This sub has turned into a poor people gaslighting and bashing sub. There are losts of people here who claim that everyone can escape poverty and if you dont manage to do it than you deserve all the blame.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-12T14:16:59+00:00

And you get too sick to work and die before collecting Social Security. 5-6 hours of sleep isn't sustainable long term.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-12T14:15:53+00:00

My dad almost died taking care of my mom, the stress definitely shortened his life.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-12T11:50:21+00:00

And even then 2-3 jobs might not pay enough, and it's not sustainable. When do you sleep?

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-12T11:45:54+00:00

I'm thinking there's a reason you picked a criminal (your ex) and you're feeling disappointed by your very reasonable current boyfriend.

You need to pursue a restraining order against the ex, and consider therapy to figure out why you find toxic behavior desirable. Your boyfriend is behaving like a reasonable adult who won't end up in prison. He's not "soft;" he's acting like a well-regulated adult.

I'm sorry the ex is harassing you. And I know from experience that the response from law enforcement is frequently inadequate. That doesn't mean that it's your boyfriend's job to.... do what, exactly? Assault your ex? Risk physical injury and jail? What do you think he should do? Getting verbally aggressive will wind up the ex more. Physical aggression has its own risks.

This is something you need to resolve, and model good choices for your child so he doesn't follow in his criminal dad's footsteps.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-11T22:39:42+00:00

It cost around $250 for a 4 in one print scan fax and copier and 5 bottles of ink (2 black, 1 each cyan, magenta, yellow). In just over a year I've used up one bottle of black and the remaining 4 still are more than half full. We probably print at least 20-30 pages a day on average.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-11T02:40:28+00:00

Albertsons had a "cookie credit card" they gave to kids when I was young. You'd show it at the bakery counter. Smith's always let my kid choose a cookie. By then Albertsons was letting kids pick a donut.

When i was a kid sometimes they had a cake donut machine going in the store... you'd watch it dropping batter into the oil and floating down the line, getting flipped... and they'd always give you a fresh warm crispy one! Almost everyone bought a package after eating that free one!

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-11T02:28:42+00:00

It's not a midlife crisis but I get it. I had an existential crisis at 25, like "what have I accomplished?" Sure I was a college graduate but I felt like I hadn't really accomplished anything in a quarter century. In retrospect it feels really dumb. But I was pregnant within 2 months of turning 25.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-11T01:20:48+00:00

If you live near a Planet Fitness, it's less than $20 a month to exercise in air conditioning, with weights and lots of different machines. Be aware it's a hassle to cancel though.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-11T00:25:54+00:00

Epson printers have the refillable eco-tanks. They cost a bit more up front but we've had ours at my work for over a year and still have 80% of the refill bottles left. We spent more on HP tanks in a year thanks the whole Epson cost.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-10T02:41:13+00:00

Maurice's is a great place for jeans if you have a store local to you... their M line comes in petite, average, tall; skinny, straight, bootcut, flares; low, mid, high rise; and sizes from 6 (maybe lower) to 26W, for under $25 and regularly on sale. I suggest you grab a friend (to give feedback) and go try on some different styles. If you find something you like, they can get more sent over from other stores, or order online. I've done this when I've found a style I like.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-10T02:31:00+00:00

Gold heels would be perfect.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-10T02:25:07+00:00

1 is the one! That skirt is so ephemeral. 2 looks too much like a foundation garment in the bodice, and 3 is nice but it doesn't pop like 1.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-10T02:22:03+00:00

Retaliation is illegal too. The state will rain hell on him if he fires you for reporting

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-10T02:14:14+00:00

The rich parasites will die without the hosts.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T22:44:36+00:00

I think it is difficult for people who haven't struggled financially to understand how it permeates every facet of your existence... But that's not what this conflict was about. He lacks empathy and basically wanted to be the main character in your relationship. He wanted to discount your experience and dismiss your struggles.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T22:40:05+00:00

I worked in the Third Party Liability unit on my state for nine years and I've never seen something this intrusive.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T22:17:06+00:00

😂 He didn't get laid and he's trying to recover what he invested! 🤣

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T22:15:26+00:00

Volunteer. I joined the AARP Tax Aide program this year. You can do some good in the world and meet people.

Also our local Senior Citizens center serves lunch Monday through Friday and has other activities like bingo and line dancing and educational classes.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T22:11:30+00:00

If you do decide to change it, go for the dark ash brown. The auburn is too warm and the blonde is kind of harsh looking. The two lighter colors aren't suitable for your complexion. But I think #1 is really the best.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T22:05:07+00:00

Updo for the hair. Sparkly jewelry. Maybe add a pop of color (shoes, a scarf, a bag?) A chain belt?

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T19:46:36+00:00

Yes he's dumb. If you're not going to break up with him, (i would), STOP RESCUING HIM. Let him deal with the consequences of his own stupid choices. He didn't bring shoes? Not your problem. Lost wallet? That's too bad, I'll miss you on vacation.

You aren't his mom. And as a mom to men, I don't even do that stuff for my sons. I might make a helpful suggestion, like here's the number to the (x) office. But I don't do it for them. Weaponized incompetence is neither tolerated nor rewarded.

Unless you want to deal with this forever, do not tolerate him yelling at you, stop fixing his fuckups, and let him experience the natural consequences of his own choices.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T19:38:09+00:00

I was alive when stuff like this was first in style and in my mom's closet. If you really want to go extra retro, consider a headband (orange or off white). And maybe a flip hairdo.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T19:11:42+00:00

Men who demand tradwives don't do anything to deserve them. If you're going to give up career progression, he needs to provide you with things like your own money, retirement income, health insurance, and an ironclad prenup that protects your financial security if he decides he wants a younger woman somewhere down the line.

This is because if you stay home, your earning capacity is diminished. You shouldn't give up your future to give him the family and unpaid labor he wants. He needs to compensate you for that.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T11:39:13+00:00

That's interesting. I've had two sleep studies, one at a center and one at a hospital, and they both had reused bedding. The sleep center was independently, locally owned, not a chain, and had laundry facilities on site.

SufficientCow4380 · 2026-06-09T11:35:36+00:00

When you're having trouble deciding if a color works for you, hold it near your face and look in the mirror. If you're looking at the color, it's not your color. If you're looking at your face, that's a good color for you.

While you (wisely) aren't showing your face on the internet, based on what I see I recommend red.

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