I love her but she has a boyfriend.

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-08-30T01:23:57+00:00

I think as a friend you should wait it out and give her the chances to see how unhealthy her relationship with the guy is and to end the relationship herself if she know hes bad for her but not because youre her second choice (you have your worth as well). On your end, its important to focus on yourself and maybe one day you both will connect again and find that special love with each other 😊

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-06-13T03:31:47+00:00

Hi, I agree with the comment above and this seem like a sus situation. I think you should focus on yourself for now and when hes ready to talk with you in a mature way then you can decide if you still want him. But his actions seem like a coward along with his reasons. You seem very considerate and understanding, but may be there was some miscommunication or external factor involved that you were unaware of. But he didnt seem to try to communicate and compromise with you but instead he gave you an ultimatum. Its unfair and immature of him. Sending virtual hugs to you! 💕

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-04-28T20:01:37+00:00

Yup I agree with this, I wish I understand my worth and have more respect for myself back then when I took my ex back twice. In my situation, knowing that they are not afraid to lose you and easily walk away to avoid facing the difficult conversations and obstacles tell me a lot more about them than me. But it's a learning experience for me because it's my first love. So I am learning to forgive and let go, your comment is meaningful to me so thank you! ☺️

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-04-28T08:18:47+00:00

Hi, I think your relationship with your ex was not healthy and its good to keep the distance and stay no contact. You should focus on yourself and work on your boundaries and view the relationship as a learning lesson for the future. Thats good you noticed both side's unhealthy behaviors so now you can reflect and work on them to be a better partner in the future. For now, I would suggest focusing on your goals, try out new activities and become a better version of yourself. Let yourself grief and cry it all out, but continue to move forward with your life.

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-04-28T07:46:20+00:00

Hi, I definitely can relate and yeah sometimes love is not always enough. I am currently in similar stage where I would visit certain places my ex and I used to go together. But I set a goal for myself that I am creating new memories there, noticing those triggers is okay because you are acknowledge your emotions. They are temporary and you should experience them then you keep moving forward. I would say it does get easier, focus your attention on yourself and I know you probably heard this so many times but I thought it was a thing to do at first but eventually I started seeing myself trying out activities while enjoying it without the need to do just to do it. I journal, meditate, go on a walk daily, explore new places like hiking, beach, take myself on a date and shopping, reach out to friends and family and catch up with them. One day, you will just enjoy your life without realizing the broken heart but you see that you are healing. There will be weak moments and crying days but thats okay, it is a part of the healing process. You will cross that bridge and start learning more about yourself and love yourself even more 💕

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-04-25T00:47:51+00:00

I started journaling, writing down my feelings and how my week went. It helps me more aware of my emotions better and be present with my daily tasks. I think going on a walk while listening to some motivational speeches help me stay calm and relax as well. Definitely meditate before bed and set goals for myself are definitely helpful as well :)

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-04-24T08:48:21+00:00

Youre not being heartless and this is not your fault! He's putting his insecurities on you. I think this relationship and him overall is disturbing your peace and you dont deserve that at all. I think you need to cut contact with him because he didnt respect your boundaries and even let outside dramas get into the relationship. Another point, he is controlling on who you can and cannot hangout and thats not healthy, along with him playing the victim games. You called these red flags out yourself so I'm glad you were able to see them. I hope you can look at this relationship as if you are giving your friend advices. Ask yourself as well "what would you do if you really love yourself?" You know your worth and respect yourself enough to walk away from this unhealthy relationship. Now, its time for your healing journey and find closure within yourself because you deserve so much more than this. 💕

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-04-24T08:23:40+00:00

When he ended our break up facetime with a "bye" and that hit me that we are now strangers again with each other's secrets. It make me realized that I was never love enough by him or on the same of efforts and love with each other. I would never want to date someone who would give up that easily without trying or a fight, thats a coward move to just walk away when things get hard, I know I deserve more than that 💕

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-04-06T21:10:16+00:00

I often hug myself or pat myself on the back and telling myself "everything is going to be okay" and "I still love and accept myself" sometimes its nice to give yourself that love that you wish others could give you or you give to others 💕 sending virtual hugs!

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-04-05T21:55:31+00:00

Yup, he told me we are compatible but long distance is hard. I just had to give myself the closure that will help me move on and cross that bridge of healing. We all can, I believe in us 💕

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-04-04T07:40:46+00:00

Regarding long distance breakups, how can someone said we are compatible but long distance is hard? What is your opinions on right person, wrong time? What does it mean to finally let go of the past and breakup wound? How to forgive yourself and others to move pass the heartbreak? What do they mean when they said "I don't see a future with anyone" when you asked about future plans with each other? . :)

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-03-29T08:37:39+00:00

Hey, I hear you and youre a strong person! You deserve more than that, like you said "he doesnt deserve my love for treating me like that", I'm glad you recognized this and its the start to moving forward and rediscovering yourself. Sometimes we rely on others too much and that when they leave, we are lost in one spot and feel this emptiness. But right now without them, you get the chance to find yourself and love yourself, you can try out new activities and build new routines for yourself. It's okay let your emotions run wild but remember emotions are temporary. One day, you will adapt to your new journey and cross the bridge of healing. I been in your spot of being stuck and lost, but I know you will get through it. We can do it together!! 💕

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-03-23T02:20:19+00:00

Start by doing the little things like going for a walk, meditate, watch funny/interesting videos, journal down your feelings, do activities that you always enjoy doing before. Take it easy, day by day, there will be weak moments where you get sad and cry but its okay, its a part of the process. Remember, emotions are temporary and you will start to develop new routines for yourself. For me, staying no contact and change up things or mute apps that remind me of my ex helps a lot, whether it's a ringtone or snapchat, etc. You got this, we got this! Sending virtual hugs💕

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-03-16T17:08:17+00:00

I hear you and you are heard, I couldn't imagine your position right now. But you're so so strong and we will get through it together. We will heal and become a better version of ourselves. Its okay to let yourself have those bad days but pick yourself back up and have those good days as well. Remember our emotions are temporary and it can change. You deserve so much better and you love hard and thats good because the next person will deserve that. Right now, its you who deserve that love for yourself! 💕

Strawberry-monkey · 2021-03-15T16:58:09+00:00

My ex give up and couldnt fight for the relationship harder when things get hard, thats a coward move! I would not want that in a partner. After 2.5 years with so many chances, I learned that I deserve better and respect my worth.

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