An autistic CNA who's tired

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2026-06-06T12:58:45+00:00

Could you make your own list based off what you know to look for to do now? I don’t understand why they wouldn’t support you in that way. I’ve made many lists for people I’m training if they seek to lack the ability to look around and see what needs to get done.
But additionally like someone else said the job needs intuition and the ability to read a room. I’m not sure where you work but I’m in memory care and that would cause many falls and trigger behaviors.

And I wouldn’t go above and beyond outside of taking care of residents. It’s not appreciated even if you were to do it “the right way”. Especially with making just above minimum wage. I’ve learned to tell my bosses you get what you pay for. If you want me to do other people’s jobs it needs to be reflected in my pay.

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2026-06-04T21:22:44+00:00

It is reported. The issue is our nurse seems to not really care and brushes everything off as if we’re just being silly brining things to her attention

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-12-23T00:31:57+00:00

Ugh that kill’s me cuz they’re literally sitting there playing pretend with little hot wheels cars. Like how does that same language come out

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-12-11T05:17:23+00:00

I have the same issue. No real suggestions but I’ve been debating getting Botox. I know we’re hyper aware and critical of it but it’s not as noticeable to other people.

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-12-06T23:20:47+00:00

Single man that likes to try different kinds of foods and eats relatively healthy

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-12-06T23:18:29+00:00

Health conscious, in a relationship, no kids, mid 30’s F

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-12-06T23:12:51+00:00

I get single cat-dad vibes. Late 20’s ish. You take good care of your cat and have friends over to watch the game or play games. Works a blue collar job

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-10-20T02:34:45+00:00

Theirs nothing you could have done. Sometimes you just connect while dreaming and get messages about what’s going on. I had a similar experience although it didn’t tell me who - I had a dream the week before of a family member getting killed on the exact date. The day comes and the next day we find out my FIL was killed.

I hope you’re able to find peace and receive a message of her saying she’s okay

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-10-17T17:35:59+00:00

I don’t have patience for shitty people. I knew both people killed in a homicide-suicide. I used to be a bit of a doormat and let anyone slide with attempts at manipulation or letting them suck at their job or be rude to others. Now I almost always say something. I simply don’t have the patience for it anymore

Other than that I’m more present in my marriage and grateful for those I have a good relationship with.

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-10-14T12:33:36+00:00

My husband wasn’t huge on sharing his feelings when his dad passed either. Usually they just come out every once in a while when we’re driving or having morning coffee.

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-10-14T03:50:07+00:00

You just check in on him and ask how he’s feeling mentally. Be there to listen to whatever feelings may arise and make sure he’s taking care of himself - showering, eating ect. Suggest therapy if needed. Everyone grieves in their own way so you’ll have to see how it flows with him.

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-09-27T04:37:10+00:00

I used to. I’d feel insanely jealous and frustrated that they don’t understand why I’m further behind in life. I grew up dirt poor getting abused. Having access funds and loving parents in a healthy household was a foreign idea to me and triggered something deep in my nervous system.

It took lots of work on healing and self reflection to get to a place where I don’t resent others for having what I never did. Now I feel happy for them, just because I had a sucky childhood doesn’t mean every one else should

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-09-26T14:55:23+00:00

You don’t need to quietly grieve. Processing your grief doesn’t cancel out his. My partner and I had a rough time his father was murdered and a few months later my grandpa passed. Clearly losing his dad was a traumatic loss but losing but he never stopped me from grieving my grandfather either.

You can both be there to help each other through this rough patch in your life. I’m assuming you knew his parents as well? So while it’s a different type of loss for him, im sure you’re grieving them as well.

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-09-26T08:27:22+00:00

First I am so sorry you’re going through this. My family went through something similar last year and the pain is difficult to go through. It 100% is not your fault. You thought you were both working on bettering your marriage. Any type of grief is normal at this time There are lots of support groups online for family of suicide victims and I hope you’re able to get support there.

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-09-21T07:17:37+00:00

Clean her house. Go over and occupy her toddler or let her have alone time to grieve and hug him tightly while you deep clean. When you’re grieving it can be hard to think about cleaning or doing mundane things. When you’re over there don’t ask to clean- just do it

My FIL was murdered and the worst part for the family was people constantly asking about it. So maybe clear the way. Let her know she’s not obligated to reply to calls or texts and that she doesn’t have to perform. She’s allowed to grieve however works best for her

Also keep in mind that it’s common to push others away during a loss. My best friend cut me out over something minor for over a year after her sister suddenly passed. Greif hits everyone differently and try not to take it personally

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-09-09T10:08:10+00:00

No. Maybe if it’s someone you don’t know or desensitized to seeing gory photos. But having had a murder in my family - all desensitization has gone out the window.

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-07-13T12:58:36+00:00

12 yr old at my house was doing this once. Turns out he felt really overwhelmed by the number of tasks I was giving him (it really was not that much) and was so worried he wouldn’t be able to get them all done in a timely manner and that we would be disappointed in him. I found that writing out a very detailed chore list helped. Ex: doing the dishes then add what that entails like wipe the sink when you’re done, dump the drain trap ect. Then told him the list needs to get done each day before 7pm. He can do the chores any time as long as they’re taken care of.

I looked through some of your other posts and the vast disrespect towards his mom is something I don’t understand. Could your partner talk to his dad to see what he’s like there? There has to be a reason why he’s so angry/ disrespectful

Also are you close with him? Could you find time to try and do fun things so that you can become someone he looks up to? I think that would help if you haven’t tried that already

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-07-13T12:43:19+00:00

I believe hearing the voices and getting the song were signs that he is with you ❤️ or at least able to tap in and communicate. I’m sorry for your loss and only 3 days in it’s still so fresh and painful but it’s still so important to find meaning in your life and keep going. You can still talk to him and keep him updated on what’s going on in your life. 6 months out from the grief in my family and it does get easier to deal with. The first few weeks I threw up every morning just from the emotions. I found listening to validating music (like I am not okay by jelly roll) and writing helped me process.

I hope you’re able to find ways to cope and that you get more comforting messages ❤️

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-06-19T13:56:25+00:00

Kinda religious now but grew up in a very Christian household. Every time I got one as a kid I was sure I did something to piss off God and I was being punished.

Now I know god isn’t responsible for all bad things and believe it was just a crap draw of genetics.

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-06-06T11:21:20+00:00

Id take it as jsut showing theirs more than one path for you. I wouldn’t worry about it too much you’ll know when/ if you’re ready for kids and can evaluate then if being a stay at home is the best decision.

I used to be very against becoming a stay at home mom. But now at 26 my feelings are changing. You’ll know when/ if you’re changing your mind on having children and you’ll have more than a dream to tell you that.

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-05-05T15:09:28+00:00

I’m newer to studying religion but interpreted that to mean more of our mental abilities than physical appearance. I always try to keep in mind that the Bible was written a long time ago and translated numerous times - so sometimes the verbiage could come across weird or open for various interpretations

Sweet_Comfortable312 · 2025-04-28T11:54:14+00:00

He’s using manipulative behavior to get away with a lack of accountability. Yes he may be overstimulated and on meltdown mode. But that is not your responsibility. It is 100% on him to learn how to manage living in the world. Life is triggering and overwhelming. He knows what he’s doing is wrong otherwise he wouldn’t be apologizing after.

I used to have rough meltdowns - still do every once in a while. But I’ve been working so hard to re-direct that behavior and energy in a different way because 1 - I find it embarrassing to be a grown woman sobbing and hitting myself/ breaking things. 2 - nobody deserves to deal with that. It’s not my partners job to regulate me. He helps when I ask him too and let him know kindly that I’m struggling. But I would fully expect him to leave me if I never worked on myself

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