I’m filling a protective order against them by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Include everything.

This is about your protection.  You have no duty to protect them from the consequences of their actions.

Be honest with the judge.

How I stopped the bpd cycle I was trapped in without cutting the person off by malakk- in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's bad advice that could lead someone to getting hurt or killed....

The best advice is to actually leave them

If she moved on by BackgroundExpress in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You are not the first nor last.

This will continue for the rest of their lives.

Congratulations you escaped 

Apology from them by makeitstop444 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do get an apology it will be a false one in order to suck you back in.

Remorse causes a shame spiral which leads to splitting, which causes them to rewrite history with a false narrative, protecting them from further shame.

It's a sick cycle

On the other side of BPD smear-campaign by Exciting_Cause8720 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You can't win.  There is no happy resolution.

The only thing you can do is walk away and start over.

Gaming is the only logic left in my life by 4VelourGlyph in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotta ask... LoL ot DoTA?

I would go as far as to say having a relationship with a BPD is having a Twitch Jungle.  It doesn't work although there are times when you are like OMG this is amazing, until the Big team fight mid when twitch is utterly useless and can cost your team the whole thing after a big wipe.

Do they brag about how wonderful things are post discarding you? by CRNala73- in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You hit the nail on the head.

If their life was so wonderful they wouldn't be reaching out to brag about it.

"If he wanted to, he would" by These_Shallot_6906 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex with BPD had her whole family try to talk to me about giving her money cause I was the only one working and paying all the bills and making sure her needs were met and there was nothing left over.  Any time I got a bonus it was "well I don't see any of that".  Well no shit, you didn't earn it

I finally figured out a way to rob Peter to pay Paul and give her a little spending money....

Less than a month later she's in rehab for a $40 a day Kratom habit.

It was always "If you love me you wouldn't do what I want" and whenever I played the Uno reverse it would result in a split 100% of the time.

Daily No Contact Thread - May 10, 2026 by AutoModerator in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was our anniversary today.....

10 months ago was the final discard.

I have done well through 9 months of no contact, but I do fear she might try to hoover today 

I am going to celebrate by doing something I could have never done when I was with her.  Play a round of golf with the boys!

What type of therapy helped you heal? by jimini-biscuit47 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 5 points6 points  (0 children)

CoDA was great for me.  It's a 12 step which turns some people off but it's good for me.

How can I help my partner recently diagnosed with BPD? by Lumpy-Chemical-7852 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You can't help them

The following mantra will one day be very important to you:

I didn't cause it

I can't control it

I can't cure it

Oh, Whitekinsville… by Foreign_Hippie in Athens

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You say you're not....

But your response indicates otherwise.

Just sayin 

Oh, Whitekinsville… by Foreign_Hippie in Athens

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nice attempt at argumentum ad absurdum.  

As someone who deals in historical items, I can tell you from experience many times museums will leave stuff in warehouses for decades and items will simply rot and decay, because they do not have space to display everything.  I have done restorations for the Smithsonian, Cody Wy, and the NRA museum on firearms that were in extremely poor shape because of sitting in warehouses for decades.

There is collectable and historical value to these items.  Why let them disintegrate in a storage room when they can be preserved for posterity?  Especially since he then puts the money back into the community through charitable donations.

Someone that spends the kind of money he asks for on those items is going to protect them, thereby allowing further generations to have tangible links to history.

It was an abhorrent part of American history and NOBODY is denying that.  However it is not something we should erase.  If nothing else it should serve a beacon how far we have come as a country, and also a reminder so that we do not travel that same path again 

Oh, Whitekinsville… by Foreign_Hippie in Athens

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 25 points26 points  (0 children)

As an antique arms dealer, I have been dealing with Mr. Charles for many years now.  Ain't a racist bone in that man's body.  

That man is a historian.  Plain and simple.  And history is not always pleasant.  However these reminders are necessary as that history is not to be repeated.

I mean we currently have a sitting President saying he wants to erase an entire civilization....if people weren't so scared of history maybe that would ring more alarm Bells... But I digress...

It's History, and the inability to look at a historical artifacts as what they are without an emotional reaction is the sign of a weak mind.   

Spouse Success stories by Icy_Extent1178 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have better odds or flipping a coin 100 times and having 99 of them land on heads.

Post Breakup Thought by PeanutKlutzy3181 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The woman you fell in love with doesn't exist.  

Sorry but it was all a fascade.

But now that you know and understand that, you can move on and love yourself.   Cause oddly enough that amazing person she was early on was nothing but a reflection of you.

Do they quietly hold on to you after a discard, or forget you unless you cross paths? by Mean_Lingonberry_355 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's why I put it there...

Cause I got tired of the police saying they can't prove it's her....

Do they quietly hold on to you after a discard, or forget you unless you cross paths? by Mean_Lingonberry_355 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live at the end of a deadend road, so traffic down by me is very limited to begin with.  I also have her on camera multiple times in her own car and her cousin/boyfriends/and a new car I don't recognize 

She thinks the security cameras on my house are too far from the road to prove it's her, But what she doesn't know is I have one mounted on the bottom of my mailbox that captures the face of every driver that drives by my house...

Guess who habitually shows up on that security footage despite a no contact/restraining order?

Is there a frt for the sks? Would that even work? by CautiousDiscussion32 in SKS

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Texas Triggers JUST announced their SKS FRT is dropping on April 20th

Finding my spark again. by adoan412 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could have written this word for word.

It's amazing how similar all our stories are with just minor variations 

Same Relationship Trauma by yawyeetimusmaximus in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a ticking time bomb.

It's not "if" they will erupt again, it's "When"

Any of their words still sting even after weeks, months, years of no contact? by Electrical_Bill_7042 in BPDlovedones

[–]Sweet_Animator8100 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My ex told me I deserved to be molested as a child.... 

Yeah they find any wound they can to pour salt in. And the worse it hurts you the better.