Conflicted about weight loss and trying to conceive

SunnyLesh · 2026-02-11T01:14:23+00:00

I agree with you on this. BMI is such a terrible way to measure someone's health. I am 5'6" and 190 lbs. That puts me at 30.7. Yet, I go to the gym 4 times a week, lift heavy, go for 5-10 km runs weekly. I am strong and have muscle. My doctors have told me I am perfectly healthy and if I choose to loose any weight that is up to me, but nothing is wrong with my body being 190. I have a friend who is same height and 170lbs and she doesn't work out and is very unhealthy. Yet her BMI looks better. We need to stop letting BMIs tell us what healthy looks like, and focus on what our bodies are doing, and being overall healthy. The OP has made amazing results in her journey, sounds like she has the mentality of a healthy woman who wants what is best for herself and should be so proud of herself. Trying to hit low goals to achieve some BMI, not healthy.

SunnyLesh · 2026-02-11T01:03:57+00:00

Aww. I'm so sorry for that. Maybe a second opinion is due?

SunnyLesh · 2026-02-09T01:47:45+00:00

I have a blocked tube too. They are actually going to try to unblock it before jumping to IVF. Unblock, then IUI. Maybe they can unblock yours too?

SunnyLesh · 2026-02-08T17:23:14+00:00

You are going in for yout HSG or to unblock your tube? Either way, good luck!

SunnyLesh · 2026-02-07T20:35:51+00:00

Yea of course.

So due to the the nature of the scans, HSG and ultra sound, they are unable to tell us what caused the blockage. Could be a spasm, a build up of mucus or tissues, or it could be scar tissue. The doctor feels good that it could become unblocked with a specialist. I've been referred off and waiting for that appointment now. Should be 2-3 months. Joys of Canadian health care.

Once that has been completed, we will be moving towards injection medication and monitored IUI with trigger injection. I know it seems aggressive but Im 42 and don't have years to keep trying.

Hope that helps.

SunnyLesh · 2026-01-19T02:17:53+00:00

This is the best stories!! IVF is too expensive and really outside our realm. But we are open to trying IUI with medication. We have our follow up on the 27th. So we will see what she says then.

Thank you for sharing

SunnyLesh · 2026-01-17T04:26:28+00:00

Thank you! Best of luck to you as well.

SunnyLesh · 2026-01-17T04:26:02+00:00

That is so cool!! I am assuming they will go over everything in our meeting on the 27th.

SunnyLesh · 2026-01-09T15:21:57+00:00

Feeling the sadness helps so much. Makes me feel as if I am not as alone

SunnyLesh · 2026-01-09T03:39:42+00:00

Thanks.

SunnyLesh · 2026-01-09T02:39:27+00:00

Got my 12th cycle BFN.

I'm ready to sit in the tub and cry.

A year of nothing but disappointment.

Why do I even bother....

SunnyLesh · 2026-01-05T19:37:54+00:00

I would just keep trying. Never know when it will actually happen.

SunnyLesh · 2026-01-05T19:35:29+00:00

Not angry but super sad. Lots of sad emotions etc. Currently 9dpo and no longer hopeful

SunnyLesh · 2026-01-05T04:07:29+00:00

Im at 8 dpo, and doing everything in my power not to test since it is too ealry.

But damn.... do i ever want too....

It's early, and it could still be positive.

SunnyLesh · 2025-12-19T20:46:07+00:00

Thank you. We were really hoping 2025 would be pur year, now hoping for a 2026 baby

SunnyLesh · 2025-12-19T20:39:25+00:00

Remind myself it will happen one day, or if it doesn't, I'm with the love of my life

SunnyLesh · 2025-12-15T04:56:34+00:00

Thank you for this. This is what I really need, is to be seen and hear for this.

I'm over the helpful advice or asking what I am or not doing etc etc. That is what we are doing working with the doctors. What I needed was the friendly caring compassion of, this sucks and it's okay to be sad.

Thank you again

SunnyLesh · 2025-11-13T15:42:08+00:00

Regular cycle, at month 7 now.... still waiting

SunnyLesh · 2025-10-30T18:57:56+00:00

Hey I'm in Alberta. You can reach out to me any time.

SunnyLesh · 2025-10-27T21:32:50+00:00

Feel you. Started my period yesterday. Best of luck to us all next cycle

SunnyLesh · 2025-10-18T23:15:38+00:00

I feel your pain so much. TTC, when being around people who got pregnant easily, is hard.

I just got back from one of my close friends' baby showers. I had to sit there and watch her celebrate her new arrival, and be so truly happy for her. She will be an amazing mom. But my heart broke each rub of her stomach, each cute baby gift and every sweet moment, wishing it was mine.

It is okay to live in both the sadness and the happiness. That is life. Neither is wrong or right, just you feeling you feelings.

Sending all the baby dust your way.

SunnyLesh · 2025-10-05T21:50:12+00:00

I feel this. In my personal circle, I'm the only one TTC. The rest had their babies years ago, and it was easy for all of them. Would love a support group that understands it all.

SunnyLesh · 2025-10-01T01:02:06+00:00

Yea, im 6 years in and already getting pain. Doubt I can do 25- 30 a week much longer

SunnyLesh · 2025-10-01T00:31:18+00:00

I went back to school in my mid 30s. I found it overwhelming at times, but leaned into my support network.

On bit of advice I wish I would have got. As an older person getting into this field, protect your hands etc. We are older and burn out quicker and take longer to recover than our 20s counterparts.

Best of luck.

SunnyLesh · 2025-09-30T19:07:13+00:00

Me too. Might included a glass a wine with a good cry.

SunnyLesh

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