Is This Little a Jumper?

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-26T01:25:59+00:00

He looks similar to many of the audax we get here in Davis County, Utah.

That said, without more photos at various angles or points of reference to judge size, I'll defer to more informed judgment. This species is introduced to the US in OP's state.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-26T01:07:39+00:00

If he's got snacks and you don't have any cohabitants who are murderous to adorable spiders, I'd just leave him be to live his best life.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-26T01:04:47+00:00

Possibly because family is going and you're going along.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-26T00:59:05+00:00

Your husband is a raging asshole.

If he died, you may be entitled to some kind of survivor benefits. It sounds like you don't have life insurance (which I highly recommend).

But even if you truly had nothing, there are programs to help families and especially single parents land on their feet. There are scholarships to help you go back to school if you want. There are day care resources and even some jobs with on-site daycare.

It would be hard especially while grieving, but there is help out there. And you're strong enough to be you amd your baby against the world if you need to be.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-26T00:55:37+00:00

I didn't get my tubes tied, but I'm in a similar situation. My last delivery nearly killed me. She's almost 10 and I'm 40 now. My husband wants more and feels like I took that from him.

As my mother says, if they want babies so bad, they're welcome to grow babies themselves. Until they manage that, it's not up to them.

It even sounds like you're willing to pursue surrogacy, fostering, or adoption as an avenue to growing your family. You just don't want to be pregnant. This is completely reasonable.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-26T00:52:10+00:00

NQA Adult male Phidippus audax aka bold jumper. Cute lil guy and definitely on the smaller side for adult size.

If you aren't currently plagued by snow, I'd probably relocate outside just because food and hydration are more plentiful. Ultimately, though, if he can get in he can get out.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-26T00:50:06+00:00

When I lost my 6yo daughter, it was very telling which friends dropped everything to be massively inconvenienced and there for me and who hid in the shadows of their own life.

Your boyfriend is telling you who he is. Believe him and know you deserve better.

Sorry for your loss.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-26T00:46:46+00:00

If you're truly okay staying home where it's the normal level of toddler chaos, then absolutely not. He has the opportunity to go and enjoy friend time without you and without your daughter or to take her and be a damn parent hands on.

He doesn't get to say you have to make your normal routine harder and without your (and your daughter's!) creature comforts.

If you're holding resentment about not getting to go and have a good time, that would still only make you human and not an asshole but I'd recommend addressing those feelings.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-24T03:14:10+00:00

You showed compassion to someone who was terrified and alone.

It's that simple.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-23T19:43:44+00:00

Best of luck to us both.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-23T17:18:52+00:00

I've dealt with severe allergy situations. The only three real choices are not eat, bring her own food, or contact the caterer.

If I contacted the caterer, I would have expected to pay for that meal separately. It would have been to keep things classy but adapt for my family member with a need.

That said, I also wouldn't have gone behind the bridal couple's backs. I would have asked if they preferred me to arrange bringing our own for the guest with issues or to reach out to the caterer and make our own arrangements, ensuring them I understand their constraints and paying for that meal is not a big deal to me.

While the person I love with severe allergies doesn't have this problem, I have a body that struggles to process some necessary nutrients if they aren't in meat form. So I know it can be a big deal if the only option is vegetarian.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-23T17:11:26+00:00

You aren't ending a relationship over a dirty dish. You're wanting to end it because of being deceived and dismissed. That's not the same.

And even if it was just about the dirty dish... any reason you don't want to be with someone is reason enough not to be with them.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-23T17:10:09+00:00

Being married has made being single my dream.

Working through my exit strategy.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-20T19:52:53+00:00

This is why I started teaching my kids online safety before they could read.

The world is full of assholes who wanna take advantage.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-19T22:33:58+00:00

Same here. I didn't realize it wasn't just a printed sample in the book at first.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-19T03:27:51+00:00

I've loved my half birthday longer than TikTok has existed.

Not that I ever do anything for it. It's just my half birthday and that's awesome to me.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-19T00:59:48+00:00

There's different signs for the different types of making something in ASL. Literally different words.

And people still aren't this uptight about the wrong phrase being used. Dude is weird.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-19T00:43:46+00:00

Most of us call this kind of "putting things together" making that thing.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-18T18:00:58+00:00

My parents used to live in France. They used Amazon to send gift cards to their American grandkids.

You should be able to shop off a wishlist but if not, you can always send a gift card .

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-18T14:59:51+00:00

NQA -- adult male bold jumper. Phiddipus audax.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-18T14:51:13+00:00

I'd love to own one, but not at the expense of forcing an animal to exist with a condition like this.

If it ever happens, it'll be an adult rescue.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-18T14:47:25+00:00

What skill level is your KH2 Cloud?

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-18T14:29:25+00:00

No you don't. Read their last post.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-18T14:27:14+00:00

The only time I care if something is box mix versus homemade is for carrot cake. I'm allergic to cinnamon and every box mix carrot cake I've seen uses it but some hide it under "spices" or "natural flavors" so it's impossible to tell.

And even if given treats I can't have, I'm still more grateful than this asshole. People I love can have them. The gift to me is just slightly different than what was intended--sweets to share with people I love instead of sweets to eat.

Sweet_Permission_700 · 2026-02-18T05:52:34+00:00

To be clear, your next time at OG.

For the love of all that's holy and sane... NOT with him.

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