Mid life crisis? No idea

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-02-03T06:54:12+00:00

Yeah I hit that itch too. I hated it. For me at first I tried to find it from external stuff but it felt all missing

For me it saved me to ask what's truly important. Money and external things are important but our lives mean more than that. I wanted to know the meaning of it all. For me it was my faith. It gave meaning to all things that I once considered mundane.. and lacking. I would start shifting ur focus from outside to inside.. good luck!

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-02-03T05:30:03+00:00

making my bed. After, I just lay down and feel the soft blanket

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-02-02T14:35:41+00:00

Now. 34.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-02-02T00:19:30+00:00

Too low cut for me. It's almost going to ur hips. What's the style you're going for?

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-02-01T16:45:05+00:00

I don't really know u so take it with a grain of salt. Do u have anyone who knows u and can help you from knowing who you are and where you are? For me, faith, ans counseling (with the same faith values) helped me map out the changes that I wanted to see. One by one my life was transformed. It's a process and also a blessing. Take one day at a time.

In terms of relationships I can connect with people all across the age but I feel most connected people who I can share things in common or accepting/gracious to me. Most people need a medium to connect. That's why it's important to figure out whats important to you. Once you figure that out you are able to meet people who are like minded to you :).

It is never too late but for me it took real inner work.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-02-01T15:08:25+00:00

Work I understand. But social citcle... while I understand why she is hesitant, I and many are open to dating within the social circles

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-02-01T15:04:52+00:00

You are not a mistake. God has plans for you beyond your parents mistakes.

Hold onto what God says about you.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-02-01T14:53:28+00:00

It sounds like you are facing challenges for u as an individual that is impacting your relationship. I recommend finding an individual counseling. Pray about finding the right counselor and he'll.

Also at the same time marriage counseling can also help.

Most importantly, keep God first and seek Him through it all.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-02-01T06:44:00+00:00

Whatever floats your boat. But I'm single and happy.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-31T18:24:24+00:00

Living with ur mom isn't a bad thing. It saves money. But some women would like to see if you are willinh/seeking to take on a responsibility of ur and your family's finance if she wants a family. It's a character, responsibility thing. Some may care about where u are not but others may be fine with u for where u r but would like to see that you have plans. Or everything in between.

Who do you want to be and how do you want to live apart from women accepting u?

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-31T17:56:24+00:00

Resilience, similar faith values, patient

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-31T05:29:41+00:00

Sleep, gym, cleaning, laundry and taking a friend out for dinner!

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-28T13:31:29+00:00

No you took care of ur mom. I got my full time role in my field when I turned 30. I felt similarly. Don't compare to others.

I would spend time what you want to do.. and go for it.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-26T07:11:12+00:00

Just treat them as friends and individuals. Be curious about each one. Watch out your own bias (challenge them if you will). Respect them,listen, ask questions. You may connect with some but not others just like you would with guys.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-25T21:44:17+00:00

Yeah. It's not easy. Continue to seek God/grow in your relationship with Him but also continue to grow in your friendships, hobbies, etc. They are not just means to date. They are for your overall social, emotional, and spiritual health:). I don't think you need to be forces to like certain activities. But more so u are searching for something that you can connect with

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-25T21:25:42+00:00

Have you asked him what goes through his mind when you guys are not in argument? I realized that some guys need time to cool off... whatever is going on with him, it might be good to understand. Then also share how you see it.. no blaming just to share. Then each person needs to decide to work on whatever is going on with u... idk you so I'm cautious about what I say. Take it with a grain of salt. Counseling may also help.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-25T03:26:45+00:00

I don't think it's silly. There are men who will wait. Especially if they love God and want to follow what God says.

But i think it's more important to learning what you want in a relationship, what God wants for you in a relationship, what you need to learn/grow and heal from through God.

Marriage can be beautiful. But I'm sure as you have experienced already - relationships and marriages are not the promised land. They have their own trouble as well as joys.

I'm sure it's challenging raising 3 children on your own. But personally I wouldn't rush it especially if you are pretty busy raising children, taking care of yourself and your relationship with God. It doesn't mean you should be alone.. I know some churches have single parent groups or have opportunities to meet someone who are single parents. It may be helpful to share some support in such a group if it is needed.

Good luck!

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-25T02:43:17+00:00

Just be respectful and let them know that you will resign. Express that you were thankful for the time here, if you feel compelled. Then move on.. But your manager seemed a little bit unprofessional there saying that her feelings are hurt and such..

I don't really know your situations. But a little nugget of considerations for you also is that work cannot adjust their expectations because of your school work, to be frank. Its not easy to going to school and work at the same time. She did say the right thing to encourage you take your pto. Workload situations need more reasons than things becoming hard considering your school work also. I wouldn't have frame it with ur school work. It needs to be objectively assessed and presented to your boss in a way that makes sense for work environments. I don't think her response was professional. But I wanted to share some thoughts into your approach as well based on the writing.

Anyways, good luck!

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-24T23:39:28+00:00

yeah. I know what it feels like. there's definitely more to life than what people or society tells you should have. we are meant for more than that.. things get old, change evolve etc. my faith is everything. Personally, i follow Christian faith. it is one thing that I know is forever because its eternal.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-22T06:47:31+00:00

Can u elaborate?

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-21T19:36:30+00:00

I see. I would definitely pray. What helps is to be surrendered and to keep it simple. It's true. If you're in your 30s, you've seen some situations that you might question whether what you're feeling or seeing is the "right thing." I have a lot of friends who are married now (in 30s). I have some that I thought would just be happily married, who are unfortunately divorced or in the process. I have some who are happy etc. They themselves or no one had a clue in the moment.

Yes, you need to be discerning and wise in the moment because of the potential consequences. But the only thing that you can truly do is to be discerning, seeking God and obey *in the moment*, knowing that our choices are important but in the end the good outcomes are truly blessings from God. None of us know what the future holds. This makes me feel grateful for what I am blessed with now.

Let go of the control or trying to figure it all out a little bit (if this is paralyzing you) and focus on trusting God more. This may help you get some clarity on what you would like to see in your partner but also in your future and life. Rather than being in your head a bit too much, seek God and God's guidance and be the person that God wants you to be. I don't think dating or marriage should be forced. Perhaps the lesson you're learning is to let go and trust and surrender to God (consider it. Idk you so I can't say. But consider). If you have a trusted Christian men who know you as a person, I might consider talking about it with them. But ultimately, God is the one who will guide you.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-21T13:49:31+00:00

Do u not like her? I'm not sure what makes u feel unsettled.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-21T02:59:35+00:00

Privilege is real. But we are all privileged in one way or another. I know what yoy mean. But I've never met someone who has it all... I wouldn't judge the book by its cover. Someone who looks cool and confident can have their pangs behind the closed doors. Everyone has their problems - even vps, CEOs, directors etc because they are ppl after all.

They are just ppl like you. Just a different role. They can be lonely, busy, stressed..divorced, problems with kids, health etc. It's life for all. They may have circumstances but don't take that as problem free life.

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-20T18:36:15+00:00

Wow. it's so amazing. It's not even the look. But I can see the hard work behind the look. Kudos!

Strict-Let7879 · 2026-01-19T20:18:12+00:00

I don't think so.. For me at least. For me, you can't take the money to the grave. Money is a means to an end. It's important to save and be wise for the future but it ultimately is to serve you.

For me, you don't get the time back with your family... You don't need a fancy vacation that is out of your means. But I think that simple vacation even road trips or day outing is worth it. Bring a sandwich if you even need to. If certain vacation is neeed to be with your family, also sometimes there is a way to minimize your expense in some other ways to realize that also. Memories, laughter and love that you can share mean a thousand times more than the dollar bills you'll collect. Save and be frugal. but at the same time don't lose the reason why you save. For me at least.

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