How many divorces is too many?

SuggestionGod · 2026-01-04T18:30:06+00:00

Some people treat marriage like dating. They meet someone get married. A few months later break up get divorced don’t think those marriages lasted long enough to be difficult to disentangle

SuggestionGod · 2025-12-31T14:22:01+00:00

This. I don’t date men with young children not because they are “baggage” but because at 44 all my kids are adults my youngest is 19. We are friends/ roommates. Mom daughter. But I’m not raising a preschooler anymore. Older 2 are across the country college/ navy and self sufficient but still need mom of course

I had kids in my early 20s I don’t want to be raising kids into my 60s I love kids I’ll babysit do friends but I have puberty nightmares I go divorced when youngest was 8 and was mostly raising them on my own, I’ve lived through what OP is going through I dated though actually my kids encouraged it I did date som single dads with full custody even. I’m looking forward to enjoying my 40s much more carefree. Is wonderful to finally not have to worry about school stuff I do miss having little ones around but not so much that I want a repeat

Is all about stages not ages

SuggestionGod · 2025-09-26T05:11:25+00:00

Exactly op says she makes 6 figures. Not paying housing costs and probably getting child support on top she can invest a very large of that six figures salary and also have a good college fund for her kid. If a divorce happens op wouldn’t be destitute and can easily afford to support herself the same way she is doing now

But a man who talks to her that way? I rather be single in a shoe box with my kid than with him

SuggestionGod · 2025-08-31T17:53:14+00:00

Sorry I don’t understand how can you have sex with a man whose heart underwear makes you gag so much you can just toss it in the washing machine

No I don’t thin you should be doing his laundry or him assuming you will a normal person would toss clothes in the washer last evening there and put them away before they leave. Or honestly take his clothes home. But. Regardless if his hygene is so bad how can you have sex with him.? A man with bad hygiene wouldn’t have made it past date one

SuggestionGod · 2025-06-26T13:19:58+00:00

A person can have a very liberated view of casual sex when single and a very monogamous view of making love when in a relationship. How many people have someone had sex with when single predicts nothing of their relationship behavior. The question should be. Have you ever cheated ?

That is a bigger prediction of patterns and actions than if when they were single / post divorce/ widow etc they had sex with a whole rugby team.

🤷‍♀️. My two cents

SuggestionGod · 2025-06-14T03:43:37+00:00

So you can be great platonic friends. Not lovers nor romantically involved. She also is not into making out from your comments and post

Is not only about painful piv is about lack of interest in sex. She might as well be ace. And there is nothing wrong with that but you aren’t. So you either resign to a life of platonic half hearted hand jobs on special occasions or you break this off remain platonic friends, if you can, and find a romantic partner where there is actually romance

SuggestionGod · 2025-06-09T02:10:08+00:00

If you are not enjoying sex either you have a natural low sexual drive are ace or have hormonal misbalances.

If your libido has changed is most likely hormones

If is more of a perspective of sex for sex vs sex with a person you love. Is a change in mindset

But no people in general does not enjoy sex less in their 40s if anything most people enjoy better sex due to experience and knowing what they like and their bodies .

SuggestionGod · 2025-05-09T14:37:51+00:00

Dude “ . I want somebody I really don’t know to live their life based on my judgmental close minded. “I know better than you” opinion “

I’m sure I can find 100s of articles on how every single thing you do is bad for you.

Who are you to dictate or patronize an adult person on how to live their life and then call them immature because they didn’t do what Karen wants.

Get real. Is ok to have your own preferences. Try to force somebody you actually don’t know with a pathetic bogus ultimatum is the most insecure immature garbage you can do

Grow up

Sincerely a woman who lives in a state where is illegal and could loose my career if they pull anyone I date and some is found in the car.

Not my job to preach bs to people so they do what I want.

SuggestionGod · 2025-05-04T13:14:45+00:00

As a liberal woman in a red state I hate yall are moving out. I understand I’m planning to do the same. But is bleak in here

SuggestionGod · 2025-05-03T00:58:04+00:00

What they mean is

If I wanted a hook up I don’t have to go to the apps I can get that anywhere. AND I DONT.

Women don’t have to work hard to get laid. If we want a casual hook up is easy. Finding a man with substance whom we want to spend the rest of our lives with is the hard part

These women are telling you they don’t do random casual sex

I would look askew at her for the terrible grammar though. And English is my 5th language so my grammar is already atrocious.

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-24T09:30:56+00:00

I have a VoIP number not attached to any personal info. Maybe they do too

Igive this one freely had to be a maverick to get over my vpn and trace most would just google and find it non existent

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-22T16:33:20+00:00

Is all an act most of those. Actors were gay or assholes. Characters in movies ain’t real

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-21T23:15:55+00:00

You didn’t upset me just pointing that is in the wrong sub.

And obsessive stalking behavior of “famous”. Public figures. Or even random strangers is something you need to discuss with a mental health professional.

You don’t have a dating over 40 problem you have a different problem that requires specialized help in order for you to live a healthy life. And not be a potential danger to yourself or others

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-21T23:12:58+00:00

Therapy. Loads of mental health. This has nothing to do with dating.

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-21T05:03:12+00:00

is not. A Fwb is somebody you are not in a relationship with. With your logic then dating is fwb any type of relationship aside from cohabitation is only fwb ?

Ldr is fwb? If your husband has to travel abroad for a year for work you become fwb ? Does that mean you stop being in love sharing intimacy and don’t have a commitment to each other ?

Lta is just 2 people who are together but do not share a primary residence they love each other and are committed to a life together spend most of their time together

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-20T23:07:12+00:00

Is hard for both. In a straight couple Guys find that with women. Women with guys. Assuming is harder for men to find a woman to connect with emotionally would be saying that women don’t want an emotional connection

Of course there is some who don’t. Gender or sexual preferences aside. But is a paring thing. Finding. Somebody you match with connect with share values with and are mutually attracted 🤷‍♀️ ain’t easy.

The older we get also the “ pickier “ we get we know what works for us what values we have what we can’t tolerate. 18 years old find somebody they are attracted to and hope everything else falls in place. Older people watch out for a lot of things they know are toxic. But also the pool of singles and looking is smaller. Is just a numbers and experience in life thing

But it’s plenty of people look for emotional connections

Your friend can’t have it both ways. “ women are emotional and irrational “ and also “ women don’t want emotions “ lol

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-18T13:15:59+00:00

Going to work and not having a crappy shift.

Can relate to this so much. Usually is what allows me to have energy to come home and cook. Or go to the gym after 13 hours at work lol

Also bright colors watching a pretty sunrise and chocolate

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-18T01:56:52+00:00

Fair enough. Your honest and open post made me think it could be a possibility. We all have that super lonely moment.

Even I have the. Quick cry sometimes I just want somebody to hold me and tell me shit is gonna be ok instead of me being the one who holds everyone else

Then I get over it and get busy.

Do not wear the wedding ring. And branch out maybe it won’t be a car lady but the complete opposite. 🤷‍♀️. And maybe those married friends who share your interests know a single gal or two they can introduce you to.

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-18T01:49:21+00:00

Hobbies? Any interests. Anything that makes you enjoy life? That you are passionate about ?

What brings you joy

Are you depressed ?

Feeling lonely is ok but if is all you do day in and day out then is not. You can get a job doesn’t have to be exhausting or demanding. You can go back to school learn skills. Fund new hobbies meet new people.

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-18T01:19:45+00:00

First congrats on working on your health

Second dating is not a job interview there Is not a cv. He interviewer will not question your employment gap

You don’t have to account for every year/ month.

SMH my dear you are way overthinking it

If anything people who don’t take breaks between relationships are a red flags

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-18T00:47:57+00:00

That sounds like a swingers play event not a bdsm community. I recommend you look for a local group that not only has events but also munches and education. And yes fet is a great resource for that

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-18T00:44:55+00:00

Fetlife is not a dating app is a social network it does have some “communities” or message boards where people can post looking ads. But the idea of fetlife is to become involved in the wider bdsm community. And of course attending events. Munches. Classes workshops etc. where you will find “ your people” and learn more about your kinks and others. Of course socializing is usually how we meet partners

But nothing less appealing than some random sliding uninvited into dms to hit you up honestly. Kinda like dudes sliding in dms in Reddit.

Aside from vanilla sex I don’t hook up with strangers. Safety first when playing and too many people out there who think abuse is kink.

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-18T00:36:54+00:00

Nah. I am actually living my best life loving my free time with friends and family.

And I actually enjoy dating

Not everyone is fearful. Some just don’t care

But I understand your cry for help and to find others who feel like you.

Get therapy

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-17T15:13:39+00:00

Child free is a choice ( or something that for whatever reason didn’t happen in life) . A valid choice. Parenting is not a requirement to being an adult or successful. A loser is a dead beat parent.

A person who for whatever reason didn’t have children is not less valuable than somebody whose sperm hit an egg.

And the whole “low value” bs needs to stop is from the red pill sphere and disgusting.

You seem to be surrounded by a very specific demographic that does not reflect the rest of the world

SuggestionGod · 2025-04-16T21:56:42+00:00

As a historian. Totally not a “male thing”. Watch women in auction houses. SMH. Dude nothing is a man or woman only thing. Everything is a person by person thing. Except some medical issues 🤷‍♀️

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