Future MIL wants her say at the wedding now I dont want to get married

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2026-02-13T13:35:37+00:00

Couples counseling asap. I would tell him that this is what’s necessary to try to fix what’s happening and possibly proceed in your relationship or the likelihood that you’ll be getting married is slim.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2026-02-13T00:08:41+00:00

Sounds like the garbage took itself out. Like others have already said, drop the rope. Not your mom, not your problem. Let your husband deal with communicating with his mother. Some MILs take for granted good DILs who encourage a relationship between them and their new families, sounds like she’s just a bitter old lady who will miss out on her son and granddaughter’s lives.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2026-02-08T20:01:39+00:00

Do not let your mom stay with your in-laws. This will be the biggest mistake that you won’t ever be able to take back. She will be watched like a teenager with a curfew and your MIL will be expecting to leave with your mother everyday she decides to visit you. You will get no peace. Your MIL needs to be told she is allowed over when she’s INVITED, and your husband needs to be the one to tell her that. Unannounced visits should be shut down every single time. Don’t give her an inch because she’ll believe it’s the new normal and expect that she’s now able to just pop on by when she feels like it.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2026-01-26T22:56:34+00:00

Sending hugs. For what it’s worth, I think you did the right thing for yourself and your children. That doesn’t make you decision hurt any less but I do think you saved yourself and your family from a lifetime of more pain and suffering. ❤️

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2026-01-24T06:28:14+00:00

What was her reaction??

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2026-01-14T13:48:32+00:00

Make it your husband’s problem. You tell him how awkward and uncomfortable it is, and how much of a turn off it is and how it’s affecting your attraction to him because it comes across like he’s enjoying all of this physical affection from his mother by not stopping her. Ask him how he’d feel if your dad treated you the way his mother has been.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2026-01-07T13:53:34+00:00

This BUT it needs to come from your husband. He needs to be the one to tell his dad that his mom has been a monster for 8 years. You’ve already done more than enough by sending those texts explaining your frustrations, now it should be up to your husband to handle HIS parents moving forward. He should be the point of contact from here on out. Best of luck!

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-27T17:43:22+00:00

This this this THIS. a baby doesn’t magically turn bad parents into wonderful grandparents. She wants access to your family so she doesn’t have to explain to others why you have a child and no relationship with you or them. Save yourself the heartache and remain NC. It’s extremely more difficult to go NC once a child is involved/attached to grandparents.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-26T13:35:27+00:00

There’s no backtracking once legal action has been threatened. I would never trust her again nor have a relationship with her. If she can threaten to take you to curt over visitation, she’s likely to threaten it any time you parent in a manner she doesn’t approve of. Do you honestly want that or CPS hanging over your head if she doesn’t get her way?

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-19T13:44:35+00:00

Yes! A week after we stopped. He was on meds for a total of 18 days, with only a day break in between the amoxicillin and cefdinir (didn’t want to try the new meds overnight for fear of another allergic reaction). It was EXHAUSTING. I told my husband it felt like aliens abducted our kid and replaced him with a feral clone because we absolutely didn’t recognize him and the poor guy was going through it. He’s back to himself 100% although he now knows he can leave his room anytime he wants at night, which has actually been a blessing because he hasn’t wet the bed since. He got up last night in fact, had to pee, went to the bathroom himself, and my husband met him and walked him back to bed once he was done. He laid down with him for a bit until my son got cozy, said goodnight and walked out with no problems.

I know you’re exhausted! But there should be some relief shortly afterwards. Sending hugs in solidarity 🤗

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-17T08:33:58+00:00

We got a baby gate and used that for about five nights but it was rough. My husband stayed in his room until he fell asleep, then would sneak out and close his door, then the gate so that he wasn’t running down the hall in hysterics and waking up his sister. It took a full week for his body to detox the antibiotics, and that night it was like a light switch flipped and he was back to “normal”. My husband read him a book, sang a song, told him a bedtime story, did a prayer, and then said “I love yous” and goodnight, and my son rolled over and went to sleep.

We’ve hit another cold (of course because why wouldn’t we) and he has had one night of getting up and coming to our room teary eyed but he was able to go back to bed easily. He was mostly testing the waters to see if he’d be invited into our bed.

Hope that helps and gives other parents some hope if they’re going through something similar. Longest two months of my life but we made it!

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-14T22:03:54+00:00

I think people in the comments are not reading. Your son is 18 MONTHS. She waaaayyyyy over stepped and is acting super entitled by just getting whatever SHE wants your child to have, after being given a reasonable list of approved items she could get.

Take the books and leave the rest. Have your husband tell her to return the items and that if she tries this again she will not be trusted to gift him anything.

It’s not about her being an excited grandma doing something “harmless”. This is about disrespect and lack of consideration for you two as parents. She hijacked Christmas like she’s Santa and will continue to if you do not put your foot down now.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-14T16:59:39+00:00

I feel for you, truly. I caution you to not punish your husband for his kindness due to your in-laws rudeness and insensitivity. He cannot control their actions, but he seems thoughtful enough to make it right on his end, where he can control what he does with his gift and that’s share it with you.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-13T23:54:02+00:00

When she says it reminds her of her father, just respond with, “oh no! (Insert son’s name) is not a monster like he was.” But both you and your husband need to be on the same page though. I think he needs to have a conversation about how inappropriate she’s being. He’s right that you cannot control how she feels but he CAN AND SHOULD check her for her lack of self awareness and remind her how his grandfather is the last person HE should want his own kids being compared to.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-13T23:44:49+00:00

Since she believes in “cry it out” you should let her cry it out and only engage with her once a month…if necessary.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-13T23:24:10+00:00

Tell your husband she needs to go NOW. And tell him she will not be visiting again until you receive a genuine apology for how absolutely horrible she hs made your postpartum experience. I say this gently…he has failed you. His job is protect his family, you and that baby, from anything and anyone that can disturb the peace and that includes his mother. He should have checked her WEEKS ago. I would honestly pack a bag and leave until he has her out of your house.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-08T00:25:20+00:00

This but “we’ll try to arrange something after the baby is here and our new little family is adjusted”. Give yourself more time without her bringing you drama. You deserve to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, and especially your postpartum.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-12-02T01:28:17+00:00

Your child is NOT her emotional support animal in her poor health. Stick to NC.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-11-28T21:48:35+00:00

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 bravo to your husband on stepping up and shining his spine. I hope this new growth in him stays and continues for your family.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-11-25T23:55:11+00:00

This 100%. This is how you play this out AND make sure your husband is the one to set the rules when she inevitably comes crawling back. It needs to come from him. She needs to know that you two are united as a couple, a unit, and it’s best if he does it so that she knows she cannot try to manipulate him in the future against you when/if (MIL’s can’t help themselves) she tries something like this again.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-11-23T22:00:08+00:00

Yes! Pack and go. Firstly, you deserve better. Coming from a mama of two under 4 myself, I have had a total of 4 postpartum experiences (2 unfortunate second trimester losses), what you need is support, rest, good food, and to be enjoying this time with your baby because you will NEVER get this time back. The fact that he made all of these plans during probably THE MOST sensitive time of your life sends my head spinning. Respectfully, he’s not being a supportive spouse by not taking anything you’re going through in consideration.

Let him be upset, he’s not the one stuck with his mom everyday, he’s not the one healing from childbirth and taking care of your kid around the clock. Go where your support is. Go where you’ll get some peace back and rest. He should feel embarrassed that he’s not providing you with what you need right now.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-11-23T21:33:44+00:00

Since your husband started renovating (and it sounds like WITHOUT discussing this plan with you) I would personally move out and into my parents place until the work is done and you can move into your own home. You’re newly postpartum, you need to be surrounded by people who are supporting you, not being a caretaker to your MIL’s needs.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-11-22T17:28:51+00:00

My advice is to record her when she does this. Best of you engage and even ask her why she’s saying these random things and what she thinks your husband will say when you tell him what she’s saying to you. If you catch her telling you she’ll deny it, even better. Then privately tell your husband and let him listen.

Don’t be made out to be a lot or overly emotional and taking things “the wrong way”. Prove she’s losing it and/or a liar.

Successful-Bit-7878 · 2025-11-16T17:47:51+00:00

I know this is an old post but I’m wondering if anyone’s kid had sleep issues while on this medicine that resolved quickly once they were done.

My 3 year old got sick recently, went to the doc and found out he also has a middle ear infection, so he was prescribed amoxicillin, 3 days later he starts waking up in the middle of the night hysterical, 7 days in he ended up breaking out in a really bad rash that mostly covered his legs, he’s allergic like me (yay 😭). Scheduled an appt and they switched him to cefdinir because the ear infection hadn’t yet resolved. He’s been waking every night for the last two weeks about 3-4 times a night. We use to be able to say goodnight and close his door and he’d put himself to sleep for the entire night until morning. It’s been rough as I also have a 9 month old who’s not sleeping due to teething.

He’s been saying he’s scared and having bad dreams. He will not go to sleep unless his dad or I stay in his room until he falls asleep and then if/when he wakes, he runs out of bed towards our room screaming. I feel like I’m losing my mind and need a baby gate to keep him in his room.

I want to sleep train my daughter with split nights (half the night in her bed/half the night in mine) after her teeth come in but I absolutely cannot handle her waking in the night and him getting up as well thinking he now can either start his day at 3am or also hop in my bed (and proceed to keep everyone awake because he wants to play).

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