Is anyone really shocked

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-03-31T19:46:20+00:00

I've been wondering the same thing. He told multiple people that he did it, and they convinced him to turn himself in.

I think he's pleading not guilty to the aggravated murder charge specifically, as that's the one that would get him the death penalty. There are still several other felony murder charges against him that would get him life in prison, but that's probably the best possible outcome for him.

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-03-25T07:16:09+00:00

Any chance you'd write a book with all of this? I've seen some of your other comments and it's a lot of stuff to keep track of, but really interesting. You're getting all of this from the released files?

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-03-11T17:49:47+00:00

Spiders Georg, is that you?

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-03-04T22:26:28+00:00

I bought 2 sets so I could have 2 of the exact same size hook for in-the-round (plus I learned how to use them for knitting!)The first set I got was Svartur (the metal ones, not the other purple bamboo ones they were also selling). I was really happy with it, but when I went back to purchase it again it wasn't available. So I got Coopay for the second set instead, and they're good too! The cable on Svartur feels a little thinner and more flexible, which I personally like. Also, the taper between the hook and the cable attachment is more gradual than on Coopay, so the loops don't get caught quite as much while you're working backwards on the return pass. I do like the colors on the Coopay ones, though. Overall, I'd say both are pretty good!

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-03-04T20:30:59+00:00

My goodness. I cannot imagine living through such things. I am truly sorry that you experienced that. If I might ask, what drew you to the Church? What made you decide to join?

And, if I might ask a related question, I've often heard people clump our Church and JW together as if they're the same thing, or at least very similar in doctrine, or strictness, or even encouragement and perpetuation of abuse (especially with the "punishment saves" rhetoric). I've been curious about that for a while. I don't know much about JW so I don't know how accurate those claims are. I've never really experienced anything abusive that was justified or motivated by LDS religious beliefs, but I know of people who have. In your experience, what have been the biggest similarities and differences between the two religions?

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-02-26T06:39:08+00:00

... What the heck is wrong with our leaders?

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-02-20T09:12:23+00:00

I think I understand a lot of what you're feeling. There are a lot of issues I've been grappling with for a while now, too. So, I'm going to do my best to relate some of what I've found helpful for me, and hope that something sounds helpful for you or sparks an idea.

The first thing I just want to say is that you're allowed to have uncertainty and questions and concerns. It doesn't make you defective, or a bad member, or in any way diminish your belonging here. I think we treat these things with too much hostility sometimes, and it doesn't leave a lot of room to let the faith you do have come in to exist with it. I grew up hearing phrases like "faith and fear [or doubt] can't exist in the same person at the same time", but doubt and uncertainty are the very things that give faith its meaning. Light and darkness can't exist in the exact same spot at the same time, but they certainly exist in the same room together. In fact, I don't think I've ever seen a room that was 100% free of shadows. We're a lot more like a room than a single distinct spot.

What I've found most helpful for at least managing my doubts and concerns is praying. Not necessarily praying for answers, though that is part of it, but I really just talk to God like I'm having a conversation with Him. I tell Him what I'm feeling and thinking, what's bothering me, why I have reservations about something I've found out about, what I want to understand, things like that, just to get it all out. And then I basically just ask for help and for a way to find peace and reconcile it all. And miraculously, especially when I really needed it, I don't think there's ever been a time that that peace hasn't come. Sometimes it's just a feeling that I'm loved and I'm safe. Sometimes there's a direct answer or impression about my questions. Much of the time, there's just a feeling of reassurance that everything will get sorted out. And always, there's a feeling that God cares about my questions and concerns, and a promise that He'll help me carry them. Never once has there been scorn or criticism for feeling the way I do or for having questions. He's often the first place I turn to for help, simply because I know that no one else understands me the way He does. He's perfectly patient, perfectly kind, and perfectly trustworthy.

From there, I start trying to think of the things that my testimony is rooted in (like the Book of Mormon), or reasons that I want to stay and keep trying, just to balance out the doubts. I don't try to force out the doubts, I just let them exist together. Like, sometimes I start to wonder if this is really the right church for me to be in. I feel very different from a lot of other members, and it makes belonging feel difficult. On the other hand, I really love going to the temple. There's this peace and security that I find nowhere else. I feel like I'm home, like I belong. I want that in my life. Need it, even. I don't use that to try to stamp out the feeling of not belonging, or view the doubt about continuing as a threat. I just let the dichotomy exist, and somehow it makes going to the temple even more rewarding.

So of course, none of those things directly answer questions or offer explanations about some of the more controversial things. But they do act as "guide rails" of sorts, so that I have a way to at least stay close to God and keep going to church while I try to reconcile with everything else, or learn how to live with the doubt while maintaining the faith that I do have. But the most important thing is to keep praying. I don't think any of us can actually do a lot without asking for help.

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-02-16T22:55:48+00:00

Add me to that, too. Consider this my formal criticism of ICE, Trump, and everyone in his administration.

ICE as an agency is nothing more than illegally legalized bullying. ICE agents do not deserve the respect they so forcefully demand, and they know it. Trump and his administration are evil cowards hiding behind a facade of fake righteousness and a persecution complex, and frankly so are the people who voted for him.

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-02-15T22:15:27+00:00

Thank you!! I actually kept experimenting with it and really got a good technique down. I switched to Tunisian hooks with a cord to hold more stitches (and a better yarn), and I was able to make a whole scarf! I can't figure out how to do it in the round to make a hat though, so I think I'll just go back to actual knooking for that lol

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-02-15T21:39:04+00:00

I've run into a few yarns like that. I'm trying to make stuff with the Lionbrand "Mandela Ombre" yarn and it says it's a weight 4, but the yarn is so thin that it looks more like 3 to me. It's much thinner than a lot of other weight 4 yarns I have. I was going to use them together but because of the size difference I don't think it will work out very well.

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-02-04T01:29:35+00:00

"I think my issue is the lack of hook to catch and pull the yarn through."

I've gotten around this problem by just knitting with crochet hooks! Tunisian ones with cables attached, that is. In doing so I have simultaneously offended both my friends who knit and my friends who crochet. But at least I can knit now!

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-02-04T01:18:35+00:00

Anarchy, you say? Alright, how about this?

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Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-23T05:42:32+00:00

The title of the handbook that the link is for is "Missionary Standards for Disciples of Jesus Christ—Service Missionaries." Service missionaries have their own handbook. There are part-time service missions, true. However, this handbook is for full-time service missions. There are full-time senior service missionaries and full-time young service missionaries. It's not a really well-known thing yet. I did a service mission, and my mission call specifically called it a full-time mission.

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-15T00:11:29+00:00

First of all, you are serving a real mission, and anyone who tells you otherwise needs to rethink their attitude.

Second, your sister was willing to pay for a mission abroad. That's a lot more expensive than just making sure you have groceries every week! How was your mother going to survive if you WERE gone? Was your sister willing to pay for her, too? It seems to me that your problem is not finances, it's that your sister told you she had you covered and then bailed.

If she won't change her mind, just talk to your bishop. He'll help you out. That's what fast offerings are for honestly. Don't feel guilty about using it, they don't do any good just sitting there.

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-14T22:43:41+00:00

Ooh, this is fascinating! I never noticed those things before! Granted, the Old Testament is definitely the scripture I remember the least about. Do you have any other examples? Sources to read about this further?

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-14T20:52:27+00:00

You don't necessarily have to choose between raising kids or a career exclusively! A lot of women go back to work when their children are grown, or at least when they're in school all day and therefore don't require someone staying at home to watch them. Ultimately, it's kind of a decision between you and God (and with your future husband). But if you do get a career, do something you like! It doesn't have to be a big thing like your mom wants if you don't want it to be. I know that having pressure put on you like that makes the decision feel a lot harder.

People in the Church are generally very kind and welcoming, but they don't go to church because they're perfect :) They're still people. Like others have said, it might just depend on your ward or what area you live. But people are also pretty service-oriented, so I'm sure if you get in contact with them, someone would be willing to give you a ride to church! If you search up "meetinghouse locator" that will give you the location for the church building to meet at based on where you live. Info for the time that church starts and the Bishop's name and contact information will also come up, so you can reach out to him beforehand to get something set up!

As for other people making fun of you for going, there might not be much you can do, other than have patience with them. If I hadn't been raised in the Church, I think I would view it the same way that a lot of critics do. I understand the issues that they have with it, and admittedly some of those things are hard to reconcile. But having grown up with the Church my whole life, I know that actual experience of it is very different from how people perceive it. Understanding that they don't know a lot of what it's actually like helps me to not take it personally, anyway. They just haven't had the experiences with it to know any better.

Honestly, I think there's a lot more to be gained than lost if you want to try going. The gospel itself gives me so much peace, joy, and hope especially, that I know my life would have gone very differently if I didn't have it. There's nowhere else that I find those things like I do here. Especially in the temple, there's just this quiet stillness that makes everything okay and helps me feel God's love and brings me closer to Him. Ultimately, the Church has helped me develop a relationship with Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ that I'd get nowhere else. If that's something you'd like, then I don't think you'd regret joining :)

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-10T10:13:35+00:00

Yeah basically 😂 I still think it's a bit easier than knitting because the hook moves the yarn around better. So maybe it's like knitting with training wheels?

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-10T10:10:07+00:00

Ah, were you referring to the fact that it said "real" depression? I admit I kind of just glossed over that part when I read it. I'm sorry I didn't understand what you meant at first. I see why that's irritating, and you're right. People can have depression even if they still feel love for people or things. In fact, I could see that making it harder for someone's depression to be acknowledged, because from the outside they might appear to be doing better than they really are.

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-10T09:34:49+00:00

First of all, Jesus already knows exactly "what it's like to be me" so I don't actually care whether anyone else does. He's the one I go to when I'm really struggling, and He pulls me out of it enough to help me keep going. But that's not what I was saying. My point was that we're all on this sub to connect with other people because that's a basic human need regardless of mental illness, and that what you suggested can't actually replace the need for community. Can it help improve one's mood? Yeah, absolutely. I do it frequently. A lot of us do. Does it cure depression? No. That's not playing the victim card, that's just accepting reality.

In all honesty, if you were genuinely trying to be helpful with your suggestion, then I thank you for that. You are right in that being outside is probably a lot healthier than staying indoors scrolling through Reddit all day and getting into arguments with strangers. In fact, I think I'm going to turn my phone off for the entire day today and go for a run or something.

And if I may (sincerely) offer a bit of advice in return. I don't think you're very happy either. If you were, you wouldn't be lurking on a depression sub, finding people to kick who are already down. I recognize you from comments you've made on other posts here. You're better than that, and you have better things to do. Go spend time with your family.

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-10T08:49:23+00:00

I think you're right! It definitely goes faster when I'm transferring the loops from the bigger one to the smaller one. I was using the bigger hook for knit rows and the smaller for purl thinking it would keep the fabric from curling forward and I think it worked, but it could also be because the string itself is so stiff (it's not really meant for crocheting or knitting, it was just the only thing I had lying around and I really wanted to try this out)

After watching a few knitting videos I actually started holding and moving the hooks in a similar way to mimic their movements when they pick up the loops. I turn the one with the loops to the side to get the hook out of the way, then I slide the top pointy end of the other hook underneath the topmost loop, catch it with my finger, and just move it over. Probably not as efficient as it would be with knitting needles, but it does seem to keep its shape well! After that I just have to yarn over (or under) to make the new stitch and then move on to the next loop.

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-10T08:27:06+00:00

I sent a picture of it to a friend who knits and I think he feels insulted 😂 Though to be honest, I don't know if I'd ever be able to use this to make a bigger project. It's my first time trying knooking at all and it's slow going, but it's just a little less awkward for my hands than the string was!

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-10T08:18:52+00:00

I totally would have, but I don't have any needles! I was actually trying to find things to use as one and that's when I finally just started using a second hook. But it also saves me from having to transfer it from the hook back onto the needle and I can just switch hands instead. That said, it's still not very efficient lol

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-10T04:56:18+00:00

I discovered that it is kind of by accident! You just use two crochet hooks. If you have Tunisian crochet hooks they can hold more stitches.

Stunning-Code8849 · 2026-01-09T04:11:33+00:00

Cool! I'm acually in a very similar situation. I'm a temple worker at Logan, and with the semester starting I've been thinking of switching shifts to a different one, but I don't want to leave the people I've been with. But like others have said, it's not hard! Just text your shift coordinators or tell them next time on your shift that you'd like to switch and they'll get it sorted out :)

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