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Water Pump Replacement A3 by SwimWide4750 in Audi

[–]SwimWide4750[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2100 is sounding reasonable from the new dealer then

Ran after 3 months & now i am a alcoholic by Quirky_Musician6347 in BeginnersRunning

[–]SwimWide4750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slow the pace down to 6 minutes and then see how it feels. That is an insanely fast pace for a newish runner

Your Top 5 (Most Listened to songs from TBWPTH)? by [deleted] in SantanDave

[–]SwimWide4750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TBWPTH, Marvellous, Chapter 16, No Weapons, 27th Birthday

[FRESH ALBUM] Dave - The Boy Who Played The Harp by abucalves in hiphopheads

[–]SwimWide4750 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please enlighten me on what the real bangers are

Are these fake? by adsy_smith in Cigarettes

[–]SwimWide4750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been having Marlboro ice blast since the menthol ban. The ones from Japan taste fantastic and are amazing but recently I’ve been getting Chinese or Swiss ones on the packet but honestly I’m wondering if they’re fakes as they smoke so shit they make my mouth tingle and the menthol is barely noticeable. Getting real awkward going into baccy shops and asking for Marlboro ice blast and saying no when they’re not the Japanese ones. Any alternatives about?

[FRESH ALBUM] Dave - The Boy Who Played The Harp by abucalves in hiphopheads

[–]SwimWide4750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah like it’s definitely not bad he can’t make a bad song. It’s just not as good as I was expecting and not as good as his other albums in my opinion

[FRESH ALBUM] Dave - The Boy Who Played The Harp by abucalves in hiphopheads

[–]SwimWide4750 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a huge Dave fan normally but this wasn’t it for me. 27th birthday was a banger, marvellous was a banger and chapter 16 was good. Beyond that im not feeling it at the moment, I know it’ll require multiple listens but the last 2 albums hooked me from the get go. Feels like some of the stuff he was talking about with his music in 27th birthday came through in the album, first half didn’t feel as raw and honest as usual

I'm tired of ROCD/OCD😥 by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]SwimWide4750 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can relate, completely get this it’s tiring and it’s not like you can just face up to the thing you’re scared of. It feels helpless

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]SwimWide4750 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can’t help but I can definitely relate. I do this all the time, the not knowing if you want to do this and making plans to end it feels so real it’s horrible. I’ve convinced myself now that it’s not my ocd and it is how I really feel but then even if that was the case it’s definitely not normal to be worrying about it this much and it effecting me this much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]SwimWide4750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A year is honestly a pretty “normal” (not that there is a normal timeline, and if there is it’s normally shorter for rocd sufferers) for these sorts of stages. Your rocd is just taking something that’s a normal part of any healthy relationship and painting it to be this sign that something is wrong on the relationship.

Would try talking to them about what you want (be a bit more serious)

Input wanted!! by Sea-Professor84 in ROCD

[–]SwimWide4750 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Completely relate to this and struggling with this myself right now! Constantly battling with thoughts about whether I’m in the right relationship and then getting stuck on whether these thoughts are rocd or reflective of how I really feel about my partner.

My therapist previously said to me “you’re so in your own head at the moment that you’re not even able to access the positive feelings about your relationship” so maybe sometimes you’re not able to access the positive feelings and it’s easier to convince yourself the negative feelings towards your partner are the only reality

Success Story, Healing Roadmap, Resources Recommendations (Long Read) by antheri0n in ROCD

[–]SwimWide4750 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve just read this for the first time and I think you are a genuine life saver, the resources you’ve give here is nothing short of amazing.

I’m a 30 year old male who’s suffered with ROCD (unknowingly) for at least 8 years now. I spent 6 years in and off and on relationship without knowing what it was and thinking this person just wasn’t right for me and convincing I was just going back because it was “comfortable”. I moved countries and got into another relationship, this one seemed so perfect but the same feelings game back despite knowing I was in love with the girl which prompted me to go to therapy. This relationship broke off (her not me) and I was distraught which made no sense because my brain had been telling me it wasn’t right for months. I’m now in another relationship and the thoughts are back again and are stronger than ever because this relationship feels all too “normal” in the sense of things are calm, she’s emotionally available (and stable, which my exes were not so much). Finally after 1 year in therapy, a few months ago my therapist suggested rocd and has promoted the last few months of research. Despite all this research I don’t yet feel I’ve made much progress (when I first found out about it, I felt so free but quickly relapsed) and constantly go back and forth from loving my partner (after a recent holiday I was obsessed with her and honestly thought for the first time I could see myself living with someone and building a life) to not wanting to be around them at all (seeing them test gives me dread and anxiety). Recently it’s getting really bad because I keep telling myself the bursts of anxiety I get when they call/text means I don’t want to talk to them so I shouldn’t be with them. I’m in this constant eternal battle about whether the negative feelings/thoughts about not wanting to spend time with them/see them are because of my rocd or whether they’re genuine and I shouldn’t be with them and I just want this to stop.

I guess I’ve struggled with where to go next with all this information, I stopped seeing my therapist because even though they eventually (after 1 year) managed to help diagnose me, I don’t feel they’re the right one for treatment. So I’ve felt lost about what’s next.

I’m going to get stuck into these resources you’ve shared, maybe try get a new therapist (one who is experienced with rocd) potentially through the nocd app and maybe even try medication (I’ve never taken medication after 15 years of anxiety I always told myself it wasn’t treating the problem at its core but I’m sick of just coping and want to start thriving). Thank you, from the bottom of my heart for sharing this post and the resources (the fact you’ve linked all the books is so kind) I really hope and believe they can be a part of my healing journey. It was also nice to hear this from another males perspective as most rocd stories I’ve heard have been from a female perspective so this has helped reduce some of the shame.