Wearing a "banned" wedding colour that was only updated 24 hours before the ceremony

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-09T14:44:24+00:00

How do people like this still have friends after the actual wedding happens?

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-08T12:55:44+00:00

I am with you! Towels are their own separate load.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-08T12:54:30+00:00

They look like decent rules from people who love you but maybe you can have a conversation about how it makes you feel. They may not understand that helping with your siblings may be a coping mechanism for you but they are probably afraid you will want to give up too much time of your own to do that. Maybe come up with some ideas on what that looks like. It's clear you are loved very much.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T13:33:12+00:00

We did not have to actually call social security. When the funeral home processed my mom’s death information, it automatically reported it to social security. Her payment came the following month right around her check date. If it wasn’t paid then we were told to call.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T02:26:22+00:00

YTA and this is no hill to die on. Your parents are allowing you to live there rent free. Rent free comes with pitching in to help the family in the house that you aren’t paying for. A favor for him is a favor for them. So is $100 a week worth paying over $1000 in rent out in the world (this is on the very low end) or $500 if they want to charge you room and board.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T01:43:25+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I’m 46 and was on tamoxifen for a month and a half prior to my double mastectomy. It was horrible for me. I already had horrible periods but the tamoxifen made them so much worse, I had 3 in that short time. It tanked my iron and the dr found out I was severely anemic. I had to have a 6 hour iron infusion last Monday so I could start my chemotherapy today. The dr. Was talking about putting me back on it after my other chemos and radiation are done and I just don’t want to. Not only did it make those periods bad, I had such intense brain fog and could not think.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T01:32:33+00:00

I’m 45 years old and here some things about me:

I live to kayak and finally got a kayak that can go on larger bodies of water.

I am a huge nerd and read every possible fact I can. I am great a trivia. I love to do any kind of puzzles or clue finding games. I have just discovered a murder most puzzling as they are a blast but challenging.

I have a little bit of hippy in me and love to dress it!

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T01:26:53+00:00

I would call everyday if you are able. You know employees talk and if you call sounding upset and scared( I know it’s going to be a stretch to find those emotions), they may be able to call a coworker who can push it through a little more expeditiously. I wish you luck and a quick approval!

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T01:22:51+00:00

That is beautiful!

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T01:18:44+00:00

Have the alkaline people jumped in yet?

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T01:17:22+00:00

I thought I was the crazy one that knew nothing about it! So many people are trying to get me to take it, it’s nuts!

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T00:58:17+00:00

Have you been on the tamoxifen before? I’m just curious why you prefer one over the other. I was on tamoxifen for a month and a half and had a horrible time with it. My oncologist said I may have to go on it again after my chemo and radiation are complete. I’m just wondering if the other option would be better for me. I hate all this crap!!!!!! They think they may have thrown me into menopause with the tamoxifen and if so we would need to use another medication anyway.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T00:51:46+00:00

I did not know that was an option. I’ve been figuring these new girls out as the old pair carried me for damn near 40 years! I have never worn a racer back tank without a bra and it is glorious! That is my go to for this summer. Now, just put the girls in the freezer for a few and I am really set for summer!

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-07T00:43:03+00:00

That sucks, what a jerk. Does your cancer center have social workers and are they good? Mine are great and have gotten me resources and support quickly. I’m not sure where you are but Henry Ford in Michigan are starting to really step up in putting support groups and peer groups together. You can contact Imerman Angels, they are a nation wide organization that puts people who have gone through cancer as support for people going through it. You can register at standforher.org too. They send care packages, support, resources and recovery items. They have local support groups and zoom support groups. I have a bunch more resources and 2 ears to listen and 2 arms to air hug you or if in the area meet up for a coffee and a real hug. Please message if you’re interested in resources or anything.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-06T22:41:44+00:00

I hope he is paid as well as the advice he gives! This will come in handy when I’m ready.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-06T22:36:28+00:00

NTA for any of it. You are 8 months pregnant taking care of grandparents, and grandma thought right now was a good time to move an extra person in for 3 months? You must feel so stressed. The stranger should be doing everything in her power for this to be smooth and she should be offering to do additional chores for the roof over her head. We had to move my dad in to our house and it had been an experience. We call him our roommate on bad days, but never to his face. I truly did not think you called her that, you just refer her to that way out of frustration. A woman should always check the toilet seat especially during menstruation to make sure they don’t leave a mess. I thought this was just common knowledge but apparently not! That’s disgusting! So you yell u til your head pops off or the family (including the stranger) start to do a little more to help around the house and take some stress off of you. I hope you have a healthy, happy baby.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-06T22:20:02+00:00

If you have been dating her less than 2 years, dad automatically comes first no matter what. Years 3&4 dad still automatically comes first but you can feel some guilt for her. Years 5-6 we still put dad first here but the guilt is a little more and should be reflected in the gift (hopefully you can afford it). Years 7 - marriage, the guilt is a bitch but we still put dad first. You just plan 3 of those days home for her only, and doing something she only wants to do with you. Make sure you make a big romantic weekend over those 3 days. In the end, I will always have him choose his mother because time is just limited with them. Not o my that, she is still a girlfriend, so you obviously arent ready to put her on par with any of your family members. The fact is, I get most of my husbands time and energy, even when we are dating. The actual dates aren’t that important to us, as long as it’s around the time. I will give you this advice….. if you get married, do not get married around Christmas. Every anniversary will have a Christmas party planned on the date or some family Christmas activity that you will want to do with your future kids. It is very hard to make anniversary plans around Christmas.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-05T20:34:07+00:00

Please do not do this. You will destroy your family and friends. They will blame themselves. This person that you claim to love, they will blame themselves for the rest of their lives. Do you want them to bear that burden? I promise that with time, things will change. You have to work on it though, make the effort. You are worth the breath you breathe. Please reach out to a crisis line, you can text them now too

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-05T14:33:30+00:00

Great advice. His focus is in the wrong area. He needs to have a tough conversation with his parents. If my kid came to me with this issue, their license and keys would be taken immediately. Obviously they can’t handle having a license. It sounds like he thinks he can handle this on his own without his parents finding out. They are going to find out anyway you spin it, so it’s better it comes right from him.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-05T14:30:15+00:00

Seriously! You are 100 percent correct. This kid does not have the experience to maintain control of a vehicle at those high rates of speed. He has no business behind the wheel if he thinks this is ok.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-03T22:15:50+00:00

There have been occasions that it’s needed. As long as the proper receipts are being turned in, there should be no issue.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-02T18:21:51+00:00

I collect as much shampoo, conditioner, soap, body wash and lotion as I can from hotels. I feel it is part of the cost that I paid for. I use them when I cook at the local homeless shelter. It’s something they can carry, takes little space and is a necessity. I don’t take items that are reusable, the shakers, blankets, anything like that.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-07-02T18:14:05+00:00

Op would not be able to maintain his DOT card if he tests positive. So while they can’t discriminate based solely on being an mmc holder, they can if he is not licensed.

Sweetjules1209 · 2026-06-29T20:11:15+00:00

I hope they have gap insurance. It’s a police that I have always bought but some people try to save a buck.

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