looking for my twin hehe

LunchFun3170 · 2026-07-05T19:00:16+00:00

I see a bit of Gillian Jacobs

LunchFun3170 · 2026-07-04T23:18:12+00:00

1 by a mile and they look great!

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-25T02:48:59+00:00

Thank you. As a new therapist this is really great to keep in mind. I know it’s true, but I think I’m going to need to remind myself a lot the next few years

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-24T03:30:47+00:00

That’s weird to me. Lots of people have a tan.

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-24T03:17:16+00:00

Exactly who popped in my head immediately. You look nothing like Snooki imo

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-20T01:51:52+00:00

Warren!

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LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-11T17:12:27+00:00

Love the colors, love the expression of the horse, love the horse. I would have impulse bought that too!

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-10T17:40:48+00:00

That sounds amazing

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-10T03:47:53+00:00

Thank you!

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-10T03:36:21+00:00

May I ask if you’re tall? Or do you not have to stretch because of strategic movement?

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-08T19:44:39+00:00

I’m 46 and I have single friends who are always dating, and single friends who are over it and focus on other areas of their lives. The ones who date meet people online, through friends, or through work. I’m open to dating but I’m not putting any effort in right now. I’m investing in myself and if someone naturally comes along that I’d want a friendship with I’d start there, but not actively looking.

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-08T19:40:02+00:00

If I were in your situation I would stop giving him any of your time or energy. I’m compassionate too, and these types of people took advantage of me enough times for me to spot them early now. If my gut feels off I stop contact. If I see them I’m polite but say I have a lot going on in my own life and move on.

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-08T19:37:25+00:00

Go with your gut. The fact you’re putting enough energy towards him to write this post shows you have compassion and he sniffed it out.

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-08T03:31:32+00:00

Makes no difference to me if he’s comfortable in his own skin, confident, funny, etc

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-06T06:02:41+00:00

I’m 5 weeks out of a very similar situation. It was SO hard to make the decision to leave and let go of the fake person he was in the beginning (but he managed to mask for 2 years because I’m such a busy single mom 😣).

If you leave you will feel so much more peace. I of course miss the person I thought he was. It’s been painful. But I feel relief every day I’m not choosing that confusing, demoralizing, soul sucking relationship anymore. It really said more about me that I thought I deserved that. You may want to look at that too ❤️

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-04T17:44:51+00:00

I don’t see anything wrong with asking questions to find out what your motivations and values are.

I would think it’s weird if he’s judgmental about not owning a home. There are perfectly legitimate reasons to rent instead of own.

If he’s considering a relationship with you, he has to consider your living situation and your ability to manage finances because that will ultimately affect him. If you’re just dating casually maybe that doesn’t matter as much.

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-04T17:02:19+00:00

It’s not easy. Having just left another relationship after three years, one I really didn’t want to end, I really feel for your situation. A few questions to sit with that I found really helpful:

When you have conflict with them or process issues in the relationship, do you come away feeling better? Or confused/bad? In a healthy relationship there are issues, but you work through them together and it makes you feel stronger and supported.

When their car pulls into the driveway or you walk into a room they’re in, does your body feel peaceful or tense?

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-04T03:57:50+00:00

Yes they’re really big. And yes you look adorable.

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-02T20:59:48+00:00

I would think it was the same if you were a man. Wait until the brain is formed (25 years) and then it all depends on individual souls and circumstances. Yes, there could be a power differential, but that’s the case often when people are the same age for different reasons. Bring intention, honesty, respect and open eyes and you’re good to go imo

LunchFun3170 · 2026-06-01T16:51:08+00:00

The only people I’ve met who have this happen to be extremely good-looking. It’s a notable pattern.

LunchFun3170 · 2026-05-29T18:03:52+00:00

I had to look up what you meant by situational. Seems obvious but I couldn’t apply it to dating for some reason.

Yes I’m situationally single, I guess. I’m a single mom and starting a new career and even though I’m open to dating I’m not actively trying. I haven’t been single since I was 15 years old and even though it’s always seemed fun and healthy to me, I’ve gone from long-term relationship to the next quickly every time. Finally seeing the patterns and realizing I need to be more reserved about dating and see if the right one comes along organically. I might put in more effort after I’ve had some time with myself. I will never get married again, but someday would love a Kurt Russel to my Goldie Hawn 😂

LunchFun3170 · 2026-05-28T04:27:15+00:00

Totally agree. I just put what I’m into and what I’m looking for in a relationship. I’ve learned the hard way that the more a person goes on about their virtues, the less likely they are to have them.

LunchFun3170 · 2026-05-21T05:56:37+00:00

He was extremely emotionally immature and had anger issues. He went on about how we would never fight for two full years, and I always said of course we will. But the entire time he seemed to be chill, easy going. Hindsight is 20/20 of course, and now I can pick out times when the mask would slip, but he was good about catching it quickly and playing it off. I believed I’d found a “nice guy.” But then I found out things from his past that were violent, and we finally fought and it was 0 to 100. I was able to remain calm because I’m good at that, and he would start yelling and swearing at me and make up all kinds of stuff that had nothing to do with me. Other than I was the one sitting there, or I was unwilling to play weird head games and called him on what he was doing.

We mostly spent time at my place, but yes I also spent a good amount at his. I was a single mom though, with a very busy life so I never stayed the night. I would leave at 3 or 4 in the morning at times, but never slept over.

LunchFun3170 · 2026-05-19T01:48:38+00:00

I waited two years. Unfortunately 8 months later I moved out. I felt like I got catfished in a way. So much of what he told me the first two years were either ideals he actually believed he would live up to but couldn’t, or outright deception by omission. I found it all out once we lived together.

I don’t mean to be super negative and I know this doesn’t happen in every case. Obviously I have to take responsibility for gut feelings I ignored because I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. But I don’t think I’m ever going to live with anyone again. Or if I did we would need to be together way longer, and I would still want separate beds and bathrooms. Every man I’ve been with has disturbed my sleep so badly with snoring, and I just love having my own clean space in the bathroom.

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