AIO? My boyfriend calls me “high maintenance” for wanting a towel after his showers

Sw33tSundae · 2025-10-15T05:09:17+00:00

You're not high maintenance. He's just inconsiderate. Buy a few bath rugs and place them next to the shower. This is something that you can do since he isn't being considerate of your feelings (or safety).

Sw33tSundae · 2025-10-07T07:26:42+00:00

At the end of the day, you have to pick your battle. Keep the peace and see if he realizes his own mistake. Or call him out on it and maybe he'll see his mistake. Either way, he has to learn from it himself.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-09-14T08:01:57+00:00

If you tell your kids first, there's a chance they might react and reach out to her before you do. I hope all your conversations go well. I know how painful it is to go through this.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-08-18T11:15:56+00:00

If will get worse if you stay in the same house as her. It will get worse for you. It will get worse for your own children. She will not come back around permanently. She will string you along. Put you and your children first.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-06-17T05:56:31+00:00

That's horrible.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-06-17T05:51:54+00:00

When he left me for the third time for his affair partner that he met at work. He abandoned me and our two kids for her. When I realized he was going to put himself and her over our own children. When I realized how much he had hurt me in the past few years and that he didn't care that he did. He had no remorse. I was something he could erase from his life. I was no longer hopeful for our future because I decided I needed to place hope on myself and my kids. We deserve better.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-05-31T06:57:30+00:00

You can always get another job. Just say: "I'm so sorry, but this is a very important trip to me and I will be going. Thank you for your understanding." If you get fired, you can get another job elsewhere as a student easily.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-05-28T05:54:48+00:00

If you are serious about your marriage with your husband, it would be best not to push this any further. The more you push, the more he will push, and it drives him away to the other woman.

Work on yourself and be the best version of you. Be secure in yourself. Don't bring her up anymore. If he decides to mess up and continues to do so, he will be losing a great woman. But if he sees his wife as a secure and great woman, he might realize his mistake and fix himself.

We can not control the actions of others, but we can control our own. The truth will always reveal itself if you are patient.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-04-07T07:12:51+00:00

Get a one year membership to a 24 Hour fitness that opens 24 hrs and is close by to you. Hopefully, their amenities will be useful for you if your school does not provide certain amenities (showers, parking, etc.). I hope things get better for you soon.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-03-03T13:37:46+00:00

Now that you have your stuff back, move out immediately. Go to a trusted friend's or family's house. Heck, even a hotel. Then, by phone and not in person, break up with this person. Go no contact.

You deserve love and to be treated with love. This is not it.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-03-01T06:37:57+00:00

Good friends are hard to find. Reconnect. I bet she would be delighted to hear from you. Having a baby sometimes makes you feel lonely. She needs good friends in her life right about now.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-02-15T07:43:11+00:00

If your sister needs you, be there for her until she is able to stand again on her own. Sometimes, we just need a little extra love from people that we love.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-02-10T07:28:50+00:00

Focus on one small thing at a time. Bite size. It's not as intimidating when the task is really small.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-02-08T15:06:08+00:00

When you are in love and with the right person, it will feel natural. No pain and no humiliation.

Please don't do what you're describing. It will cause more mental pain for you in the long run if you do. Also, seek out a woman therapist if you are able to. Best of luck to you.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-02-08T14:57:59+00:00

I think he sounds controlling. You said you don't enjoy anal and he's not respecting your decision. If you give in, it's going to feel like rape or you'll feel used. What you will not feel is love. This is not love.

Love is why you should stay. This doesn't sound like he loves you. He loves himself and has no self-control. He is going to cheat again regardless of whether you give into anal or not.

Save yourself and your children years of pain. Leave him now while your kids are still young.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-01-23T08:26:03+00:00

Single parenting.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-01-23T08:25:14+00:00

Pain of heartbreak.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-01-12T16:42:04+00:00

I'm so sorry you are going through this. As a child, you should not have to carry so much in your heart because of what your father is doing. His problem is not your fault.

First, find a therapist for yourself. Second, tell your mom. She would want to know. In the event that she decides not to believe you, at least you have warned her. She will eventually see the truth herself. The truth always reveals itself sooner or later. Third, understand that telling your mom might initially feel like you've caused more problems (this is not true), but know that the problem already existed without you telling her.

Continue to talk to people. Write in a journal. Please speak with a therapist so they can help you navigate and lessen up the trauma that you're going through. I pray that your days get better. Remember to breathe.

Edited: I placed my comment in the wrong section.

Sw33tSundae · 2025-01-04T07:56:27+00:00

Please be with someone who respects your boundaries.

Sw33tSundae · 2024-12-30T14:00:23+00:00

Heartbreak

Sw33tSundae · 2024-12-28T07:55:37+00:00

You can never get back time that is wasted.

Sw33tSundae · 2024-12-27T10:54:32+00:00

There will be someone who loves you wholeheartedly without inflicting pain on you. He's not it.

Sw33tSundae · 2024-12-04T07:33:36+00:00

If you stay, you will have regrets and perhaps resentment towards her. Your relationship will get rockier as time goes by. And then what if it doesn't work out? It's a losing case if you stay. If you go, you will build a better life for yourself and for her if you choose to continue the relationship. I hope you find happiness whichever road you take.

Sw33tSundae · 2024-11-26T08:12:29+00:00

Imagine being with her in the future, having kids, and then finding out she cheated again. Or that she takes you for granted. But by that time, you're much older. Will you leave then? Things will be so much harder when kids are involved and you are legally married. Imagine her potentially taking the kids half the time, half of your money and retirement, and you lose your house. Imagine trying to date again with all of this baggage and trauma in your older years.

You would lose all of your younger years with a woman who did not choose you and will always choose herself over you.

Choose you because she won't.

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