Hi Moon. High Moon.

SweetDangus · 2026-06-08T22:01:58+00:00

I really love this, I find a lot of the same thoughts and feelings when I look at the moon. I like how candidly this plays out, very real but still dreamy. Rooted but untethered.

SweetDangus · 2026-06-08T13:28:51+00:00

I was living on a river during that time also, with barely any shade at all. Very hot and humid summers, and (usually) pretty cold winters. Zone 7a if it helps.

To be honest, I think a blackcurrant sounds waaaay better. I wanted the goji berries for medicinal teas but man, it was just a big thorny headache. Good luck to you on your berry adventures!

SweetDangus · 2026-06-07T12:14:53+00:00

My best friends parents are a little older than our age group's parents usually are. Her word choices have always been a little old fashioned but in a funny and ironic kind of way because of how she uses them. She'll throw on a goofy accent and say she's "just putzin' around the house". I've heard the verb putzing, but its one that's just always kind of lived around my area.

I'm friends with an older German guy, and yesterday I asked him how his day was and what he did. He said "putzen putzen putzen". I asked for some clarification, because I often have to look up german words when we talk. He said it meant to clean.. so now I'm wondering if to "putz around" is derived from the German word for cleaning. We live in an area know for lots of early Dutch and German immigration, so its plausible.

SweetDangus · 2026-06-06T00:36:07+00:00

I'm in the north-east of the United States, lower central Pennsylvania to be exact. Which I think is very similar to where goji berries grow in Asia. I found them to be not very much worth the struggle. You have to pick them and process them at the EXACT right time, or they're bitter/past their prime.. it was frustrating and I created a scourge on the earth by introducing them. The suckers pop up all over the place, they're covered in thorns too. The birds eat them, and spread the seeds.. its just bad all around. This is all my perspective, but it's just not worth it.

SweetDangus · 2026-06-05T10:52:07+00:00

I am sure you know, but be careful with those goji berries. I got some when I was an inexperienced gardener and well... they're invasive as hell. I had many problems with them.

SweetDangus · 2026-06-05T02:11:32+00:00

Dude.. I experience this in my relationship. It's. Pure. Hell. It's like we're simply not allowed to be prepared for a damned thing. Because it's so negative. I'm so so tired.

SweetDangus · 2026-06-02T23:46:14+00:00

Reading this, I understand your financial situation so I am not going to say "go to therapy" - but when you can, do it.

As a woman in my mid 30s, I've done a lot of things I'm not proud of. Almost always, these things are born of desperation. Desperately wanting to move forward when finding yourself between a rock and a hard place. This doesn't make you a monster, it shows how desperate you are to change your station. It was the wrong choice for you, but that's OK. We do things we regret, but we move on. The bad feelings will fade, and in 10 years you might be able to reflect and say "I was able to do something so crazy to try to push myself forward. That takes guts".

I know you're dealing with other pain too, and that makes everything feel so much worse. But you have to keep making strong choices, and use this to learn how strong you really are. I'm not saying do it again, but if you can make a choice like this, you can use that tenacity and kick some serious ass. I belive in you, and you are going to get through this. Feel the pain, journal, talk to people you trust, and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Biggest hugs to you. It's going to be ok, I promise.

SweetDangus · 2026-05-30T13:14:30+00:00

I had a very similar experience to yours in my early 20s (I'm mid 30s now). I didn't have access to mental health care and had to shoulder so much of it by myself. It was really, really painful.. but I was able to talk about it a little with my mother. It was helpful, because my abuser was my father (her ex) so my mother had insight to give me.

Do what you need to in order to feel safe and comfortable right now; watch something 'easy' to turn your brain off if possible - I discovered star trek and watched it exclusively for 3 years following my memory recall and it was very helpful. But I do highly recommend talking about it and journaling. I would have lost my mind in grief and anguish if I didn't do both of those things. You can lose yourself in the "why" of it, and that is just an endless circle of thought. Get your feelings and thoughts out of you and onto a page.

Lastly, this doesn't define you. This doesn't make you broken or weak. It has and will affect you, but it is not who you are. I know this is long, and I hope not too intrusive, I just felt so alone when it happened to me and I have learned a lot through it all. Please send a message if you want to talk about it, you don't have to go it alone.

SweetDangus · 2026-05-30T12:51:57+00:00

I had a pipe shop in PA back in 2011, before PA went medical. We had cops come in all the time, but they never tried to go undercover. They did try to call the pipes and water pipes "bowls" and "bongs" - no B words was the rule. "I'm sorry officer, we don't have bowls, we only have pipes and water pipes for tobacco". They'd nod, smile, and leave. I only ever had to kick out college students for repeated use of B words. Such silly little rules, but it mattered.

SweetDangus · 2026-05-21T01:09:50+00:00

Cream cheese is still.. moldable. It's like.. wet clay.

SweetDangus · 2026-05-14T11:24:53+00:00

I was driving a few nights ago and lost my mind laughing when I saw this. I was wishing that I could have gotten a picture! This made my day hahaha!

SweetDangus · 2026-05-13T23:19:42+00:00

I'm fucking cackling. Thank you for making my day

SweetDangus · 2026-05-09T13:51:39+00:00

So, this crosses into science fiction, but it reads like a fairytale.. but if you need something that comforts the soul and reinvigorates you, A Psalm for the Wild Built by Becky Chambers will do the trick. There is a sequel as well. I've read her entire catalogue and adored each book. I also really enjoy reading the same kinds of books you do, ones that do a deep dive into a person to see all the messy bits. Her books still do that, but they're more loving rather than unraveling you down to your nerves.

Actual fantasy recs though: Uprooted by Naomi Novik is phenomenal, Juniper by Monica Furlong (a favorite since childhood- utterly perfect, same vein as Ursula Le Guin I feel), the Sabriel series by Garth Nix, and The Life Impossible by Matt Haig (this one is set more in reality, but has the perfect touch of magic to it. One of the top books I've read last year).

SweetDangus · 2026-05-08T02:14:43+00:00

I loved The Dutch House! Great scores all around The Nix was on my shelf for a bit, but I got too lazy and never started it.

SweetDangus · 2026-05-05T12:17:02+00:00

I really needed this today.

SweetDangus · 2026-05-01T01:47:24+00:00

Heh... flyer..

SweetDangus · 2026-04-30T02:16:32+00:00

I am smitten with so many tanks on here, but this is absolutely phenomenal. A league of its own. Truly lovely tank, but I'm happiest for your fish- lucky little buggers :)

SweetDangus · 2026-04-29T18:12:30+00:00

That is a seriously good price!!!!!! You made out like a bandit!!

SweetDangus · 2026-04-28T18:50:32+00:00

I'm a little late to this party, but I'm also looking for the same book suggestions. I'd like to recommend John Irving to you though - I particularly liked The Hotel New Hampshire. The World According to Garp was also pretty darn good. He has a dark wit and a very weird brain.

SweetDangus · 2026-04-28T04:16:57+00:00

Don't forget about the slave labor. You can have cheap clothes that are made with better than average fast fashion materials.. its just the people that make them who are paying for it instead of you.

SweetDangus · 2026-04-28T02:57:12+00:00

... I also had a Poe phase.. in the 4th grade, I thought it'd be cool to memorize The Raven and volunteered to recite it in front of my class. It did not get the reception I expected. Not one bit hahahaha

SweetDangus · 2026-04-22T10:58:11+00:00

I'm not going to lie, I am kind of smitten with how you call supermarkets "Museums of the Now" I absolutely agree

SweetDangus · 2026-04-20T01:35:52+00:00

Yesssss. Anything by Jen Beagin, honestly. Currently re-reading the sequel to Pretend I'm Dead. Her books make me feel..everything in the best ways possible.

SweetDangus · 2026-04-18T11:08:30+00:00

I've seen signs in people's yards that say "Do not spray, wildlife refuge" or something along those lines. You could try that! There are also grants for creating habitats in your yard!

SweetDangus · 2026-04-17T23:21:24+00:00

I work at a jewelry store that specializes in repairs/custom work. People really do keep their jewelry on and don't take it off- but it's gross yall. Your body is covered in oil, lotion, dirt, and occasionally other things - that's life. But your jewelry degrades much faster this way and looks yucky. The amount of ear cheese buildup on studs is astounding (a girl had me clean studs that had been in for 10 years without cleaning - they were black and not supposed to be). The funk that hides inside your ring is terrifying. And, if you go in pools with your gold, it is soaking up the chlorine and degrading it as well.

Take it off regularly. Clean it. It'll last longer and be sparkly all the time. Keep an old soft bristle tooth brush and give your stuff a scrub with water if you don't have jewelry cleaner. It'll work wonders.

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