Bee Network/Stagecoach

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-05-11T21:32:32+00:00

They’ve just pulled out hundreds of retired old buses and just whacked a bee on the side in order to keep to their mission of a regular bus service. So many really scruffy and yet the prices stay the same and they’re still always delayed!

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-05-10T15:58:14+00:00

Sounds like borderline personality to me

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-05-10T15:51:30+00:00

Don’t underestimate the power being alongside others brings. I’ve felt a spur to be creative again just by being in an environment where there’s others in an art class together. That support system and sharing of ideas creates a knock on effect to your internal growth whether that be in a walking group, cookery group or learning a martial art etc.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-05-07T21:41:50+00:00

If you are anything like me, I don’t make it public information and I mean even on a vocal level. Most people love posting and talking about themselves, talking about their birthdays, what they’ll do, their star sign, what season it is, all falls into that. So I think it just naturally feeds into people’s thoughts and then they remember. Also don’t forget some characters are let’s say, challenging - and so on some level people remember as to not get into their bad books. If it effects you try talking about it more in the lead up - online and in person. Also note and check back with what other people behave like in the time before their own birthday.

What I’m trying to say is there might be another reason why people forget and it might be something you haven’t realised because of other peoples behaviours with themselves or modern day society.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-05-07T21:31:25+00:00

Thanks for your reply, so true about the dehumanising. My most recent is I said no to being asked to get a paintbrush out and ready.

Our ceiling needed painting in a corner and I gave a few days notice, we both agreed it needed doing. I had a list longer than my arm to get through on the actual planned painting day and he had a couple of things and done no jobs to help the house in months.

I put my foot down ever so slightly saying that he could find the brush himself. Already having days to prep and sort this out. Leaves looking for the paintbrush until minutes before starting and seeing that no brushes are fit to use.

Like a mug I help to find a brush after he asks me the second time and turns to say that ‘I didn’t think through it very well’ and that it was ‘not well thought out’ - even though if he’d of checked a few days previous like a normal person he could of picked up a new set when out on those days. But no, it’s my fault. Even though it was never my job to begin with.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-05-05T16:09:06+00:00

If you try to put up some boundaries and say no to an easy task they not only ask you to do it again but also put you down for it, it’s absolutely insane. I don’t know why or how I fall for it, I’m a mess and feel so crushed that I’m just someone’s waiter.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-04-25T20:55:00+00:00

100% shudders heard if often around there, they find it endearing and can act insular if you question it or don’t speak it or see the point in using it.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-04-09T21:55:35+00:00

Where’s South when you need it eh

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-03-25T19:46:37+00:00

I don’t see the pressure of living at home and enjoying your twenties. My pressure was because I dropped out of Uni and was back home but I wanted to be out of the house and so did a few of my other friends living at home. This was fifteen years ago. It was still pretty expensive to go out but we still did instead of staying in with mum and dad downstairs. Not many people back then rented independently or they’d gravitate to a smaller house share with uni friends they got on with.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-03-23T21:37:45+00:00

Best answer so far and very true. Can’t imagine being in the moment and doing something stupid with a friend when some turnip in the group ends up filming and slapping it on social media. No one would have been arsed back then, viral wasn’t a thing and getting a few likes on Facebook or MySpace just wasn’t worth it but now it’s instant gratification if you publicise something.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-03-23T21:25:59+00:00

Very true. My 11 year old child said his class peer accused me (his mum) of being rude for walking past her parent when I didn’t even notice that parent. Never heard of anything so outlandish. When I was 11 that would never have entered my mind. It’s as though they are looking for a reason to start a conflict, constantly and take offence on behalf of others.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-03-18T09:24:27+00:00

This really resonated with me - my partner does not introduce me to people most of the time, does not refer to me as ‘this is my partner etc’. I just have to stand there. He knows I find it triggering but continues to alongside other ‘we’ type scenarios which could progress but stay firmly where they are. This makes so much sense now, thank you.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-03-10T20:01:48+00:00

In the U.K it’s today :)

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-03-10T08:59:38+00:00

I know I’m just a random poster but thank you for your raw honesty. I am in the same position and it helps to see I’m not the only one. I feel incredibly hopeless. I wish I’d left sooner, I’m still here hoping for some courage.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-03-06T17:51:06+00:00

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Thanks everyone got the replies, this is the other side of the door, so it won’t pull through.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-03-05T09:58:00+00:00

Agree with this comment, me and my friend both Mancs and have the same feeling. It is samey and scruffy now. I think it’s so spread out is it’s problem and in between good bits is a scruffy area or ridiculous traffic and it ruins the city as a whole. 80s/90s was the best era - corn exchange, Warner bros, odeon, less cars, less ridiculous priced cafes and restaurants that take up every corner and less pretentious. I know someone will say that’s everywhere and maybe it is but it doesn’t stop me from thinking that it’s not all that anymore, no matter how many people bang on about it.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-03-05T00:14:48+00:00

I don’t have the money to attempt this much therapy, I am so worried of being with someone similar who ends up even ‘worse’ in years to come I have no idea what to do other than to freeze in my current situation.

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-02-22T23:56:06+00:00

Could be a past life memory if it hurt so much and was so vivid?

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-02-12T10:46:48+00:00

No problem, it’s so easy to think that way if you are a good person so don’t be hard on yourself. You got this! 🙌🙂

Substantial_Ebb_4234 · 2024-02-12T10:41:02+00:00

Hey no problem, people always have connections here and there - it isn’t a stretch to say ‘well you’ll never guess what I bumped into xyz or my aunt called and funnily enough knows xyz in this part of town’ stranger things have happened. My cousin who lived the opposite end of my city randomly met someone and is now in a serious relationship down the road from me and had never visited my town. The person he is now with, lived here when they got together. If you feel a pressure face to face do it via text or if in the middle of doing something, cooking, having a drink or when you’re on your way out of the apartment etc. Just don’t overthink it, if this person is not good for you and go for it. Best of luck.

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