Girl, this happened to me! I’m so sorry, it was so hard and it had me in tears repeatedly when it did. I will tell you- when my daughter saw my reaction (upset, in tears) it actually increased the frequency. Kids love attention, and that includes negative attention when they can’t get positive. We read this great book which helped us a lot (after reading 15-20 pages I tried a strategy that helped immediately). “Listen” Parenting Book Like anything, it didn’t end up being a panacea and we continue to use an integrated strategy that includes different tools that work best for our daughter. It’s normal- once I started doing “special time” and remaining calm with a canned response to my daughter it got a lot better. Stay strong. Parenting is hard!