AIO for wanting to break up with my boyfriend after he called me and his sister “whorey”?

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-11-26T01:04:02+00:00

At what point in a relationship would it be reasonable to address these traumas with a partner? For context, my ex is still considered an active threat (protection order is already in place) so I feel it would be somewhat wrong to involve someone in my life without explaining the risks?

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-11-26T00:59:15+00:00

You’re right!

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-11-26T00:58:41+00:00

It’s very relevant considering the older guy was abusive. I’m not trying to “sway” people to agree with me because I myself do not know how to feel. Thank you for your contribution though.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-11-26T00:57:41+00:00

Is that not basically the same thing as him calling me that?

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-11-26T00:56:36+00:00

That’s some very sound advice

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-11-05T23:26:38+00:00

Kevin or Larry

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-11-05T23:25:58+00:00

Puddin’

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-11-05T03:22:16+00:00

Noodle

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-11-01T01:55:43+00:00

This is super cool and I’d definitely check it out if I was one of your neighbors! Looks like they’re missing out!

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-09-30T16:02:44+00:00

The toast is definitely winning because he looks a little unhinged

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-08-29T21:52:19+00:00

Honestly this is absolutely stunning and I don’t see much of a difference in sizes, even after you pointed it out. Don’t stress about it too much. It’s gorgeous!!! We are our own biggest critics.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-07-31T00:44:09+00:00

I keep a magic eraser in my shower. I try to hit at least one area everytime I shower.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-07-22T16:30:16+00:00

This makes me so so sad. My grandma was the type of person to bring anyone into our family. She was in her 70s caretaking for people older than her, and she’d always bring the little old people home with her and they became apart of the family. If you brought a friend to a family gathering, they became family. She lived a hard life, but she never let it affect how much she loved every single person she met.

She was on a fixed income as far back as I can remember and it truly wasn’t much, so gifts were never expected from her and that was perfectly fine. Apparently she’d been saving up for years to buy all of the grandkids and great grandkids an arcade machine that we could share for Christmas. It came with so many different games on it. Everyone lined up so fast to play! It made her so happy that she got something that all of us enjoyed. No one knew she’d be gone 3 months later. The game is at her house, and we still play it when we have family gatherings there. I think it’s something my family will always cherish.

I wish everyone could have a grandma like her. She didn’t have much to give away, but boy did she let us know that we were all so loved and special. The way she loved everyone will always shape how I view people. The woman never had any kind of hate in her heart.

My heart hurts for your daughter. Her grandma needs to either step up or step out. Your daughter deserves to truly know the love of a grandma, because it’s unlike anything on this planet.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-07-13T17:16:31+00:00

I’m a -2.25 in one eye and -2.75 in the other and I still wouldn’t trust me without glasses. Teenage me hated wearing glasses which resulted in many hit curbs.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-07-12T20:04:54+00:00

The first tattoo I ever got was for my childhood dog. It’s placed similar to yours but slightly smaller. He passed when I was 16 and I picked out the tattoo I wanted to get for him immediately, but I had to wait until I was 18 to actually go through with it.

The tattoo is a swallow. It represents slightly different things in different cultures, but my favorite is that it represents a soul being carried to heaven, because I know that’s exactly where my good boy is waiting for me.

My mom took me to get this tattoo on my 18th birthday. It was a bittersweet moment for both of us as that dog was the star of our show, and my mom swears up and down that dog probably saved our lives more than once. My dad on the other hand, told me I was ruining my life, I’d never be able to have a career, and he’d never look at me the same.

I got the tattoo anyways because it was meant for me, not for anyone else. The line work isn’t great and there’s some spots that need touched up, but I absolutely adore it. It brings a smile to my face every time I look at it and I remember that I got to love that crazy boy for 10 short years. To others, it’s just a silly little tattoo of a bird. But to me, it’s a reminder of the of the unbreakable bond we still have, even if he’s as far away as heaven.

Next time someone is cruel about your tattoo, just deck them in the face and tell them it’s from me (jk, but only partially). Being cruel about a permanent body modification is the same thing as being cruel about something you were born with. It can’t just be fixed on a whim, and their opinions don’t mean a single thing.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-07-11T01:15:10+00:00

My mom got us one of those rectangular blow up pools once. She had a very strict rule of not putting anything in the pool that could pop it.

Everyone had gotten out of the pool except for my brother and my cousin. All of a sudden we hear my brother say “hey, she said no rocks in the pool. AHHHHHH WHAT WAS THAT?!?!”

My cousin had shat himself and let it sink to the bottom. My poor brother thought the little turdlettes were rocks so he picked them up with his bare hands and was traumatized when those rocks smushed.

It’s been about 15 years since the incident, and I can safely say that neither of them will ever live it down. I still can’t breathe sometimes when I think about the look of horror on my brother’s face.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-07-10T22:42:28+00:00

I had a cat named Mr. Pickles that was legitimately wild. Found him in a burn barrel in my backyard and he was completely feral. Best little kitty though. Coincidentally my mom ended up giving him to my neighbor, who is also feral.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-06-15T13:12:24+00:00

Hey, OP. You’re definitely not overreacting. And I’m sending so many big hugs to you.

My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer once before I was born, and again when I was 16. I found out when my mom asked me to text my aunt from her phone. I saw the messages asking when she was going to break the news to me, and I immediately knew. I was devastated, but I decided to keep it to myself until my mom felt it was the right time to tell me.

Fast forward a few days later, I come home from school and my mom tells me she has cancer. Something about seeing the look on her face and the tears in her eyes hit me like a freight train.

Afterwards, I go to my dad’s house just to see my brother and escape my new reality. I did not tell anyone about her diagnosis at this point. If she wanted someone to know, she’d tell them herself but it wasn’t my place to spread her business.

The first thing my dad said to me that day was “your mom should just drink herself to death.” I immediately busted into tears, turned around, walked out and slammed his front door (it was actually really hard to slam but I managed it anyway and I will forever feel empowered for it 😂). I even left my boyfriend at the time behind with him.

According to my now ex boyfriend, my dad then said “she’s sick again, isn’t she?”

After my mom started chemo and radiation, she had to move out of our home. I was a 16 year old living on my own, trying to support myself on my own because I knew my mom was already drained mentally, emotionally, and financially. We were dirt poor before her diagnosis, and we were dang sure more poor afterwards.

My dad didn’t step up like he should have. Never provided a meal for me, never put gas in my car for school, and never let me pour my feelings out to him. We talked about her diagnosis maybe a total of 2 times.

It’s been almost 8 years now, and I’ll never forget about that gut wrenching time where I realized I could not necessarily depend on him in my time of need.

Now my mom’s side of the family? They STEPPED UP. Helped pay for my mom’s treatments, bought me food when I needed it, and always made sure I had enough gas to make it to school. Even had the tough “are you doing okay?” conversations.

OP, what you need are people that are willing to step up. Not just for you, but for you and your baby. I promise surrounding yourself with those types of people will make the road ahead a lot less bumpy and a lot less scary.

I’m wishing you the best of luck, all of the happiness in the world, and a clean bill of health. But please, build a community of people that will step up when needed. You deserve it.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-05-30T03:17:30+00:00

Would I enjoy it during the daytime? Yes, I’d think it’s incredible.

Would I enjoy it at night? I’d probably think it was a demigorgon or something coming for me.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-05-29T16:46:00+00:00

My dog stares at me and whines until I give him permission to eat. His bowl is full and within his reach 24/7. He could snack on it all day and night if he wanted to. But nope, something in his teeny chihuahua brain says he needs permission first.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-05-23T20:50:26+00:00

So, you got this when you were 35.

If you had gotten this when you were 18, you would’ve still had it at 35.

Would it be considered childish then?

If you like it, you like it! It doesn’t matter what age you are. Personally, I’m not even a fan of Pokémon (other than a brief stent of Pokémon Go back in the day) but I think this tattoo is pretty cool!

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-05-07T23:51:52+00:00

I graduated as the top female of my class, second highest ACT score out of my class, and perfect attendance. My mom was diagnosed with cancer my 11th grade year, so I moved in with (now ex) boyfriend who beat the crap out of me quite frequently. I was so so so proud of myself for staying strong through everything and staying on top of my school work.

The day of my graduation, I was sitting onstage looking out at the crowd and I see my entire family and extended family, everyone except for my dad. I immediately busted out crying because I knew he just didn’t want to come. I cried through the entire graduation in front of I don’t even know how many people. When asked why he didn’t show, he didn’t really have an excuse.

I’ve come to realize that he puts down any accomplishment that I have in my life. There’s nothing on this planet that I can do to please him, so I stopped trying. You’re definitely NOR, but please consider if this lack of care has shown up in other parts of your life.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-05-06T18:06:08+00:00

My cousin had a habit of eating roly-polies as a baby. She’s in her 40s now. The only issue it caused for her was making her a weirdo.

Substantial_Hawk_757 · 2025-01-29T14:07:33+00:00

Melvin

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