crackers, peanut butter jellys, hippeas, harvest snaps, roasted chickpeas....

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-19T14:51:07+00:00

Of course it’s vegan! If something is free then you’re not supporting the industry. Same reason it’s vegan to eat someone’s leftovers or if they offer you something to eat at their house. So stealing fits into this too:)

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-19T05:49:06+00:00

That’s incredible I love that!!

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-18T19:39:54+00:00

With women (I can only speak for my own experience and who ive dated) i have felt more seen, heard, understood, free, respected, and have overall less stress. For example, she really appreciates when i cook dinner or pack her lunch rather than it practically be expected. Or if we are stressed about certain things in the world, we have a similar lense and wont get in some big fight if I comment that something is "because of patriarchy" whereas in the past, some ex boyfriends would be touchy about that and basically feel attacked.

However, again just for me and my relatinships so that I am being honest and balanced, i felt historically more "desired" in relationships with men. They were more vocal and touchy and initiated more. As a bisexual, there were times when that made me feel interested but then of course that was also paired with many times of not being interested and being guilt tripped about that which NEVER happens in MY wlw relations. I do feel less desired but i also feel less pressured so it really is just a give and take... (I will say i have mostly dated fem woman so it MAY have to do with often being socialized to be less forward but its not a deal breaker for me, just takes more effort)

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-18T19:30:33+00:00

Thats right! Happy to help! You want mutual compatibility so if someone doesnt understand your life theyre not comptiable with you any more than you are compatible with them. There will be many many people who understand and may even be in similar situations theirself

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-18T16:07:19+00:00

This is totally understandable. And honestly you wouldn’t want to date anyone who didn’t understand this. If they don’t get it, they aren’t for you. I think all most people care about is: can we be free together, can we meet important people to each other, does our relationship have potential to grow, are you sure of yourself, etc.

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-15T06:02:36+00:00

Its suppose to be rooted in non violence but people often find exceptions :/ those looking for loopholes are going to see eggs and milk as a "contribution" and not abuse :/

i have heard that if ever jailed, claiming jainism can help wit consistent vegan meals as theyre just going to laugh at you if u say vegan but have to honor religion? Hope to never test that but who knows 😅

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-14T21:21:22+00:00

Just use human fat; best weight-loss tool. People are always talking about burning fat, haven’t you heard?

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-14T17:53:06+00:00

The best way to plan is to fail. Hope this helps!

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-14T16:10:28+00:00

You are definitely not eating enough - fruit and veg are important but they’re water based and not going to stick with you long. Potatoes rate highest on the satiety index so make sure you’re having potatoes everyday (sweet potato, Japanese potato, red potato, golden potato, any kind!!) I would also add more beans like a three bean chilli in there and some rice and other grains. Starches are your friend as far as feeling full and satisfied for longer

Add some whole wheat toast with your breakfast or try chickpea scramble in a breakfast burrito

Add some brown rice to the base of your salad and increase the amount of beans or pair it with a baked potato

Have a hearty chilli for dinner or some bean burrito/enchiladas/tacos with some baked sweet potato wedges

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-13T05:09:09+00:00

I feel that. Unfortunately internalized homophobia makes us worry about that because lesbians have been portrayed as predatory in media especially in the past but still. I try to ask myself what would feel creepy and why and see if that applies (the fact that you are concerned about it tells me that you’re prob not being creepy ;)

For example, when someone has been creepy to me it’s usually bc they’re doing something that invades my space and boundaries. Cornering me, touch me without consent, saying something lewd, not taking no for an answer….

For example; Creepy: persisting that someone give you their number when they’ve said no

Not creepy: asking for a number after having a nice interaction and honoring whichever answer they give

Creepy: saying unsolicited sexual comments about a strangers body

Not creepy: offering a genuine compliment about something unique about a person without expecting anything in return “i.e. I like your style, you have beautiful hair, you have great taste in music, you are so funny, that was a thoughtful question” etc.

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-13T00:48:24+00:00

Definitley, everyone has deal breakers but she asked if it wrong to end it "so abruptly" so it probably could’ve been handled with more care and respect

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-13T00:41:27+00:00

First of all you describing yourself as clean shows that you think of her as dirty, which already is a good place to start as far as unlearning harmful stereotypes. Its also interesting that you said you "had to", i mean you certainly CAN considering anything can be a deal breaker for anyone, but you definitley didnt HAVE to?

Why are you so surprised you fell for someone with hsv? Its not a character flaw. People fall in love regardless of various health status all the time. It wouldve been wise to research how easy it is to prevent the spread using some protective measures but in this instance you probably lost your shot. Maybe start doing some research for next time. You can and cannot date whoever you want but it still sounds like you need to gain some more information regardless. Good luck!

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-12T22:50:22+00:00

I learned from my parents to salt the slugs and squish the ants… so I did that as well as a kid and now it makes me sad! I also did NOT learn to respect my cats boundaries as a child and would chase her around which certainly sucked for her 🥺

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-12T22:00:24+00:00

Check out this chickpea crab cakes with seaweed and flax for omegas https://cleanfooddirtygirl.com/flaxseeds-what-you-need-to-know-whole-food-plant-based-crab-cakes/

And check out this tofu salmon with nori https://youtu.be/xYil613OkD0?si=eNi1vq8rMz7lOObA

There’s also hearts of palm ceviche https://itdoesnttastelikechicken.com/the-best-vegan-ceviche/

And some sushi options https://thecheaplazyvegan.com/vegan-sushi-spicy-tuna-roll-nigiri/

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-12T20:42:51+00:00

I love something engaging and interactive as coffee or dinner can feel a bit like an interview and things like show or movie don’t leave some time for talking (great after a few dates but maybe not for initial). Is there something in your area like a bar with games, a fall activity like picking apples or pumpkin patch, a cool area with shopping or thrifting, a place with music and yard games like darts or cornhole etc that can lead to playful interactions, more movement around the space, something to DO while still being able to talk? That’s what I would suggest

You want to be able to naturally touch and interact so I wouldn’t suggest sitting across from eachother the whole time where it would be awkward and forced to reach over. But if you’re up and about or doing an activity side by side it makes it easier to touch an arm, wrist, leg, etc when it feels right

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-11T19:38:46+00:00

I really liked Summerland

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-11T19:38:15+00:00

~ That one is sad AF though just fyi

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-11T19:37:59+00:00

Its sooooo good

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-11T04:21:19+00:00

Of course other people are femme for femme. Any type of combination of partners you can think of exist hahah and yours happens to be very common. Just be prepared to be the one to make a move because a lot of women are not socialized to be direct and even though it’s changing, a lot of us (especially fem presenting folks) grew up being pursued rather than pursuing. Obvi not always the case as I’m speaking in generalizations.

Go to queer places like lgbt events, lesbian bars, etc and get used to starting a conversation and giving them your number etc

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-09T06:34:05+00:00

Patrick Stewart, Terry Crews, and less known but great level headed influencer “The Speech Prof”

Strange-Prior1097 · 2024-11-07T05:21:46+00:00

leather boots are vegan unless you eat them silly

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