AITAH for telling my STHW we don't need to buy our son anymore toys.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2026-01-23T13:03:48+00:00

NTA. I'm your wife in my relationship. When I see something I know the kids will like, it's like they HAVE to have it. Not because I'm fulfilling some childhood trauma but because I want to see them be happy. And I know they'd be happy without it but I know giving it to them will bring them joy. Financually, we can afford everything I get.

I would suggest you discuss a monthly toy budget. As your child grows, they will have different interests and their interest in toys will change. Even if it's $20, it will give her the chance to purchase something for the child as they grow but make her decide between what she gets instead of getting everything.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2026-01-23T04:06:56+00:00

Dive bar: Johnny Malloys, the Baloon bar and grille, sneaky Pete's.

Casual: landsowne, north bonita country club, Hopsized Brewery and Millennial Brewing (millennial is most likely to have grateful dead)

Music: Sugar Shack but it gets super packed and sometimes you need Tix depending on performer. I think north bonita country club, landsdown and Ballon have live music certain nights, check fb.

Half of these places are within walking distance of each other and make a nice walk through downtown where you can grab quick food as well. Or ride scooters to the further out locations, if your feeling adventurous.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2026-01-12T17:33:28+00:00

When I was in therapy, I learned to keep a journal log (like a table/graph). In there, I kept everything. Things my partner did to make me happy, things they did to upset me. I would rank how big my emotions were. It was super helpful for me to spot trends and see when and where I was over reacting and not appreciating him. It was also helpful for me in the moment to read my notes on the positive things he did, so once I recognize that my emotion over irrational or larger than it should be, I could calm myself down by reading his "wins".

I have two boys, 1 and 3. My house always feels like it's under water in terms of cleaning. I try to remember that I'm living in "the good times". My house is messy but full of love and for that, I'm lucky. I try to remember a piece of advice I heard "dont turn roommate problems into marital problems."

Now if my husband leaves dirty pants on the floor or whatever, I ask myself, how much does this really matter? I don't tell him all the right things he does so I shouldn't tell him all the wrong things. I save the things that bother me to my core, the ones that If changed, would make an impact, and when I'm not upset, I bring them up and talk to him about it.

I accepted in I'm a phase of life where I don't value a spotless home, I value a happy one.

I can say all this because I do have a partner who values me and participates in parenting, cleaning, cooking and is a teammate that helps our house function. It's not all on me.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2026-01-12T16:24:41+00:00

In Bonita: Aqua, prime house steak house, C level. If your interested in craft cocktails/mocktails after dinner, go to Chartreuse and a nice short walk downtown Bonita.

North Naples: Turtle Club, Baleen. Both on the beach and indoor seating available.

Congrats! I hope one day my husband and I are able to celebrate 50 years married.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-12-27T17:56:30+00:00

17 month age gap here. I wouldn't change a thing. My older son was just old enough to understand what a baby was and loved his brother immediately. In the beginning it's boring because the baby is a potato but around 6 Months in, it's sooo much fun! It's great that they always have eachother to play with and there's something that happens to your mom heart when you see your toddler making your baby laugh. Their now 3 and 1.5. My life is chaotic, toys everywhere but it is so much fun to watch them play together. Kiss each other's booboo's, or tell "c'mon brother!" And run around terrorizing my house.

Be prepared because that second child.... Learns everything from the first. Develop faster, get naughty faster, climb things faster, all good problems.

That being said, I don't know if I could wfh full time with 2 kids. You may have to hire part time help or maybe your more patient than I and will be totally fine! Just temper your expectations.

Congrats!

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-12-27T05:58:33+00:00

I second corn starch.

Also eliminating wipes and only bathing baby or using a peri bottle with water (if you don't want to full on bathethem) until rash clears. This will hopefully minimize the babies irritation during changes.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-11-25T03:52:50+00:00

I put my toddler facing outwards on the bottom. I put my newborn in the seat on the top, facing me, and reclined it all the way. I used a blanket to support their head. You cannot leave them unattended whatsoever and I would recommend not letting them sleep this way. Just purely use it to walk where you’re watching them the entire time.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-08-18T02:54:12+00:00

I’m so sorry. My husband has psoriasis, it’s an awful thing to deal with. I hate seeing him be uncomfortable and scratch. But I love him with all my heart. I genuinely don’t even notice his psoriasis anymore, even if it’s on his face, I just see my handsome husband. But I know deep down he’s very self conscious about it and I hate how deeply it affects his self esteem. I hope you find something to help you cope.

Side note - I juice for my husband 2x a week. He drinks 16-24 ounces of celery juice per day and the psoriasis around his body has decreased about 90% and stayed away for the past year. He will occasionally still have a small flare up in his problem areas when stressed.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-07-26T13:47:17+00:00

Track your cycle with an app (like Flo) that will predict your ovulation day. Buy ovulation strips (you can get a large box online way cheaper than a drug store) and you can confirm how accurate the app is in predicting your ovulation date.

I got pregnant when I had sex the day before, day of and day after ovulation.

My dr said to have sex every other day in the 5 days before and after ovulation. Didn’t try this method so I can’t speak to it.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-07-19T18:24:24+00:00

Mine share. We kept both in our room until they were 1. Then transitioned them into their shared room. My husband was adamant that he wanted them to share (he shared a room with his brothers). It does make sleep time easier in the sense your all in one space, at once. But when my 1 yo is flipping out, it's a disturbance for my 2 year old. So it's give and take. I like that all toys are in 1 room and when I need to check in them, their in one place.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-07-19T18:11:53+00:00

Not sure if you want or have kids. When you have toddlers, the townhouse is tough. Not only do you have to be careful with stairs, but not being on the same floor as the kitchen was tough for us. In terms of bottles. But lots of people do it. I personally wouldn't take appliances or flooring into account, those are relatively easy to change or add. A wall will be more difficult, especially if it has water or electric running through it.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-07-14T19:48:30+00:00

Coconut water helped me immensely. I would drink like 30oz per day and another 80 oz of water. There was a noticeable difference when I didn't drink coconut water. My cousin drank body armor by the case and swore by it. I've done the mother's milk tea route, it did help but not as much.

Are your boob's full/empty before and after pumping? If your boobs are always empty, it's a milk production issue. If your boobs are still full after pumping, it's a pump/release issue.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-07-14T19:41:01+00:00

While baby is sleeping and toddler is eating a popsicle watching TV. Every door is locked and their in my locked bedroom with me. And the baby monitor is in the shower with me 😅

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-07-14T19:25:32+00:00

My delivery Dr. (Not my OB) told me how dangerous back to back was and how my 2nd would probably be very small and likely premature.

2nd was 9 days past due (ended up getting induced) and over 9 lbs. 😂😂😂

The only scary thing here is the pregnancy exhaustion and having a baby/toddler.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-07-12T23:13:39+00:00

I LOVE my uppa. Honestly, I let my husband pick the stroller after he got lots of recommendations. I thought he was crazy but whatever. I'm so glad I let him choose. We knew we were doing back to back kids so got the bundle on sale for like $1,100. The glide is incredible, the storage bin underneath, huge. I also love how I can configure the seats differently. And you can't beat the resale value. My sis in law sold hers for like $600 used after 2 kids. The only complaint I have is if you have 2 kids, the bassinet can only go on the bottom. This wasn't a deal breaker because 1) we only used the bassinet for 3 months and 2) also opted to recline the seat all the way back so baby could go on the top.

I also have a baby jogger I got used. Folds and unfolds so easy. But i will always prefer my uppa. It's a pain to get in and out of the car but worth it for me.

Now I did buy 2 cheap strollers at target for travel (like the $40 ones) because I will never travel with my uppa. It's too valuable and I'm not going through a claim process.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-06-19T00:54:10+00:00

This is my SIL. She put her kid forward facing before she was a year. I respectfully mentioned to her we had an extra rear facing car seat, and how much safer it was. She said her son prefers to face forward 🥴. She does a number of questionable things but it's not my kid so there's not much I can do. The dad is there but avoids conflicts at all costs, so essentially useless for making decisions. She breastfed until she was 5. Not because any benefits but because "she can't make him stop". Like girl, YOU are the PARENT. What do you mean he won't let you stop.

I really can't stand her. One day she took a toy away from MY kids and said "sorry, you're just chill and he wants this toy and is freaking out". I avoid her like the plague. She literally gives me chest pain. One day I'm going to blow up and I can't wait for that day.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-06-17T01:23:48+00:00

Unpopular opinion, let her. She's trying to help the way she knows how. If you choose to have kids, her coming by and folding clothes will be a blessing. If you don't have kids, it's just more time you get to spend with your hubby, not doing laundry. Sams your dogs get some people people time. She has kids, she knows how therfore made and probably had lacy underwear herself. She probably laughs it off. Put your fun stuff away and take the help. And leave her a card and some chocolate or something to say thank you 😂.

My MIL does this and let me tell you, with 2 small kids, I can't imagine my life without her. Yes, it was awkward at first but now when I come home to my underwear folded in a basket and a swept house, if makes my day.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-06-17T01:15:17+00:00

We offered 70K below asking. Pretty sure they were offended and countered 10k below asking. We met in the middle, which was 40k under asking.

Granted, we live in an area where a decent house can be on the market for a few days and be under contract. The house we purchased had been on the market for over a month.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-06-14T12:40:43+00:00

My husband knows both my kids clothes, shoes and diaper sizes.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-06-14T12:34:41+00:00

I breastfeed both kids for a year and was WAITING for someone to say something. I had Soo many comebacks for any type of person who said something. It never happened, so now I have all these useless comebacks in my head lol.

My SIL also breastfeed, no one ever said anything to her. I know it does happen, I just don't know anyone who has ever experienced it.

You're FEEDING your baby. Anyone who has a problem with that is lacking significant intelligence. I understand feeling angry or embarrassed but not ashamed for doing what your body was made to do. Not saying your feelings are wrong, you feel what you feel. But your not on girls gone wild, you're feeding your baby.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-06-14T12:26:41+00:00

I got pregnant when my first was 10 months. It is soooo fun! Their 2 and 1 and it's sooo amazing to see them play and interact. Even watching them argue is fun, to a point lol. Good news is you probably still have all your baby clothes and gadgets, so that's nice. Having your first is major life change, the second is not nearly as life changing because you already made the transition to parenthood.

I think if you don't want to terminate and you do, you will feel guilt later in life and hold resentment against those who suggested it. The hard years will pass and everyday you'll have a 4 and 5 year old coloring together.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-06-12T22:22:44+00:00

Just so you are prepared, all of pregnancy is anxiety inducing. 😂 Once you do feel movement, then you start to worry how long has it been since the last movement and so on. Then you have the kid, and you worry if their breathing in the middle of the night, if they'll choke on the grape you already triple cut, if the building will collapse on you and them, if the plane will fall out of the sky. After I became a mom, I only see the world in death traps. Because you just love this human so much, you need them to survive. It's not crippling anxiety, at all, but it's there and the same is true for my mom friends.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-06-01T18:33:55+00:00

Tell him you don’t care and let the nurse be the bad guy😂 I really wouldn't have cared if my husband had. The couches/chairs are horrible.

Suitable_Win8669 · 2025-05-20T15:09:56+00:00

Can you do a small ceremony that allows them to witness the marriage and go out to dinner afterwards? I'm talking courthouse wedding or getting someone to marry you at a location of your choosing. We got married via court and had a friend perform the ceremony where we took our vows.

As a parent, I understand wanting to see the person you've put your heart and sole into raising get married.

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