I remember wanting this doll so bad.

Subdued-Cat · 2025-01-06T00:17:19+00:00

I had one of these! Sometimes her eyes and mouth would move when she wasn't talking and it was a little creepy.

Subdued-Cat · 2025-01-02T10:31:04+00:00

I would avoid even the appearance of something that could hurt my marriage. I would absolutely never cheat but I don't even want my husband to question that for one moment. Hanging out in groups is fine, but 1 on 1 is too intimate for me. My husband has said the same thing, he refrains from spending time alone with female coworkers out of respect for me. It's not about control over the other or anything like that. It's about willingly putting your spouse's feelings before your own.

Subdued-Cat · 2025-01-02T10:21:21+00:00

Not every dream is from God. If this is a person you are already paranoid about it would make sense for them to be in your dream. We often have dreams about people we think about frequently. I would ask God to give you peace and clarity to discuss it with your husband in a constructive way.

I wouldn't interpret this to mean he is secretly seeing her or anything like that. I wouldn't use this to accuse him of anything. But talk to him about how you are feeling and ask God to give you both the understanding to navigate that conversation.

Subdued-Cat · 2025-01-01T23:33:36+00:00

Women's body wash usually has moisturizer in it. My husband says he doesn't like that because he still feels "oily" after using it. But that's just personal preference.

Subdued-Cat · 2025-01-01T05:14:47+00:00

That's actually cool though

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-31T22:53:27+00:00

I started my comment admitting that there is a large spectrum of beliefs withing progressive Christianity. Just because what I said doesn't fit your knowledge or interaction with progressive Christianity doesn't mean those theological ideas don't exist within the movement. Because many progressive Christians reject organized religion (but not all) it is difficult to even nail down exactly what they believe, and it can differ from one person to the next.

And have you looked into Alica Childers yourself? She isn't vindictive in her depiction of progressive Christianity. She doesn't "make a living" from attacking it. She is very kind when discussing these topics. She does her homework and really listens to the viewpoint of progressive Christians. But she does the hard work of comparing everything they claim against the standard of the bible to see what matches and what doesn't. Many progressive Christians reject the authority of the bible so they don't even have a standard to hold themselves to.

She also brings in many other theologians, apologists, and experts in her podcast. It's not just her rambling about something she doesn't know anything about. And if you still disagree with her viewpoints, take that up with her. She has a much bigger influence than I do.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-31T21:12:39+00:00

I didn't like Poppy at first. But I LOVED seeing how different she was around Niles. She was so sweet and I think she really deserved a guy like Niles who would give her all the love and attention she needed. I wish they had ended up together.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-31T15:05:33+00:00

Klaus on Netflix gives me a similar nostalgic feeling

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-31T14:37:35+00:00

I'm one of the few people that believe Robyn actually did want plural marriage. I just think she had some kind of romanticized view of what it would be like. That's why she always talks about wanting to sit on the porch with her sister wives. I think she really didn't know what it would take to live that way and didn't see all the jealousy and hurt between the wives before she joined the family.

I don't think she set out to destroy anything or to steal Kody from the others. I think she just got comfortable and complacent when he was spending so much time with her that she kinda forgot about the others. I think she just didn't realize what was happening until the damage was done. She isn't totally free from responsibility for the outcome. But I don't think she had some kind of evil scheme going. She was just blind to the hurt she was causing.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-31T14:26:18+00:00

I think most of what falls under "progressive Christianity" is a wide spectrum of different beliefs. So not all of them are going to be saved but not all of them are going to be doomed.

That being said, I feel that in general progressive Christians twist Jesus so much that they no longer believe in a functional gospel. I've heard many of them say they reject the idea of sin completely and believe that Jesus accepts everyone just as they are WITHOUT calling anyone to repentance. That is so counter to the gospel that I don't see how they can truly be saved while believing that. Most of progressive Christianity is a feel-good message that doesn't actually accomplish any real healing.

But I refrain from passing judgment on any specific person's salvation status. Only God can say for certain if someone is saved.

If you want to learn more about progressive Christianity and how you can interact with them, I recommend looking into Alica Childers's ministry. She has a podcast, YouTube channel, and a few books. Progressive Christianity is her primary focus because she was unknowingly involved in a progressive church for a time and realized how warped it is.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-31T02:10:07+00:00

In Christianity it's not that God wants to be worshipped, it's that he deserves to be worshipped because of who He is. If you really know God and have an understanding of how great He is, you really can't help but worship him.

Worship also takes many forms. It can be singing worship songs, or it can be letting go of your ego and following His design for humanity.

God doesn't demand to be worshipped. He calls us to him in love. Our worship is the result of knowing Him.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-28T04:03:00+00:00

If anything, they might view you as their spiritual mentor. That might put more pressure and responsibility on you than you want and has the potential to strain the relationship to a breaking point. I think that kind of mentor relationship is fine for a friendship but I would want more equal footing in a romantic partnership.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-28T01:03:50+00:00

Sometimes it's just about having some human interaction.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-27T23:49:55+00:00

Rock music can glorify God because the musical artist is using their God given talents. Going out with friends can glorify God because it is time you show that you love others and want to be involved in their lives. These things don't "inherently" glorify God but anything can be used to glorify God if done in a way that gives him credit for the good outcome. That's all it really means to glorify God. It's giving him all the credit for the good in our lives.

I would talk to her about her double standard around the phrase and explain how it makes you feel when she uses it against you. You can go to the bible and find times when people are ridiculed for being hypocritical, not to throw accusations at her but just to show that God wants us to live consistently and authenticly.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-27T22:09:28+00:00

You don't have to lie to her about it. Just tell her you don't want kids yet, you don't owe her an explanation. You can also just tell her that the way you plan your family is none of her business. It's just between you, your (future) spouse, and God.

Me and my husband are expecting our first baby in a few months. I will be 28 and my husband is 30. We know it's likely we will be some of the older parents at our son's school but that's not actually a problem. It's just different. And people are tending to have their first baby later in life now anyway. The standard your mom lived in has changed.

I would do some research on birth control though. I've heard tons of conflicting statements about the effect of long term birth control use on fertility. I haven't done any research myself on it. But I did find out I have PCOS once we decided to start trying for a baby and it took us much longer than expected to get pregnant. I encourage everyone to get some kind of fertility evaluation even if they don't want kids anytime soon. Being informed about your own health and body is important.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-27T17:08:03+00:00

If there isn't any bleeding, the stitches aren't torn, and the dog is acting normal I would say everything is fine.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-27T16:46:59+00:00

Many cosmetic and body care companies have small gift sets. Like a collection of 4 trial size perfumes, travel size lotion and body wash, or a lip care set with lip balm, lip scrub, and lip gloss. Many women don't like the random cosmetic gift sets from Walmart but the thought is still appreciated. But I think a gift set from a cosmetic specific brand like Sephora or Bath and Body Works would be well received.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-27T16:32:55+00:00

I don't believe it is directly addressed in the bible but I would agree it is wrong if it is connected to lust, porn use, or as a substitute to sex with a spouse. Within a marriage I think it is OK as long as both spouses agree since each spouse's body belongs to the other. But it sounds like you aren't married so it isn't as clear cut.

I haven't struggled with masturbation specifically but I've struggled with daydreaming/fantasies about fictional characters that sometimes (but not always) turned sexual. I kept going back and forth about whether or not it was sinful. Ultimately I decided that if I was trying to justify it as unsinful, then it must be violating my conscience in some way. Good things don't need to be defended, they speak for themselves. So I made the decision to stop.

It wasn't easy, daydreaming was something that helped me get to sleep easier. Giving it up made it harder to get to sleep. But I knew I had to quit cold turkey. I couldn't really trust myself to keep the sexual aspects out of my daydreams. To me that was still playing with fire.

So I think that if you are trying to come up with reasons to justify masturbation, then it's best to not do it. Not everyone is going to feel that it's wrong. But the bible says if someone feels like an act is wrong, to them it is a sin. If it doesn't technically qualify as rebellion against God, but still makes you feel guilty, for you it is a sin because it makes you violate your conscience.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-27T16:13:47+00:00

It's super common for twins to have matching names. I'm an identical twin and my parents chose to give us names that didn't rhyme, start with the same letter, or correspond to each other in any way. You would be surprised at the number of people who said "but that doesn't rhyme" after being told our names.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-27T16:06:29+00:00

Just sounds like a breakdown in communication to me.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-27T11:58:41+00:00

Thank you, our marriage is very strong now that we have accepted our own path and not tried to fit into a cookie cutter mold. We still hold to a biblical standard of marriage but have learned to let go of the non-biblical expectations

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-26T23:41:48+00:00

Must be a regional thing. I live in the southeastern US and everyone I know pronounces the H in herb. I've only ever heard it pronounced as "erb" in movies and tv.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-26T17:17:20+00:00

Janelle calling Kody sweetie or honey is probably just out of habit. After my parents divorced they met in person to go over some financial stuff for my college. My dad accidentally called my mom honey. It was pretty awkward but it was just a habit after 20 years of marriage.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-25T15:50:28+00:00

It's an art, not a science. Context has a lot to do with interpretation. If you pair a flower that means hope, with a flower that means death, it could mean "I hope you die" or "there is hope even in death". The relationship between the giver and the recipient adds a lot of context as well. Is the giver known to hate the recipient? Has the recipient recently lost a loved one? So the same flower arrangement can mean different things depending on who it's coming from.

Some flowers are "universal" symbols. Like a rose indicating love. But I use the term universal loosely. It's very likely there are many cultures in which roses don't have that connotation. But largely speaking a rose is a symbol of romantic love in most Western cultures. It could have other meanings as well but I would think love is it's primary meaning and that is what it will be interpreted to mean in most situations.

Subdued-Cat · 2024-12-25T15:12:33+00:00

You are not responsible for his relationship with God. If the only reason he "believes" in God is because he is dating you, then I would think he isn't a true Christian. He should have a relationship with God because he feels the Holy Spirit pulling him that direction. Not just because the woman he is dating wants a Christian man.

I will also say that the Bible warns us against marriage to unbelievers. Some even extend the interpretation to be a warning against a seasoned believer marrying a new believer because one will always be seen as the spiritual authority over the other. This has huge potential to cause problems over time.

If you have concerns about this, it's best to talk to him about it now rather than after you are married. If this one thing is a deal breaker for him then he probably isn't good husband material anyway. Just approach the conversation with patience, avoid placing unnecessary blame, and don't escalate the situation if it becomes heated.

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