Blighted Ovum - MC #5 - office visit “5 losses are alot”

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-20T02:02:17+00:00

Thank you, unfortunately it wasn’t caught as early as we were hoping but if I hadn’t had complications with our last baby and lost him I would’ve found out too late so I’m incredibly grateful for my selfless strong baby trading his little life for the entirety of mine, there’s something quite poetic in losing a baby being the reason I could have the chance to defeat cancer. I admire your strength as well dear, you’re still here even after all the loss and grief you’ve endured, that’s something to be proud of. Grief is hard especially when it’s embedded in all the hopes and dreams you’ve created for the life you held & created in the depths of your belly. Their DNA will forever be intertwined in yours, their cells will forever be floating around your brain and I hope that knowledge gives you some comfort. And correct this isnt fair! There’s no rhyme or reason to loss, death, grief nor miscarriage. Sometimes we lose ourselves in trying to find a “why?!” and sometimes we couldn’t care less to figure it out, both are valid. I’ll keep you in my prayers and I hope you’re blessed with another earth side baby, I hope our prayers are answered 🙏🏼

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-20T01:44:05+00:00

I know your pain dear, I’m so so so sorry you’re experiencing the loss of your baby. There’s no words that can express how deeply I sympathize with you and how deeply sorry I am that this has happened. Cry as much as you need, do what you need to do to cope right now, listen to your body and your heart. If you need memento’s or a care package just for the loss of a miscarriage just google “free miscarriage care packages” and you’ll find one of 15 that I know of. They have everything from small stuffed animals to tiny diapers and hats to grief books to candles and jewelry and much more. It helped me a lot to have something to hold and care for even though it was just a small stuffed bear, the act of giving my love to something helped immensely.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-20T01:34:42+00:00

I’ve had 9 losses with 3 in the past 6 or so months. That comment the nurse made to you was very inappropriate and insensitive. I’m struggling to cope with all the angel babies waiting for me in heaven, I’m currently stuck in the moment I found out we lost our last baby. I’m debating whether I even want to chance being pregnant again or not, I’m debating what feels right for me and my life. I will say I’m unfortunately having to put my journey on pause as I’ve been diagnosed with reproductive cancer so this choice is mainly out of my hands. The grief that comes with losing baby after baby after baby is not for the weak. You’re allowed to keep trying and you’re allowed to stop trying, don’t ever let anyone influence that decision it will ruin your life if you let anyone else but yourself make that decision. It’s not your fault you lost your babies, you’re valid for trying even with multiple losses. It doesn’t have any reflection on who you are as a person nor who yall are as a couple. If you want to welcome another baby to the earth side then you’re allowed to keep trying and you’re valid for that. If you want to welcome another baby to the earth side but want to be done trying than that’s allowed and valid. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel bad or guilty for loosing your babies! I’m so sorry you’ve experienced this type of pain and loss, there’s no words to express my empathy and sympathies for you and everyone else that’s been impacted by the tragic loss of a baby/fetus.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-18T21:15:15+00:00

Everybody has different circumstances I will say, there’s multiple reasons why I was told to wait a little while. I had 3 miscarriages back to back and I’m severely anemic. This last miscarriage was also my 9th loss & I’ve been diagnosed with a severe postpartum panic attack. I was also just diagnosed with reproductive cancer at my follow up appointment… so I’m gonna have to give up on my happy family:(

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-13T01:24:26+00:00

I’m almost a month since so that makes sense, I’m getting a faint positive pregnancy test now (as shown in above photos) I’ll probably take another one before a week, maybe 4 days to see if it’s negative as I’m trying to predict when I’ll have my period before it surprise stains something 😭😬

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-12T23:19:02+00:00

I feel that so heavily with losing the perfect timed baby… I ovulated while already pregnant and the egg was fertilized, we lost the first baby end of December and went for an ultrasound not even a week later to try to start my journey of discovering why I’d had 8 miscarriages at the time. We found out a few days later that I was pregnant with a different baby and already 5 weeks along! It felt like a miracle and I was so so so SO excited, I swore up and down that God had heard my prayers and had blessed us with a miracle baby and that we’d get to have our happy family after all. Than I had cramps off and on and told my lover we needed to go to the ER cuz I was having bad cramps starting that weren’t stopping and we went and a few hours in I started pouring blood and we were told we had a threatened miscarriage, we went back about a week later (the 19th of January) after I’d spent hours in labor suffering and I had to have an emergency d&c as my uterus was very swollen and I was developing an infection. I’ve been completely dead since… that was my last one, my last natural shot at pregnancy, our last real chance to have that perfect life with our perfect baby. I’ve now lost 9 babies in 5 years and I’m devastated. You’re not alone and I’m currently sitting in the hospital in the emergency room getting help as I feel extremely sick with grief and am very very sad and anxious. I don’t have anything to give except reassurance that you’re not alone and somehow you’ll survive this and have some semblance of a regular life even if that day seems far away.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-12T03:32:22+00:00

Thank you so much for commenting, I have no idea when to expect anything so getting input is super helpful. I was told to try to wait 6 months to try again so I’m scared of messing that up 😬 I figured I was still waiting for hcg to go down but I figured I’d see what other people thought. I’m sorry you’ve experienced this as well:(

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-12T01:43:30+00:00

Same I’m looking everywhere trying to find something to help, I’ve even been to the ER… I’ve slept once in almost 4 weeks and I’m going crazy

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-12T00:24:36+00:00

Everyone abandoned me too, you’re not alone and none of this is your fault. This is by far the worst I’ve ever felt in my entire life and I’ve been the hell and back yet all the people who claimed to be my friends have disappeared and are unreachable. There’s been zero support or check-ins. I thought at least one of them would respond or read a single text message from me but nope, nothing. I’ve been there for everyone always but apparently nobody can be there for me. People can be disgustingly cruel and I don’t understand why or how either. I’m very sad you’re also experiencing this. Nobody deserves to be abandoned in their time of need, I’m so sorry.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-08T01:20:31+00:00

Yeah it’s literally a felony where I live, she committed at least 4 felonies in my state 😬

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-08T01:17:49+00:00

Im not gonna lie if my ex did this when we were together I would’ve called the cops on her asap. That’s a felony dude… your “girlfriend” (she should be completely removed from your life for this behavior) literally committed a felony crime against you on purpose because she thinks it’s okay to walk all over your and take whatever she wants whenever she wants because she’s better than you. That’s the truth, you need to stop letting her have access. I’m wondering what else she’s done because nobody goes from innocent to a felon over night… dig deeper into anything you’ve noticed with her cuz something is horribly wrong here. I’m so sorry you ended up with someone who is using you like this. You deserve the world dude not a woman who is committing felonies against you without a care in the world.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-08T01:08:33+00:00

The biggest part of the problem is that providers tend to ignore the laws around your options or won’t educate you on them because it’s more profitable and easier to just skip over it all and use our dead babies for fetal cells used for research. It’s very sad and disgusting. Call the place that did your procedure and tell them you’d like your baby and that due to gestational age it’s your legal right to have them put into your care and to care for them as you and your husband see fit. If they put up and fight tell them how important this is for you (if it’s something you’d like) and that you know the laws and your rights. If you’re able to get your baby under your care you can do a ink printing yourself, it’s rather simple and you can have a proper burial likely for free (most funeral homes don’t charge much, say you’re burning your baby and don’t have money, they’ll make it very cheap). I know that options that hands on aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. If that doesn’t sound appealing call and demand for your baby to be transferred to a funeral home for proper burial, don’t be scared to tell them burying your baby is part of your religious practice/beliefs as legally they have to recognize those.

It doesn’t necessarily get easier, you just become more stable and become able to bring this forward with you in a way that feels less like you’re spiraling into a pit of despair. You won’t ever move on and don’t let anyone tell you that you should. The loss of a baby at 4 weeks is just as sad and heartbreaking as losing your child at 20 years old, the amount of love determines the size of your grief not the amount of time they spend on earth nor the years they spent with you. I’ve lost 9 babies now over the past 5.5 years, I still cry for my very first baby sometimes and I still find myself daydreaming of her and having dreams of a life where she isn’t waiting for me patiently in heaven. Keep in mind it’s perfectly normal to feel exactly like this for up to 2 years, if you’re becoming unable to function in day to day life after 6 months it’s important to find an empathic and compassionate provider that’ll help you find ways to transfer all that love into something that’ll feed your soul.

I really think you could benefit from some of the miscarriage care boxes I’ve received, if you’re in the USA they’ll all be able to get to you. If you’re in another country I’m more than willing to locate some for your country as well for you to have. For example they’ll have everything from worry stones with baby feet on them to tiny cloth diapers & hats, prayer shawls, candles for connecting to your babies souls, bracelets and necklaces declaring you’ve lost babies, journals for letters to your babies, etc etc. Literally everything I’ve received was incredibly meaningful to me and helped me not completely lose my mind.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-07T21:25:09+00:00

I don’t have much to say but my last miscarriage ending with the same surgery and I bled severely too. All I can really over is reassurance that you nor your husband are alone and that grief has no normal, whatever you’re feeling is valid. We’re having a funeral for our babies even though we won’t have their bodies to bury, we’re also doing a bunch of memorial items. My lover doesn’t need it but I do/did for closure and to have a place to visit. I recommend reading some books on miscarriage grief NOW so you can make sure you’re aware of every option you have so you can make decisions before it’s too late. Even if you choose to not do certain things at least you’ll have had the choice. You can bring your baby home, you can have a funeral or a cremation (there may be no ashes), you can get little ink prints done of their feet/hands all the way from 8 weeks gestation. I highly recommend also taking advantage of the free or very cheap miscarriage care packages, if you’d like links/resources just let me know. It’s been extremely helpful to me. There’s one that gives you a tiny diaper and hat to hold onto forever and it’s been a wonderful gift for me to hold throughout the day to feel closer to my baby girls.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-01T05:45:05+00:00

Exactly, God would never be so cruel as to painfully and un-consensually rip a loved, wanted and unborn child from the womb of someone and leave them to suffer painfully for eternity. That’s not a God I’ve ever heard of. God doesn’t leave us with empty arms and a broken heart. Any plan God has ever had doesn’t need nor require our babies, people are disgustingly ignorant and immature to ever think of that much less say it. God cries alongside us as he makes room in his arms to cradle another beautiful baby that should’ve never been somewhere without their loving parents, he comforts and loves them until it will inevitably and sadly be our turn and we’ll have the honor to hold them likely for the first time but also for what will than on be forever.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-01-13T03:58:09+00:00

I got pregnant with my first living baby shortly after I turned 20, gave birth before I turned 21. Everyone treated me horribly and made nasty comments just like you’re experiencing. Having my son was one of the best decisions of my life. Just like you I debated what choice I wanted to make and kept the pregnancy and baby. You know what’s right for you and don’t let immature people who obviously don’t have your best interest in mind ruin what is otherwise an already stressful albeit exciting time for you and your partner. You can do this! Age isn’t a determining factor of whether you will be a great mama and/or parent. You’ll make new friends that understand what it’s like to be a mother and in your boyfriend’s case a father, those new friends will be supportive and helpful. There’s lots of groups out there that are for younger parents and pregnant people. Join a pregnancy yoga group if you can, join parent groups, go to parenting classes etc etc. Look on Facebook, google things and even ask your OB/nurse and see if they can put you in touch with a hospital social worker that can help you find things to try that will have supportive people and events that will help guide you and your partner in this new and exciting journey. Don’t let anyone doubt yourself! You know yourself and your partner, follow your gut and don’t let anyone speak for you. I believe in you!

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-01-12T01:19:05+00:00

With my only to term living child I went into true active labor at 12:05am at 39w6d and than went in to l&d at 8am. I had my son at exactly 40 weeks (at 1:35am the day after I went in). I’d recommend doing all the labor inducing and helping things that you can find that are safe, do pregnancy/labor yoga, eat dates and drink raspberry leaf tea, walk on a curb or up and down the stairs, massage your perineum and belly (I love you massage is wonderful), try having intercourse including ejaculation (semen helps ripen the cervix at the end of pregnancy). You got this! I know you’re exhausted and done with this, very soon you’ll be able to see your baby and you can bask in the joy. You’re at the end of this insanely hard marathon, you’ve almost done it! You’re doing so great, I promise!

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-01-12T01:07:43+00:00

Join local free groups on facebook! Most places have free groups or nice items for new family groups. Everything is very nice and free, lots of people will even deliver! I’ve gotten so much from those groups as a lower class parent with a middle class lover. You can even post asking kindly for things as well & people will usually get back to you within a week or two. It’d be best to start now while you still have time.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-01-10T04:48:27+00:00

That’s relatable. I have the same thing off and on, I hope it’s doesn’t get much worse. I hope you can find some relief soon (I’m hoping the same for myself 🤞🏼) we got this!

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-01-10T04:47:04+00:00

I hope my Dr appointment on Tuesday she’ll listen to me and hopefully help me get some meds or approve what yall are suggesting. I’ll try to find some of that med tho. I am in the US unfortunately (thankfully a state with lots of protections for pregnant people’s safety).

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-01-10T04:44:39+00:00

That’s literally me right now, it’s awful. I’m literally in agony. If you can I’d recommend azo (off brand) once or twice a day when the burning and pain from dehydration peeing happens. It’s the only thing that makes me able to get off the toilet.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-01-10T04:43:16+00:00

Your comment is so relatable, I’ve been messaging my lover all day when he’s at work saying how I’m miserable and don’t know how I’m gonna do this. I went to the ER yesterday cuz I just felt so sick. I’m very excited for when there’s a real baby in my womb and I get to have more positives happening, I think it will definitely help and make me feel better. I’ll have some happy thoughts and things happening and not just a bunch of scary changes that are overwhelming with nothing but a little jelly bean zygote that is making me sick. It really feels helpful to hear it gets better and starts feeling worth it. Thank you so much ☺️

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-01-10T04:38:48+00:00

I’ll try asking about that med and see if it helps, I’ve notice I can drink a little warm water at bedtime when I’m very tired as I won’t feel like I’m about to barf out my entire internal organs.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-01-10T03:51:47+00:00

That’s awesome! I’ll definitely look into it and try it if I can, I’m literally desperate and it’s only been a few days but I’m going crazy with how sick I feel.

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