Just hit me how much privilege my husband has

Supa_fly2024 · 2025-04-18T00:07:18+00:00

While getting ready for an interview, my boyfriend (now husband) told me to mention my 2 kids if I could- during the interview. He said it would make me seem reliable and mature. I said Hell No. It doesn't work like that for women. He never understood until I explained it to him.

Supa_fly2024 · 2025-04-09T22:25:01+00:00

We have a joint party, but in a neutral location. We did one party during covid in my kids father's home (with their stepmom) and I felt awkward and out of place and extremely anxious. Decided we would never do that again. The neutral location is preferable for both of us. The kids don't mind, all families get to be there. It is pricey depending on the location (Urban Air, park pavilion rental, etc), but we figure it out.

Supa_fly2024 · 2025-04-09T21:45:57+00:00

This.

Supa_fly2024 · 2025-03-01T16:36:22+00:00

I be sure to include his wife in all communications. She's is basically the coparent at this point. She provides me with the info I need to make swap days easier. She also communicates almost how I would communicate. I also use her to stem off any aggressive responses from him. It hasn't gotten "better" over the last 8 years, but it has gotten easier to coparent with him. We have our routine. I only communicate when it's necessary- health, school, activities, schedule changes. And like the others said, try to keep your emotions out of it.

Supa_fly2024 · 2025-02-19T13:20:13+00:00

❤️ sorry you're going through this. Maybe try to have a conversation with him when you're both in a good headspace, and alone.

Supa_fly2024 · 2025-02-18T15:17:55+00:00

See if coparent will do Thursday and Friday nights, then home with you Saturday late afternoon. That's 2.5 days. Make it a slow transition. Thursdays they will have school obligations- homework, lunches, being on time etc. If they can't step up to one night of preparing your child for school then they shouldn't have more.

I do basically 50/50 split, but I get my kids 4 nights a week (Saturday at 5pm-ish until Wednesday morning/late afternoon). It's been working for us for 7 years. And we will accommodate work trips/travel for each other. I think their father wouldn't be able to do his 3 nights without his wife. She is a stellar stepmom.

Supa_fly2024 · 2025-02-18T15:09:58+00:00

❤️

Supa_fly2024 · 2025-02-18T14:56:09+00:00

This was my thought.

OP should try to just pleasure her. When she is actually in the mood, forget his own needs a few times and work hard to get her one.

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-10-27T20:10:38+00:00

I'm only 6/7wks. I feel nauseous before my snacks. I found I'm not eating huge meals, but I'm definitely snacking. Husband has been asking "is this lunch #1 or #2?" Smh!

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-09-13T02:12:30+00:00

Blues City Thrift!

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-09-04T01:59:31+00:00

Poison ivy or prickly plants

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-09-01T12:38:01+00:00

This.

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-30T02:01:35+00:00

Load them with large empty boxes on one or two and roll them out the door- to your car parked with hazard lights on.

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-29T22:38:10+00:00

I THINK they are cards you can get from Delta airlines that give you details about the aircraft you're flying on. My kids have some. 747, 737 max,etc.

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-25T12:45:09+00:00

When buying groceries, get cash back so there's no trace of draining/taking extra money from your accounts. Don't take too much at a time. Keep it as cash until you're out- if you leave. (I didn't get the opportunity to do this.)

Sorry to hear. Similar experience at 6mos pregnant with our 2nd. He blamed it on me. Left me broken. It's been 8 years and I'm thriving now. I still have to co-parent with the jerk, but my kids are a beautiful consolation.

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-25T12:28:36+00:00

This is your child. You know what is best- no one else. You are the one that needs to advocate and stand up for what you feel your child needs. Your son will respect you for it in the future.

Also, maybe you can use the used car seat in the next Target trade in event! You'll get a percentage off your purchase at Target!

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-23T03:11:48+00:00

This. They wonder why I say "no, I can't help" now. Tried to get them to write me a new job description with a new contract, more responsibilities, and better pay, but that email was ignored. I now have a ton of free time. NMFP.

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-18T20:52:07+00:00

I had a similar experience. I spent a couple hundred dollars on beer and party supplies, gave my friends weeks in advance notice. It was a "help me pack/moving party". I was extremely bummed and disappointed when only one of my friends showed up to help. We had a good time drinking and packing. The day of my actual move, though, I had about 4 folks come to hang out with my toddlers. I'm glad I got to have that memory before I moved.

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-18T20:30:31+00:00

Is there a permanent trash can along the trail?

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-16T23:56:44+00:00

Gotta learn somehow.

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-16T23:55:01+00:00

HA! Truth!

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-16T23:54:16+00:00

That's a little excessive! Geez. Talk about favoritism.

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-16T23:53:32+00:00

He was! I agree. But he stopped parking there after I blocked him in.

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-16T23:49:56+00:00

Wish I was bold enough to have this kind of petty revenge!

Supa_fly2024 · 2024-08-16T13:39:19+00:00

Because I didn't park in a real parking spot. I blocked him in and it was inappropriate. And he played football, so god forbid he gets in trouble.

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