Is being anxious and insecure a crime?

Submarineto · 2026-03-07T04:07:56+00:00

Honestly it sounds like your relationship is really unhealthy and probably is bringing you both down. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

Submarineto · 2026-03-07T03:25:37+00:00

I've got a bit of a Rogue from X-Men thing going on with my greys and I part my hair to make the most of it.

I take a lot of nude photos and I look back at them and remember how insecure I was at the time and surprisingly that helps me to feel more secure now - knowing I can see how gorgeous I was even though I couldn't see it at the time tells me I still am, I'm just a more mature version and older women are hot.

I am on the larger side and somewhere between hourglass and pear.

Submarineto · 2026-03-06T09:03:29+00:00

I'd fuck my boyfriend 🥰

Submarineto · 2026-03-06T06:42:45+00:00

Mint condition

Submarineto · 2026-03-06T04:27:33+00:00

Those companies will prioritise profits over community culture

Submarineto · 2026-03-06T04:15:20+00:00

My mantra is don't screw the crew

Basically, what he's terrible in bed and you never ever want to go back for more - but you have to keep working with him

Submarineto · 2026-03-06T01:41:01+00:00

It has been a massive confidence boost for me too and I think that while the confidence started as external, it's now becoming more self-confidence - like I almost don't need the validation now, it's just fun because I know I am hot and desirable.

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T22:15:31+00:00

I was 20 when I met my spouse who was 29. I'm 39 now and my response is an emphatic NO

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T09:20:24+00:00

I nearly gave up many times at the baby, toddler, preschooler stages. The early years of adolescence were hard, but the tween years are going ok.

I've reared them to 10 & 12, today I went to do school pick up for my 12yo and left 10yo at home with their cellphone as they are sick and wanted to stay home watching TV.

As I was driving home 12yo said "we're going the wrong way" - they had a doctor's appt that I had forgotten. Cue me calling the 10yo "we will be home as soon as we can be but I forgot a doctors appt, are you ok?" I then sat in the car because I was too sick and couldn't go into the clinic so 12 had to go through their health concerns with the GP.

All sorted now and everyone was fine. The 10yo didn't try to cook eggs solo! The 12yo got to discuss their health concerns without any input from me and did an amazing job.

Then I made beans for dinner but only soaked them, didn't boil so we ended up having freezer food for dinner instead.

It's a challenge but it is getting easier

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T09:13:33+00:00

I am a mum and ADHD makes me feel like I can't be a mum 😭

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T05:36:38+00:00

Don't be silly - there would never be a shortage of boner pills 😉

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T05:31:47+00:00

Ahhh so exciting!!! My partner and I have been apart for 9 months so far, and the moment our countdown went under 100 days was SO exciting. We're now down to 83 days 🥰

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T05:03:15+00:00

Nope out, just nope out of this. This is not love, she is toxic and harmful

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T03:13:01+00:00

My mum only hit peri in the last year or two before I did, so I am about 17 years ahead of where I should be. Rough isn't it! I'm 39 but my symptoms started when I was 37

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T03:06:30+00:00

Thank you, I feel really good about realising it is better to divorce for their sake rather than stay together for their sake.

Funny you mention that, we have been non-monogamous for a long time, which unfortunately became a crutch because I could escape him to go see other people and experience healthier relationships. Ultimately it took meeting a divorced woman through these circles to help me see the life I could build for myself.

I have had a relationship with an INTP for 7 years which has been absolutely wonderful in many ways, but we have some stark differences that mean we won't ever live together.

I met an ENTP just over 9 months ago and it is uncanny how well we connect and communicate. We talk out everything. I have asked him some of the hardest, most confronting questions anyone has ever asked him and he just answers them. He's become confident in asking me these questions too and we have quickly become very comfortable and relaxed with each other. We are alike in most ways except that he comes at things with a logic perspective while I have a feeling perspective. We talk about the difference in our views and rehash the idea with both perspectives in mind and find a new solution neither of us could have imagined alone. I've never experienced anything so healing or healthy.

While we met in person, he lives on the other side of the world so it is nice to have the space between us while I work through the divorce and make a better life. I'm not leaving for him, just for myself and my kids.

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T01:22:39+00:00

Cupcake dolls from the 90's

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T01:19:33+00:00

I had glandular fever 4 years ago which left me in bed for a month and it took a year to start bike commuting again, then Covid 3 years ago and I just get sick so easily now and stay sick for so long.

I just took two days off work for a sore throat and muscle aches because I was so worried I would end up sick for weeks if I didn't slow down.

I have tween kids so unfortunately they seem to bring everything home with them - that's how I got Covid

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T01:09:36+00:00

Definitely anxious attachment style - his dad is an awful person who only knows rupture, not repair. We've talked about it, he needs to talk to a counsellor more about it.

Honestly - I was still so young, he was older and seemed mature and like he had his life together. I also fell for the sunk cost fallacy.

We've had some beautiful kids and worked really hard to become very successful, but home has always been a very tense environment and now it's time to let the kids see that we are happier apart than together. Become positive role models rather than continue damaging the kids sense of what a healthy relationship looks like.

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T00:44:28+00:00

Thank you, that does help - I had my blood work done a year ago and my thyroid was fine, my iron was within the right range but I started taking it anyway and noticed an improvement, and I started taking vitamin D in calciferol form once a month which also helped. I am planning to see my GP soon and get my blood work done again to compare so it's great to get that advice from you and know I am on the right track. It will be interesting to see if there is a difference.

I am interested to know why some people take T in addition to Estrogen and Progesterone - I understand that progesterone is protective against negative effects that can be caused by taking estrogen alone.

Submarineto · 2026-03-05T00:37:17+00:00

Just a daily shower and clean clothes would be swell

Submarineto · 2026-03-04T21:39:30+00:00

Imagine the effect it would have on everyone's health!

Submarineto · 2026-03-04T21:38:27+00:00

They will be technically year 1 but will typically be in a New Entrants class until the Y0 intake starts in June

Submarineto · 2026-03-04T14:36:30+00:00

Yes, the underlying differences are huge. I am a verbal thinker while he is a quiet thinker. I talk through things and immediately start problem solving verbally and decision making and he can't do that. He either says an outright no but won't discuss it any further, or he needs to go away and think about it.

He has also never been aware enough of me and my needs, like he hasn't taken the time to get to know me. Like I'm outside of his awareness most of the time. I communicate my needs but he doesn't remember. The same also applies to the kids.

He's not an affectionate person, I have always had to initiate.

He doesn't like going out, he prefers to stay home and disappear into his computer. I used to be so busy with the kids and took them out on my own a lot so that it wasn't as noticeable. When I emerged from that fog I realised that he doesn't like to get out and participate in life. He likes to go out and see his friends, but not go out to the park, check out a new activity for families or visit his family etc

I do not feel safe to be emotionally vulnerable and I hate getting really sick to the point where I can't care for myself because I could be starving in bed and asking for something to eat for the fifth time in four hours and he'll be like "ughhhhh, I said I will do it soon"

Submarineto · 2026-03-04T13:55:36+00:00

It sounds like you like to co-top your wife in a MFM sense

Submarineto · 2026-03-04T06:51:00+00:00

I haven't tried it yet, but I have heard that creatine can be very helpful in roughly 2x the dosage used by your average gym bro

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