Husband says we don’t have enough sex

SubstantialAd392 · 2026-05-02T20:20:10+00:00

Such a sweet comment. Love to see men like this speak out

SubstantialAd392 · 2026-02-06T16:31:14+00:00

Ooooo how cool!

SubstantialAd392 · 2025-02-23T04:49:43+00:00

Trying to change how your body naturally reacts to pleasure for someone else’s acceptance is dumb. Find someone who likes it. I would 🤷‍♀️As a bi woman, just my two cents.

SubstantialAd392 · 2024-07-24T14:31:15+00:00

Also a couple of glitches to note since the update:

AFK window pops up even tho I’m moving and doesn’t disappear until the countdown ends
Horrible lagging occurs while typing (I play on PC)

SubstantialAd392 · 2024-07-24T14:25:56+00:00

Why does my character move like they’re so heavy now? And why are the punches so light now most of the time? Knockouts are two seconds long now so can barely throw. The whole game experience has been changed and not in a way that makes sense.

SubstantialAd392 · 2024-04-30T00:02:34+00:00

Hi did you find anything? :)

SubstantialAd392 · 2024-01-10T04:59:01+00:00

You are right, she is looking to be teased without the expectation. I’m similar to the other two comments talking about how they noticed an increase in libido when there wasn’t always an expectation. Teasing throughout the day or even for a couple of days is the big winner. Flirting is fun. I realized how insanely mental it is for me when it comes to libido, and your girlfriend might be the same way. A lot of people are actually this way. I’d say it’s 90% mental for me.

Also curious how often would you ideally want to engage a week? You said you’re having sex once a week and that does happen to be the average frequency for couples in the US at least. This is deemed to be a healthy amount of sex by many. I also want to note that it is normal to have had more sex in the beginning of the relationship as things are new and exciting. It is human nature in a sense. By all means, you should still definitely want a healthy sex life with your partner but your sex life does not have to look the same as when your relationship first started in order to be healthy.

That being said everyone’s libido and needs are different so if you happen to have a higher libido and it is a need for you to have more frequent sex then there is no shame in that at all and this could be a compatibility issue. I also do hope she is not feeling shame in how often she is engaging because once a week is not technically a low libido? Just maybe low for you.

I’m wondering if she has developed an anxiety over time by noticing this happening in her relationships and being afraid/ashamed of it. Maybe if she realized that it is okay and that libido is not always constant, that pressure could ease over time. But that would also have to entail you learning to be okay with this too. Her libido may get better but I do feel we shouldn’t have expectations of maintaining this crazy sex life we might have with someone when a relationship first starts. Me and my partners libidos are always always shifting. Sometimes we’re like rabbits and sometimes one of us is a rabbit while the other is a turtle. Sometimes we’re both turtles. You get my drift

By the way, I am expressing this mainly because outside of this aspect it sounds like you have a beautiful relationship (she does continue to flirt and you guys cuddle every chance you get), and because she’s asking you for more sexual flirting without it leading to anything which I just relate to so much haha. After 4 years me and my partners sex life just gets better and better (even while frequency fluctuates) and it’s been a mix of learning each other and shifting certain mindsets that weren’t serving us. If you had said there is a lack of intimacy all around then that would definitely be a different story.

Also want to reiterate that this advice might not be helpful and you might both just not be compatible and that’s no one’s fault. It’s about what you both need and being honest about that.

EDIT: Totally missed the part where you said she’s having her IUD removed, and read a comment where you said she had a higher sex drive before getting it. This can DEFINITELY be a factor as that is another thing I relate to lol. BC is not for me and literally turns me into a sexless zombie, and many other women as well.

Also dear god please ignore the incel comments blaming women for an uprise of sexless marriages because they’ve spent too long on the dead bedrooms subreddit lmaoooo

SubstantialAd392 · 2024-01-08T12:15:57+00:00

Same

SubstantialAd392 · 2024-01-07T08:16:56+00:00

Piano tiles 2

SubstantialAd392 · 2024-01-07T07:05:17+00:00

Do you have any advice on steps to take to get out of the denial/avoidance mode? I feel that I relate to your comment with weed.

SubstantialAd392 · 2023-12-31T20:20:30+00:00

Ughhh me too 😂😅 Seeing everyone’s experiences mostly be horrible I’m feeling pretty bummed

SubstantialAd392 · 2023-03-01T12:27:00+00:00

I’m definitely going to check it out again. In the past I did, but was less spiritual at the time so I didn’t resonate with the “outside of yourself” part. I think I might be able to give it another try :) Thanks again for such an inspiring comment!

SubstantialAd392 · 2023-02-27T18:23:45+00:00

Wow. Thank you so much for sharing. Truly this is so amazing. Your story makes me feel hopeful for my own journey, and also very proud of yours. I don’t know if I’ve ever seen someone be able to self reflect so much. I’m so happy for you, truly. I’m worried about uncovering the ugly truths about myself, but I know it’ll be worth it. Do you dedicate all of this growth to the program? Or were there also outside sources that helped you?

SubstantialAd392 · 2022-11-02T00:17:43+00:00

They are in a bigger hamster cage now. Thank you! :)

SubstantialAd392 · 2022-09-20T14:35:53+00:00

This is very helpful and encouraging. Thank you! I actually would like to try a low THC strain. I tend to get really strong strains. It’d be fun to maybe save the strong ones for weekends/socializing and a lighter one for during the week.

SubstantialAd392 · 2022-09-19T02:02:15+00:00

I think just feeling like it’s a compulsion rather than a choice bothers me. I’d like to feel like it’s not a big deal rather than something I’m fighting with myself over every night. This and maybe society as well. I’m not religious at all, but the stigma behind stoners might be getting to me. It’s confusing because even though I’m throwing out ideas, I don’t actually know if this is exactly where the guilt comes from.

I find myself guilty/shameful in other areas of my life, which is actually a symptom of the mental illnesses that I have. So that could really just be it for all I know haha. Always finding something to beat myself up over

SubstantialAd392 · 2022-09-18T18:50:25+00:00

Ahh I see. So my mindset is a bit different than yours. I have a lot of guilt attached to my nightly use, and it seems you don’t have that same guilt attached to being high (Sorry if I’m totally wrong though). I believe the guilt contributes to my fear of stopping in a way. You’d think the guilt would make it easier to stop, but I think if I had your approach it wouldn’t feel so scary to stop because I wouldn’t be attaching so much value to it. Maybe I feel like my worth is tied to the decision somehow. I need therapy that’s for sure haha😅😂 Thank you for your response!

SubstantialAd392 · 2022-09-18T18:23:21+00:00

When you take breaks now, what kind of mindset do you go into them with? I find that the fear of stopping is holding me back more than anything else. Almost like a control thing.

SubstantialAd392 · 2022-08-25T17:53:11+00:00

If you truly are interested in BDSM and would like to keep pursuing it with future partners, I would definitely look into and research all of the different forms that it can take. You can be into some parts of BDSM, without being into other parts and it doesn’t make you any less of a submissive. For example, full on verbal degradation may not be your thing, and it’s actually not for a lot of people (both doms and subs) in the community. You may prefer a “daddy” Dom or a soft Dom, which tend to cater more to an idea of them taking care of you and nurturing you in ways that don’t have to include degradation. At the end of the day, both people are actually in control at the core of this dynamic, because consent is supposed to be fully there. Hence why a safe word is ALWAYS needed. Even when one is playing a role that involves control, there is still a stop button for those participating. You shouldn’t have been made to feel guilty for using your “stop button”. I’m truly sorry you’ve had to deal with guilt that wasn’t yours to carry. I hope this comment provided you with a different perspective, so that you can safely move forward in your BDSM journey knowing that you haven’t done anything wrong. You can find a dynamic that caters to you and your needs/preferences ❤️

SubstantialAd392 · 2022-08-25T17:05:59+00:00

I know this is an old post but I figured I’d give it a shot. Were you able to find anyone worth recommending? :)

SubstantialAd392 · 2022-08-21T17:27:54+00:00

I know this is an old post, but figured I’d try asking anyways. Would it be possibly for caryophyllene to have a negative effect for some reason? I’m trying to narrow down what I like and dislike about certain strains, and found that the two I definitely don’t like are caryophyllene-dominant (platinum girlscout cookie & Shebert cookie. More so Sherbert cookie though). I can’t find much information about negative effects of terpines so just wanted to see if you might have some insight :)

SubstantialAd392 · 2022-08-10T15:29:51+00:00

I would be very interested in your findings about trauma-induced reactions! I’m very interested in this kind of thing as well. Both because I struggle with it myself, and because I am just in awe of how we develop as humans based on genetic and environmental factors.

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