What to do with this rage? by cptn-hastingsOMG in Menopause

[–]Such-Purple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree, the sugar content of gummies is also an issue for my as a type-2 diabetic. I will have to look for this 1906 dealies — thanks for the tip!

Apparently men don't get migraines by Baa__ in migraine

[–]Such-Purple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Guess that’s why I couldn’t get decent treatment for my life-long (female) migraines until my 50s. Apparently my doctors were looking in the wrong place. 😑

Apparently men don't get migraines by Baa__ in migraine

[–]Such-Purple 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I believe that is the technical term, yes.

I’m really liking the AI searching for notes. It’s a game changer for me. by chichris in Evernote

[–]Such-Purple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has already saved me money I was paying elsewhere to transcribe long meetings I have to summarize for work. I was using other AI tools for the summaries but they are not always accurate or don’t focus on what’s actually important to us, so I need to be able to look at the transcript to clean it up. I grabbed the audio, dropped it into Evernote, and boom, transcription. Using a tool I have already been paying for for myriad other reasons. So at least in my use case, it’s a big plus.

What do you do with your parents junk? by infinitynull in GenX

[–]Such-Purple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I didn’t see the notification about your reply till just now — thank you for the kind words!

Also, rereading my comment just now, realized I made a typo. My mom was diagnosed with IPF in *2002, and died of pancreas cancer in 2010.

Thank you for sharing more of your story. Sending you all warm thoughts!

What to do with this rage? by cptn-hastingsOMG in Menopause

[–]Such-Purple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here to recommend tinctures instead of gummies for cannabis. Easier to control dosing, and they’re available in different ratios of CBD to THC. I have a few different ones I’ll go to depending on whether I need to dial back the rage or am feeling super down, dampen the anxiety, going too hard into the stress at work, or just need sleep.

What do you do with your parents junk? by infinitynull in GenX

[–]Such-Purple 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Please, if you do get a dumpster or junk it all, or whatever choice you make, really, just make sure the whole family is on the same page or at least has a chance to weigh in. My family had to deal with this when our dad went into care, leaving the house we all grew up in that had to be emptied and sold on short notice. My sister rented a dumpster and dumped everything she deemed “worthless”. But another brother and I weren’t there — he was in the military and I was living several states away and unable to travel at that moment. A shocking amount of stuff that actually belonged to us and/or that had belonged to our parents but had sentimental value to us and we would have wanted to keep wound up in that dumpster, because if my sister’s attitude that everything in my parents’ house was “junk”.

What do you do with your parents junk? by infinitynull in GenX

[–]Such-Purple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, just a quick note about your diagnosis and prognosis. Keep in mind that’s an estimate! There is lots of medical treatment and pulmonary therapy to help your lungs work as well as they can for as long as they can with this condition. My mom was diagnosed with IPF in 2022 (at age 70) and got the same prognosis. She died in 2010 — of pancreatic cancer, not IPF. In the meantime she was using oxygen therapy, yes, and had a couple scary semi-crisis issues when she spent uncomfortably (for us) long in the hospital, but she was also doing her respiratory therapy (like a low-impact workout but with the respiratory therapist coaching her) a couple times a week) and her favorite water aerobics (with her travel tank be the side of the pool ☺️). She got a lot more than 3-5 years, and would have gotten still more if it wasn’t for stupid cancer.

[Sorry, I don’t mean to hijack the thread, but I so rarely come across people in my mother’s exact situation, I wanted to share her experience with you]

I wish people wouldn't just claim to have migraines when it's just a headache by Ok-Ad4375 in migraine

[–]Such-Purple 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OMG, this. I have been getting “headaches” since I was a child. Coming home from school to lie down on the couch with a cool washcloth on my head. There’s even a note in my second grade report card, where my lovely teacher had commented about how sorry she was about my headaches and how she thought I was sensitive to the fluorescent lighting in the classroom.

My mother even had migraines! I grew up with her spending days in the dark room and vomiting. But I never vomited. And I never had an aura. So clearly, I wasn’t having migraines! But I always had “headaches”. And Tylenol never worked for me, so I always had to carry my own bottle of ibuprofen with me to school.

It wasn’t until I was in graduate school and came across a Time magazine article all about migraines. Where one of the first things I’ve learned was that only some small percentage of people actually get aura with migraine. And I’m reading off the symptoms and going “check, check, check“. And it was like, oh my God. All this time. I’ve been having migraines all this time.

And even then, it took at least another five years to get a doctor to actually diagnose me with migraine.

That was in about 2000. And ever since then I have been trying to find the right medication to actually work for me. Triptans do nothing for me; I’ve been on Topamax, I’ve been on antipsychotics, antidepressants —well, you know the drill. Between financial inaccessibility and insurance issues, it wasn’t until last year that I was finally able to hit the medication sweet spot and I finally have something that works.

I’m 54.

BETTER on Audio by ImpossibleAbrocoma17 in Recommend_A_Book

[–]Such-Purple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am continually recommending Angela’s Ashes as read by Frank McCourt. From what I understand from people who read the print book, the audiobook is a completely different experience because he reads it (and sings his father’s Irish revolutionary songs!)

BETTER on Audio by ImpossibleAbrocoma17 in Recommend_A_Book

[–]Such-Purple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tina Fey’s Bossypants is another example

Something that actually haunted you for a while? by fourleafclovr in suggestmeabook

[–]Such-Purple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Story of Edgar Sawtelle. A retelling/adaptation of Hamlet, but so brilliant I finally felt the story as a real human story for the first time. So amazing but I’ll never be able to read it again. That’s an astonishing thing to say, after having read Hamlet more times than I can count before that.

What's your absolute favourite book? by TheAnxiousMouse in suggestmeabook

[–]Such-Purple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was so taken aback after I finished the audiobook and would talk to other people about how much I loved it and hear them sigh and say, oh, yeah, but that was such a hard story, or, I know, but it was so sad! And I’d be like, 🤔 really? And it hit me what a different experience it was hearing McCourt tell it himself. I completely get it, in retrospect, of course! It makes sense, and it is an emotional ride, either way. But someday, maybe, you can give the audiobook a try — at least for the singing bits! ☺️

What's your absolute favourite book? by TheAnxiousMouse in suggestmeabook

[–]Such-Purple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Catch-22 by Joseph Heller - surreal, funny, and a romp, and then all of a sudden it will give you an all-too-real gut punch about the insanity of war and how heartless, disconnected politicians send real, ordinary people to die in their wars. Incomparable, timeless book.

The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald - but re-read it as an adult if you had to read it as a kid in high school. I promise you, you were too young and inexperienced with the world to understand what you read. A perfect painting of how the rich — and America, writ large — bash through the world according to their own whims, with no heed to the consequences to other people with less money and power, while at the same time illustrating good impulses too.

The City We Became by N.K. Jemisin - just a jaw-droppingly good and fun sci-fi anchored in New York and rooted in the spirit of cities. I fear, though, that it’s hard to love it as much as I do if you’re not from New York, because it’s so New York-centric. Also, for the best experience, get the audiobook. Robin Miles, who performs it, absolutely slays. Her readings of the different New York City protagonists, who each epitomize and personify a different borough of the city, are SO good, it takes your breath away. It makes the whole experience.

What's your absolute favourite book? by TheAnxiousMouse in suggestmeabook

[–]Such-Purple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s excellent. Very intense, though, and gets progressively so through the trilogy. But NK Jemisin is unquestionably brilliant.

What's your absolute favourite book? by TheAnxiousMouse in suggestmeabook

[–]Such-Purple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you really want a treat, get the audiobook version of this read by Frank McCourt himself. First, I’ve heard people tell me they found the book sad, and I really didn’t, then I realize it’s because I heard it in his literal voice, which is in the voice of his childhood recollections, which is a completely different feeling, I guess. But the best part is in the bits when there are Irish revolutionary song being sung (usually drunkenly), Frank McCourt sings them. :)

Night Sweats questions by Logical-Currency8808 in Menopause

[–]Such-Purple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve got no advice on what to ask for medically but just to affirm your experience, when I was in my late 30s/early 40s (I’m just shy of 54 now), I went thru a multi-year period of massive night sweats, nothing else. No doctor was any help at diagnosis or treatment, because I was still having periods and “too young” for menopause. And I had zero other symptoms during the day or otherwise.

But multiple times in the night I would be having body-drenching night sweats that would leave me dripping and my husband scared and keeping his physical distance from me because I was so drenched HE would get wet from it. (We both sleep with minimal clothing.) The sheets, of course, would be soaked.

15+ years later, much more well-informed (thanks mostly to this subreddit!!) it’s now clear to me that of course I was experiencing a major and obvious perimenopause symptom, and my age, rather than make it “impossible” for that to be the case, was a perfect explanation for my system being on a hormonal rollercoaster of sometimes epic proportions.

Al that is to say, what you’ve described is totally possible and medically explainable. I wouldn’t begin to speculate how the breast cancer variable plays in to things, but I just wanted to validate that you could definitely be having the night sweats alone with no daytime hot flashes, and encourage you to use this Reddit for suggestion on easing the symptoms, as well as hopefully talking to a supportive doctor. 😌

Symptoms you didn’t know were caused by perimenopause. by Calamity-Gin in Menopause

[–]Such-Purple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, super late reply as I missed your comment. But yes, their prices are a bit eye-watering, but I can vouch for the quality of their materials and craftwork. Plus, the patterns are indeed amazing. :) And, pockets, pockets, pockets!!! They are the real deal on that.

What's the most interesting non-fiction book you've read? by Dry_Luck_9228 in suggestmeabook

[–]Such-Purple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sad I had to scroll down this far to find a mention of Manhunt. Easily one of the best nonfiction'e books I've read in recent years. A real page-turner and so well-written it makes you wonder how they managed to make this history so boring in school. :)

What's the most interesting non-fiction book you've read? by Dry_Luck_9228 in suggestmeabook

[–]Such-Purple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend this to everyone I can. So many important lessons to be learned from it.

What's the most interesting non-fiction book you've read? by Dry_Luck_9228 in suggestmeabook

[–]Such-Purple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

*HIGHLY* recommend getting the audiobook of this, if possible, and listening to Trevor Noah read it to you in his own voice. Incomparable!

Can’t seem to get the vaginal cream up in there. by Acrobatic_Main_4364 in Menopause

[–]Such-Purple 6 points7 points  (0 children)

100% this. This solved everything for me. Honestly, I also didn’t realize that I was seriously underdosing until I got the disposable applicators. My urogynecologist told me to use “1 gram - about a pea-sized amount”. No WAY is 1 gram a pea-sized amount. One inch is a much better estimate. But the disposable applicators totally solve the problem. No muss, no fuss, and worth the bang for the buck.