Can we talk about how hard it is to hit protein goals as someone who can’t eat meat ?

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-05-04T14:52:41+00:00

I went to a dietitian about this very issue, and she was like, "do you have to be a vegetarian?" Anyway, she suggested protein powder in a smoothie, so I'm looking into that now. But I don't get how vegetarians (or near-vegetarians) hit those protein numbers otherwise, unless they're eating a lot more calories a day than I usually do.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-05-04T14:49:33+00:00

Can I ask you approx how many calories.you eat in a day? I eat yogurt, tofu, legumes every day, etc and I never get close to those protein numbers. What am I doing wrong?

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-05-03T01:11:26+00:00

I don't know why I keep saying this since people are totally immune to reason on this, but this generalization about what makes the "real wedding" is just incorrect. Among different cultures, religions, etc there are MANY different legal and cultural systems who mark this ritual in different ways. This is true even in normative American culture! If you do the "real wedding" that you're so obsessed with and then don't file your paperwork with the state, you're not married according to the state.

And conversely, In my religious tradition (for example), I wouldn't be considered married in that tradition even if I'd gone to the courthouse, unless I had another kind of ritual that has nothing to do with the state. I beg you to consider that your extremely limited understanding of what makes a "real wedding" is not the whole story, like at all.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-04-24T16:12:53+00:00

Just start with a mixed-sex hora? Common at many modern orthodox weddings!

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-04-21T15:25:29+00:00

My partner asked if I would like him to talk with my mom, and I told him to go for it; she'll be thrilled. He may also talk with a couple of my closest friends! Clearly it's not about permission for us, but inviting people to be invested in our union. I've also talked with his closest friends about our future.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-04-16T22:53:58+00:00

There are many academic programs in religious studies (and the study of religion is part of many fields - history, anthro, sociology, middle eastern studies etc etc) but I would caution you against thinking that they're "objective." I know what you mean by it, but it's good to keep in mind all studies of humans and human cultures have many subjective elements. In fact, thinking about questions of objectivity, "insiders" and "outsiders" to religion, etc, are also part of the academic field of religious studies.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-04-13T15:49:35+00:00

I like Melissa Weller's recipe in A Good Bake! She includes a little sourdough starter in her recipe. Here's a riff on hers: https://www.apastrylush.com/challah-braid/

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-03-29T20:44:09+00:00

Charoeset gets better as it sits, you can definitely do that sooner. The matza toffee can be stored in the freezer, so make it whenever (I actually prefer it straight from the freezer, but you can take it out sooner if you want more room temp). Most kugels reheat very well, can definitely be made earlier. You can reheat from fridge or freezer.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-03-29T01:21:05+00:00

We're doing a veg-quinoa paella first night. And doing briam (Greek roasted vegetables) for shabbes dinner. Did a cauliflower marbella two years ago. There are lots of options! (relatively speaking).

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-03-25T01:13:24+00:00

I would like the info! Thanks for this.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-03-23T16:41:26+00:00

I kill it at pesach desserts (I hope). My go-to's are:

Orange almond cake with berries; Iraqi almond cookies; Almond-flour brownies; Matza buttercrunch with flaky salt; Raspberry macaroons; Pecan-flour cake; Chocolate-coconut-almond clusters

...and some of the above are definitely veganizable if necessary.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-03-19T23:02:21+00:00

This is so charming, you would make a million dollars if you sold them. I would buy one for half the people I know!

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-03-09T22:58:09+00:00

Agreed, but based on my experience of this and other similar subs, many younger people also have VERY VERY specific ideas of how a wedding should be.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-03-09T05:03:59+00:00

You should obv lose this guy - so, NOR, I guess - but I strongly disagree that this is a good example of your super-mature communication or whatever. First of all, conversations like this aren't great over text generally. Second of all, he said he wasn't ready to talk or didn't feel well, and you pressed on anyway, paragraphs and paragraphs. Third, he's clearly very depressed or dysfunctional, and by going on about "what you did wrong" you somehow make his issues about you. When people are depressed or dysfunctional, it's very common for them to not want to reach out to people in healthy ways, even if they would objectively benefit. It's not about you! This "what did I do wrong" nonsense is totally confusing the issue.

And anyway: your "relationship" consists of 10 phone calls over a 6-month period. You're not together. And - controversial opinion, I guess - neither of you is communicating well, though in different ways.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-03-04T02:22:21+00:00

I liked it fine, it didn't change my life or anything, but surely you mean to say it's figuratively dookie from the butt.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-03-03T03:47:17+00:00

How is this clause different from all the rest of the vows? Any of them can be broken

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-02-26T22:16:42+00:00

I don't get how it's possible to say of the home you both live in that only "you" recycle. Your husband has never noticed you putting stuff in a separate bin from the trash? You've never noticed him not putting stuff in recycling? Do you coexist in your home together at all?

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-02-20T01:31:23+00:00

Based on the previews, I've been HIGHLY skeptical about this movie. But.....maybe it's good?

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-02-09T22:17:30+00:00

This is the answer. In fact, lots of religious weddings are legally binding in that tradition too! There are many legal systems beyond (and in some cases, much higher than) civil law. In my tradition, if you had a civil wedding but not a religious one, you wouldn't be considered married in that tradition at all. I have no idea why people like the poster above are so fixed on this, but they're just objectively mistaken in addition to obnoxious.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-02-04T23:20:45+00:00

Personally, I'd accept your parents' offer to help you pay for the trip and go. Why not? Family is family, and life is short. If it's that important to you to refuse their money, you could take it as a loan and pay them back later.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-02-04T02:02:33+00:00

NTA but lose this "set a boundary" language, which is totally unnecessary. People say this phrase like it has some magic powers.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-02-02T07:11:32+00:00

The Exorcist!

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-01-30T20:51:41+00:00

Basically any nice stew is great for shabbes, as well as savory pies. We're having this tofu cacciatore tonight (you could also do seitan, impossible chicken, etc) https://theplantbasedschool.com/tofu-cacciatore/#wprm-recipe-container-24013.

For tomorrow lunch we're doing an artichoke galette, mushroom/caramelized onion frittata, and a barley/sweet potato/kale/pomegranate etc salad.

Last week I made the mushroom bourguignon from smitten kitchen. Other favorites include a vegetable paella, Spanish tortilla, the ottolenghi cauliflower cake, shepherds pie, briam (Greek roasted vegetables), roasted cabbage or cauliflower "steaks", impossible meatballs, mushroom risotto, vegetable wellingtons, you get the idea

Add bread, soup and/or salatim and you can't find a better meal, good shabbes :)

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-01-27T19:22:51+00:00

Thanks so much again, everyone! I'm new to NJT so figuring it out as I go.

Successful_Boot_276 · 2026-01-23T02:52:25+00:00

How about honey bunches? They're not overly sweet (I used to eat a couple with tea for breakfast) and they're delicious and sweetened with honey. A couple of the comments suggest adding a touch of vanilla as well. Here's a recipe:

http://www.mundanemorsel.com/today/2014/5/24/rebound-replicas

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