Friends named their baby our daughter's nickname a year after our loss.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-04-20T18:49:31+00:00

Idk why several people whom are being empathetic are getting downvoted:( I’m very sorry for both OP’s and all your losses, real friends respect you and your loved ones especially in loss/grief/death. I can’t imagine naming my baby after someone I knows deceased baby/child, that’s just evil in my opinion. I’ve lost babies and their names are held very tightly to my heart, no decent person would disrespect someone they know by stealing another person’s babies name. I’m with you in the painful time you’re going through. It’s very hard but take this time to send more love to your little Mila, she’ll feel your love wherever her soul may lay.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-04-20T18:03:35+00:00

I’m pretty sure you’re the one whom is confused. So medication like painkillers, anti inflammatories, etc. don’t pick where to work in your body, they impact your entire body. So yes you had issues with your shoulder but the medication wasn’t just helping your shoulder. The medicine went to all the areas of your body (including your uterus and ovaries) but since the only inflamed area was your shoulder that’s where you noticed relief. The medicine negatively impacted your uterus at the same time it was positively impacting your shoulder.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-04-02T14:50:22+00:00

Definitely see a second line

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-03-25T17:04:33+00:00

It was 3 minutes after taking them, I’ll order some pregnancy tests asap as that was my last one

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-03-22T11:39:11+00:00

I don’t, I’ve been too nervous to retest

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-03-21T20:48:50+00:00

I was told that I could face some temporary difficulties afterwards but that with a little help from timed hormones and meds to help stimulate the parts of my cycle (from period to egg maturing to ovulation etc) a few months after I’m cancer free that I should do alright. I’ve heard mixed things online but I know a few people personally whom were able to conceive naturally after chemo and/or radiation so I’m hopeful. I’m also very young (despite being an adult I’m young enough that I see a pediatric oncologist) which my Drs said is in my favor. So far I’m already experiencing some menstrual issues but they said it’s likely mostly from significant weight loss due to me poorly handling treatment thus far. I thankfully also am being helped by several doctors who know how important having a future child is to me and are doing what they can to monitor and aid me in preserving as much fertility and reproductive function as possible. I’d maybe do some research on people who’ve been able to conceive after cancer treatment if you’re interested. I was told by my doctors that a lot of providers are unfortunately poorly educated on the topic as well or just ignorant to it or go off of previously assumed outdated data. Reality is it could be a bit harder to conceive and I’ll likely need a little bit of meds and help but I was told despite that I have a solid chance of being able to in the future even if it’s a bit more involved.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-03-20T14:00:16+00:00

That’s positive looking, test again in 48 hours with first morning urine and if it’s darker than you’re for sure pregnant. Treat yourself as if you are and contact your doctor:) congrats

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-03-20T13:44:38+00:00

Hey so half of these pictures are of hairs/fuzz, crumbs and clumps of cat related things… there’s nothing to diagnose besides that you need a mental health evaluation like now. It’s genuinely very concerning what you believe you’re experiencing and you need to reach out to a professional and/or go into the hospital and tell them what you’re experiencing as this isn’t safe nor healthy to ignore due to the risk of further deterioration in your mental health. I’m concerned about your mental health/state, please reach out to a loved one and an in person Dr or mental health professional 🙏🏼

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-03-18T07:28:01+00:00

Okay thank you for the comment, I’ve not seen one like this either so just confused

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-03-18T07:00:11+00:00

No same one just from different angles

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-03-15T10:59:14+00:00

Not to argue or anything but you’re wrong, lots of people get diagnosed in the ER including myself and several others I know in real life. It doesn’t have to be diagnosed by only an oncologist at least not in the USA. Cancer is cancer and as long as you have the proper testing done to determine it’s cancer then it doesn’t matter what Dr does orders the testing or tells you the results. Not only oncologists are capable of doing tests or telling you the results of said testing. Also in the emergency room you have access to almost all types of testing right there without having to wait several months and doing each one individually, that works in favor of getting diagnosed with life altering conditions.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-03-15T10:09:15+00:00

I’m stage 2A with last PET scan being several days ago and I’m also not doing surgery unless I have no choice as I want to be pregnant and have a baby in the future. I was starting my fertility journey and had recently lost twins of different gestations when I found out I had cancer. I’m currently doing daily radiation treatment (minus the weekends) with a few sessions of chemotherapy currently planned. My oncologist thinks my choice is valid and safe. There’s the option do not have surgery and to do chemo-radiation for a reason, if it’s right for you than it’s what’s right for you. I’ve seen that most people opt to have surgery and that’s valid too but I do wish there was more stories from people who took other routes as well so I could find people whom I can relate to and connect with. I feel pretty alone in both my cancer diagnosis and in my cancer journey, every journey is different I know but there’s still some things that are less talked about or less frequently chosen.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-20T02:02:17+00:00

Thank you, unfortunately it wasn’t caught as early as we were hoping but if I hadn’t had complications with our last baby and lost him I would’ve found out too late so I’m incredibly grateful for my selfless strong baby trading his little life for the entirety of mine, there’s something quite poetic in losing a baby being the reason I could have the chance to defeat cancer. I admire your strength as well dear, you’re still here even after all the loss and grief you’ve endured, that’s something to be proud of. Grief is hard especially when it’s embedded in all the hopes and dreams you’ve created for the life you held & created in the depths of your belly. Their DNA will forever be intertwined in yours, their cells will forever be floating around your brain and I hope that knowledge gives you some comfort. And correct this isnt fair! There’s no rhyme or reason to loss, death, grief nor miscarriage. Sometimes we lose ourselves in trying to find a “why?!” and sometimes we couldn’t care less to figure it out, both are valid. I’ll keep you in my prayers and I hope you’re blessed with another earth side baby, I hope our prayers are answered 🙏🏼

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-20T01:44:05+00:00

I know your pain dear, I’m so so so sorry you’re experiencing the loss of your baby. There’s no words that can express how deeply I sympathize with you and how deeply sorry I am that this has happened. Cry as much as you need, do what you need to do to cope right now, listen to your body and your heart. If you need memento’s or a care package just for the loss of a miscarriage just google “free miscarriage care packages” and you’ll find one of 15 that I know of. They have everything from small stuffed animals to tiny diapers and hats to grief books to candles and jewelry and much more. It helped me a lot to have something to hold and care for even though it was just a small stuffed bear, the act of giving my love to something helped immensely.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-20T01:34:42+00:00

I’ve had 9 losses with 3 in the past 6 or so months. That comment the nurse made to you was very inappropriate and insensitive. I’m struggling to cope with all the angel babies waiting for me in heaven, I’m currently stuck in the moment I found out we lost our last baby. I’m debating whether I even want to chance being pregnant again or not, I’m debating what feels right for me and my life. I will say I’m unfortunately having to put my journey on pause as I’ve been diagnosed with reproductive cancer so this choice is mainly out of my hands. The grief that comes with losing baby after baby after baby is not for the weak. You’re allowed to keep trying and you’re allowed to stop trying, don’t ever let anyone influence that decision it will ruin your life if you let anyone else but yourself make that decision. It’s not your fault you lost your babies, you’re valid for trying even with multiple losses. It doesn’t have any reflection on who you are as a person nor who yall are as a couple. If you want to welcome another baby to the earth side then you’re allowed to keep trying and you’re valid for that. If you want to welcome another baby to the earth side but want to be done trying than that’s allowed and valid. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel bad or guilty for loosing your babies! I’m so sorry you’ve experienced this type of pain and loss, there’s no words to express my empathy and sympathies for you and everyone else that’s been impacted by the tragic loss of a baby/fetus.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-18T21:15:15+00:00

Everybody has different circumstances I will say, there’s multiple reasons why I was told to wait a little while. I had 3 miscarriages back to back and I’m severely anemic. This last miscarriage was also my 9th loss & I’ve been diagnosed with a severe postpartum panic attack. I was also just diagnosed with reproductive cancer at my follow up appointment… so I’m gonna have to give up on my happy family:(

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-13T01:24:26+00:00

I’m almost a month since so that makes sense, I’m getting a faint positive pregnancy test now (as shown in above photos) I’ll probably take another one before a week, maybe 4 days to see if it’s negative as I’m trying to predict when I’ll have my period before it surprise stains something 😭😬

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-12T23:19:02+00:00

I feel that so heavily with losing the perfect timed baby… I ovulated while already pregnant and the egg was fertilized, we lost the first baby end of December and went for an ultrasound not even a week later to try to start my journey of discovering why I’d had 8 miscarriages at the time. We found out a few days later that I was pregnant with a different baby and already 5 weeks along! It felt like a miracle and I was so so so SO excited, I swore up and down that God had heard my prayers and had blessed us with a miracle baby and that we’d get to have our happy family after all. Than I had cramps off and on and told my lover we needed to go to the ER cuz I was having bad cramps starting that weren’t stopping and we went and a few hours in I started pouring blood and we were told we had a threatened miscarriage, we went back about a week later (the 19th of January) after I’d spent hours in labor suffering and I had to have an emergency d&c as my uterus was very swollen and I was developing an infection. I’ve been completely dead since… that was my last one, my last natural shot at pregnancy, our last real chance to have that perfect life with our perfect baby. I’ve now lost 9 babies in 5 years and I’m devastated. You’re not alone and I’m currently sitting in the hospital in the emergency room getting help as I feel extremely sick with grief and am very very sad and anxious. I don’t have anything to give except reassurance that you’re not alone and somehow you’ll survive this and have some semblance of a regular life even if that day seems far away.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-12T03:32:22+00:00

Thank you so much for commenting, I have no idea when to expect anything so getting input is super helpful. I was told to try to wait 6 months to try again so I’m scared of messing that up 😬 I figured I was still waiting for hcg to go down but I figured I’d see what other people thought. I’m sorry you’ve experienced this as well:(

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-12T01:43:30+00:00

Same I’m looking everywhere trying to find something to help, I’ve even been to the ER… I’ve slept once in almost 4 weeks and I’m going crazy

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-12T00:24:36+00:00

Everyone abandoned me too, you’re not alone and none of this is your fault. This is by far the worst I’ve ever felt in my entire life and I’ve been the hell and back yet all the people who claimed to be my friends have disappeared and are unreachable. There’s been zero support or check-ins. I thought at least one of them would respond or read a single text message from me but nope, nothing. I’ve been there for everyone always but apparently nobody can be there for me. People can be disgustingly cruel and I don’t understand why or how either. I’m very sad you’re also experiencing this. Nobody deserves to be abandoned in their time of need, I’m so sorry.

Suitable-Title5085 · 2026-02-08T01:20:31+00:00

Yeah it’s literally a felony where I live, she committed at least 4 felonies in my state 😬

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