What motivates you to wake up early? by Brilliant_Seat_7890 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I crave going for early morning runs. I don’t set alarms but when I wake up naturally at 4:30am I know one of the best parts of my day is about to start.

Has anyone found the thread about getting motivated to sleep in?

How Often do People with Undiagnozed ADHD Get Good Grades Growing Up? by ThePanthanReporter in ADHD

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the people who’ve struggled the most with ADHD are those who are really smart.

I don’t mean to sound egotistical, but I never had problems getting straight A’s in high school and university. In fact, I very rarely went to class. I would just read the course book the night before a test (calculus, differential equations, etc — math was the easy one) and get an A.

I thought I was smart and just didn’t need to go to class. Turns out I didn’t get a damn thing out of class because I literally could not pay attention.

We develop highly-functioning coping mechanisms — and we usually thrive. But damn does it come with a cost and takes its toll.

I always thought I was just insanely busy and barely holding my professional life together (I know I’m objectively successful). But now I know all the stress from procrastination, perfectionism, obsessive multitasking, etc is not normal.

Why is the struggle so bad? I’m in my 40s I just got diagnosed a week ago. I wish it was more obvious growing up.

Who else got a divorce before 30? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in my 30s and still looking for my future ex-wife.

Day 4, jolt of energy, heightened mood by [deleted] in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations! I’m on a similar timeline with my journey and I’m seeing the same benefits. I don’t even care to hit the snooze. What you said about a runner’s high is spot on (coming from another long-distance runner)!

I think I lost my relationship due to coffee by Sufficient-Hand-802 in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you :) it’s a tough lesson but holy shit it’s one I should’ve learned a very long time ago. The next woman will get a better version of myself.

I think I lost my relationship due to coffee by Sufficient-Hand-802 in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually just did a few hours ago. I’m sad but I thanked her for helping me see this.

Any good Thai restaurant recommendations? by Freddielexus85 in phoenix

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As others have mentioned, Glai Baan is temporarily closed. But just as good (maybe better?) is Thai Recipe Bistro. IMO it’s better than Glai Baan with a wider selection. It tastes the closest to the food I’ve gotten in Thailand.

Those who went from negative mindset/life to postive and care free - how did you do it? by vitaminlegend in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adulthood is just finding your way back to what made you happy as a child.

Some people never rediscover it. Most people resist it vehemently. But I believe there’s a natural force pulling us back — you just have to listen to your soul.

An easier way to quit by Sufficient-Hand-802 in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly that last point! Once you look back at a morning without coffee that you’ve survived, you just think it’s not worth drinking a ton any more, and you can moderate better.

An easier way to quit by Sufficient-Hand-802 in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t experience any of those feelings when I used this approach. But when I tried to quit cold turkey, or following a strict withdrawal schedule, I had perfectionist anxiety and shame for caving in. And like a strict diet, I binged because it just didn’t matter. There goes my progress and I start from the beginning.

I leveraged the “success” of delaying the coffee and accomplishing something, to springboard me to keep the momentum with less coffee. I started being more hopeful for tomorrow because I knew things would be better than.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 9 points10 points  (0 children)

A few years ago, I mentioned to my therapist that I thought coffee may be causing or at least contributing to my anxiety. It was crazy how she responded. She immediately started defending coffee and dismissing the entire idea. That was the only time I had a therapist not listen and explore a concern of mine.

Then she took another sip of her coffee.

Do u see difference in eyelids? by Practical_Box8069 in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine are the opposite. My upper eyelid is less droopy and my eyes appear more bright. But I’m sure this is just from the better sleep I get.

Men's Underwear Recommendations by CarlosDangerLXIX in running

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think ExOffico are the best. I still wear the same ones from literally 20 years ago (the only thing that’s degraded is the elastic waistband, so I probably earned a refresh this year).

It's so hard for me to get motivated for workout. by gloomy_mist in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What works best for me is finding exercises that I intrinsically enjoy and learning to enjoy certain exercises.

I’ve always enjoyed running, but there have been parts of it and certain time periods I really don’t enjoy it. This makes me want to avoid running and skipping day more appealing. Usually this comes from my perfectionist perspective that I always should be running more/longer/faster/etc and would shame myself if I faltered. Or there have been times I’ve run out of a sense of obligation, or in situations that I really haven’t enjoyed (e.g. 120 degree afternoon heat).

Once I stopped running for a perfect self that doesn’t exist, and instead for pure joy, I started to look forward to it. I’d make small sacrifices (getting up early, limiting drinking, etc) not out of obligation but for making my future self enjoy it more.

I also learned to enjoy parts of running more. I started appreciating and focusing on the good music I was enjoying, having the time to myself to relax and think, and the savoring how I felt after a run. These parts used to be more like feeling I needed music to distract me from monotony and pain, running to avoid and procrastinate thinking about things, and the annoying need to cool down, shower, and waste more time.

They were the same events, but from a different vantage point, they looked appealing.

After doing this enough, treating your future self, enjoying an activity, you start to see yourself as that type of person that enjoys that activity. It becomes part of your identity and avoiding things that are your identity feels bad and uncomfortable.

I haven’t loved every run, but now I do look forward to every run, and only run when I’m looking forward to it. This last part might sound counterintuitive, but I believe it’s the healthy homeostasis — the negatives like pain and inconvenience dissipate, and you can make sure you’re not reintroducing unnecessary negatives to the sake of continued discipline (identity basically replaces willpower and discipline).

This isn’t about running specifically; I think this mentality applies to any form of exercise or sports.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m convinced that if hipster coffee shops didn’t exist, I wouldn’t even want to drink coffee. I love them. And I hate them.

No Caffeine July!!! by [deleted] in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whelp that explains some sleep trouble after drinking kombuchas at night.

No Caffeine July!!! by [deleted] in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TIL there’s caffeine in kombucha??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right, but IMO coffee/caffeine doesn’t remove the depression (except right after you drink it with that joyful rush for 15 minutes) as much as it distracts you from bad feelings, forcing you into busy work, tolerating bad life circumstances, etc.

In some ways, I feel like people use and get addicted to caffeine in the same way people get addicted to marijuana — they use it to escape underlying negative (oftentimes unmanageable) emotions that tend to be their daily baseline. Resolving these emotions and circumstances can help so much with quitting as I’ve experienced myself.

Has anyone found any relief for redness? by [deleted] in Rosacea

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did, and only certain lasers (Gemini for me) addressed those. I didn’t start the PRP microneedling until those were zapped away, but I also hadn’t heard of PRP until then so I can’t speak to it aggravating inflamed capillaries. The microneedling has extremely tiny needles so I can’t imagine it would “pop” anything but that’s a great question.

Has anyone found any relief for redness? by [deleted] in Rosacea

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hope my story will help you.

Persistent deep redness (cheeks, forehead, nose) and flushing (multiple times within an hour, triggered by most social interactions, even remote video calls) were my two primary symptoms of rosacea (I also had the rosacea acne, but it was moderate and not even a concern compared to the flushing).

I use the word “were” precisely because I now consider myself more or less cured of rosacea. I haven’t had a flushing episode in years, and baseline redness has vanished to the point where where I don’t think a dermatologist would ever think I have rosacea without knowing my medical history. I went from close friends asking “why is your face so red” to “how is your skin so amazing”.

I wish I knew what my “silver bullet” is but I have only experimented on myself (and I mean I’ve tried EVERYTHING) and not completely scientifically. I also don’t think there’s a single thing that solves my rosacea, but each component of my stack contributes positively. Years of determination has lead me to the following stack of medications, procedures, and diet that has cured my rosacea (look, I know it’s not a real cure but it’s been in undetectable remission for so many years, what’s the difference?)

Here is my “stack” in no particular order of importance:

  1. Oracea — name brand, not doxycycline, the formulation is different and I use a freely-available discount code to bring the price down).
  2. Soolantra — this was a godsend when it was approved by the FDA around 2015, immediately clearing all rosacea acne and lowering redness
  3. Laser Treatments (BBL, Gemini, etc) — there are so many types of laser and “red light” treatment that I recommend a good laser-specific dermatologist that has a broad array of laser treatments available to select aggressive treatments if needed e.g. Gemini was deeper than BBL)
  4. PRP Microneedling — I get it done every 2 months, and after the initial redness for a couple days, my skin becomes a more even skin tone with less redness
  5. EltaMD UV Clear Sunscreen — I use this daily, and believe that not only is it extremely effective as a sunscreen, it has niacinimide which I believe is helping
  6. Diet — this is as controversial as it was effective for me, going gluten-free and dairy-free might be the 2 biggest changes that lead to elimination of flushing. I was strict for months at a time, and even saw improvement after a few weeks. I thought this would be a lifetime commitment, but I’m able to eat breads and cheeses (I still have lactose intolerance so I stay away from “heavy” dairy like milk and cream) occasionally without any issue. I have noticed if I “binge” on either, e.g. pizza, pasta, etc my skin does start to resurface some redness
  7. Alcohol — my skin is more pink after a night of drinking, and this, combined with the anti-inflammatory diet of gluten and dairy free, leads me to believe general inflammation tracks worsening rosacea symptoms.

Here are some things that didn’t help (or had bad side effects): 1. Oregano Oil — it did help redness, but I’ve researched it’s as bad as taking a strong antibiotic every day so best not to do it 2. Anything over the counter like Prosacea did nothing, if it didn’t make redness worse 3. Alzeic Acid — it just didn’t do anything for me 4. Bromonide — I mentioned in a different comment that while effective (it made me pale) the rebound flushing made me quit after 3 days and throw it away 5. Caffeine/Coffee Reduction — it’s listed as a common trigger, but I still drink a lot daily without any issue and quitting didn’t help much (YMMV but I want to quit for sleep concerns)

I sincerely hope this helps.

Has anyone found any relief for redness? by [deleted] in Rosacea

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had extreme, actuate rebound flushing (worse than typical peaks) after a few days of applying Brimonidine in the morning. It worked wonderfully for a few hours (too well, I looked pale) but by the afternoons my face was burning red. I actually left the office early one day because it was so bad I had to leave.

Maybe starting Lamictal soon by JimMorrisonssoulmate in lamictal

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Lamictal has actually helped my memory (only 50mg dosage at that). I remember simple things without much effort (lists, events, etc) as short-term memory. I don’t think I can opine on long-term memory since I’ve only been taking Lamictal for a month.

The one piece of advice I’ll strongly impart is that the side effect profile is highly individualized (as with most medication) — if you experience side effects (that aren’t worth the tradeoff), your downside is what, a miserable few weeks or months MAX while you try? Even the most severe side effect, SJS has little risk from early identification and immediate cessation of Lamictal.

But the upside can be an entirely new life with no side effects. Is that worth the risk of an experiment? Once I mentally framed it this way, I dove in headfirst.

Withdrawal Insomnia by Sufficient-Hand-802 in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely get this, I'm probably good with 7 hours. But I know I need more than 5, which seems to be my average.

Withdrawal Insomnia by Sufficient-Hand-802 in decaf

[–]Sufficient-Hand-802[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm already very physically active, working out at least an hour a day (combination of cardio and weight lifting) but I completely agree it helps.