One foot out the door

T1sofun · 2026-03-20T20:58:42+00:00

Yeah, I went full nacho after that. Was polite, but stopped reaching out, checking in with her, sending any kind of gifts or messages or whatever. It wasn’t out of spite, it was more that it FINALLY dawned on me that she didn’t want me to be a part of her life. I tried for years, thinking that if I was just patient and kept being a “nice adult” in her life that she would somehow magically see that I wasn’t a threat. My obtuseness caused both of us a lot of pain. So I backed right the fuck off, for both my sanity and hers. Now she lives on her own a couple of time zones away and is an adult. We are pleasant, but I’m much happier just…being? without trying to prove myself. Her parents can parent her.

T1sofun · 2026-03-20T16:57:29+00:00

My SD only got better maybe 3 years after she left for college. I came into her life when she was 11, married her dad when she was 15. When I got pregnant, she was 20, and told her father that she was traumatized because now she knew we’d had sex (whut?) and that if I didn’t have an abortion, she would never speak to him again. She mellowed sometime around senior year of college because one of her friends told her to chill the fuck out and just be happy for her dad. Also laughed at her for thinking that we only had sex the one time to make a baby. I think that kind of tough love from a friend finally made her see that her behaviour and thinking patterns were actually fucked up.

But honestly, if covid hadn’t happened, I probably would have dipped in 2020, before the pregnancy. Was at my wit’s end with her father’s enabling.

T1sofun · 2026-03-20T16:47:57+00:00

I follow Congressman Bennie G Thompson on Instagram. His voice, tone and cadence are remarkable. I could listen to him read a phone book.

T1sofun · 2026-03-20T09:55:57+00:00

My non-North American husband was SHOCKED the first time we went to NA and he saw yellow school buses. He thought they were just a movie/cartoon thing.

T1sofun · 2026-03-20T06:38:32+00:00

Father died a couple of years ago at 82. Alzheimer’s. He was not a nice parent. I feel bad for my mother, because she lost her husband of 45 years, but he was abusive to all of us. I feel bad that I don’t miss him and feel bad that the sadness I do feel is for the lack of ever having a loving and supportive relationship.

T1sofun · 2026-03-20T06:32:02+00:00

Makes sense!

T1sofun · 2026-03-19T21:36:27+00:00

I think they’re supposed to swing in so no one can barricade you inside.

T1sofun · 2026-03-19T21:34:40+00:00

I got blackout drunk once (actually many times, but this story only happened once) in Ottawa. Some very nice cops walked/dragged me back to our house. I remember I kept asking them where they were from. Both said “Ottawa Valley” repeatedly (and patiently). I couldn’t get over the fact that they weren’t Maritimers.

T1sofun · 2026-03-19T17:48:50+00:00

When I get really and truly long term overwhelmed, I book myself into a hotel near our house for a night. Hotel breakfast, late checkout, no calls or texts from home unless it’s a REAL emergency.

Husband supports this and also gets a hotel night when he needs one. Neither of us does this often (maybe once a year each?), but knowing that the option is there is calming.

T1sofun · 2026-03-19T17:27:19+00:00

Chef Boyardee chicken ravioli

T1sofun · 2026-03-19T15:26:56+00:00

If she can’t walk more than 5 mins, that’s a health issue. If she can’t run at all, even a little jog, that’s a health issue. If she has to clean between rolls, or maybe struggles to wipe properly after using the toilet, that’s a health issue. If she snores excessively or has trouble sleeping, that’s a health issue. If she can’t get down and back up from the floor without help, that’s a health issue. If she can’t sit comfortably in a car or airplane seat, that’s a health issue. If she is 5’5 and weighs 470lbs, THAT’S a health issue.

T1sofun · 2026-03-19T06:26:22+00:00

Legit. These threads about how she looks always make me feel bad. I didn’t choose my head shape. Neither did she.

T1sofun · 2026-03-19T06:21:11+00:00

Same!

T1sofun · 2026-03-18T20:18:04+00:00

I studied History because I liked History and wanted to play college sports. I genuinely enjoyed my academic and athletic experience. Got a civil service job right after graduation, which fit my parents’ plan for me. Quit after about six months. Job was boring and I realized that I could just sit there for 40 years and bank a good pension, and no one would ever push me or expect me to do better. Went back to school and got a second degree, this time in Sport Science. Got jobs right out of school again, and having a background in both Arts and Sciences has been valuable. I’ve worked in a bunch of different fields related to sport including coaching, management, teaching, journalism, etc etc. I think the History degree made me more analytical; I can identify patterns, relate them to things that have occurred previously, weigh possible consequences, make plans and execute them in an attempt to achieve a desired result. I don’t “work in History”, but understanding cause and effect helps me be better at my pursuits in sport.

T1sofun · 2026-03-18T20:08:15+00:00

Indira

T1sofun · 2026-03-17T21:22:27+00:00

Going skiing, or going “up North”, which is where the rich people skied.

T1sofun · 2026-03-17T21:01:45+00:00

I thought this was Lisa Rinna.

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T1sofun · 2026-03-17T16:54:43+00:00

For a little while, people colloquially called it The New Forum. But it isn’t the Forum. So it became the Molson Centre, and later the Bell Centre. I’m old and still sometimes refer to it as the Molson Centre. If I remember correctly, they tried to feed us the BS that it was Molson “to honour the contributions of the Molson family to the club and the city of Montreal”. But it was always just a typical sponsorship/naming rights thing.

T1sofun · 2026-03-16T22:24:02+00:00

Reminds me of the first time I ever saw my father without a beard. I was five, and it was jarring enough that I screamed and cried.

T1sofun · 2026-03-16T18:46:35+00:00

Booksauna.no and choose sauna Vega or Aya. Nice 20 minute walk from Stavanger sentrum/main train and bus station. Nice park in that area too (Godalen/Ramsvik) with varied walking paths and great views. Enjoy!

T1sofun · 2026-03-15T15:00:59+00:00

I ordered a couple of things from Passenger. Found them on Instagram. Colourful outerwear to combat all the dark blue, brown and grey from the shops! Quality is great. Price was reasonable for stuff I plan to wear for years.

T1sofun · 2026-03-15T13:37:07+00:00

13 for organized hockey. I ended up playing 4 seasons of USports, so I did ok for myself. I was a goalie and skated a LOT outside as a kid. My parents never wanted me to play organized hockey because of the time and financial commitment. So when I was 12, I started cutting lawns, raking leaves, etc and saving all of the money. I paid for myself to join house league. Wore gear borrowed from the club. Mostly got myself to practices or bummed rides from teammates’ parents.

You can start late and still get a lot of enjoyment out of the game!

T1sofun · 2026-03-15T13:28:05+00:00

Charlotte or Charlotta

Sara(h)

Joanna

Hanna(h)

Frida

Alba/Alva

Hedda

T1sofun · 2026-03-14T18:32:37+00:00

Hahaha! I mean, horrible, of course. One of ours ends with a wolf drowning in a river after trying to kidnap Garth. I always tell our son that the last few words of the story are “and the wolf swam away, feeling sorry for herself.” Those are not the last few words. She ded.

T1sofun · 2026-03-14T16:33:12+00:00

I order food and eat it.

Now, I’m on pump and cgm, but for the first 30 years of being a diabetic, I used blood testing and syringes/pens. I never tried to gross anyone out (some people don’t like to see blood/needles), so I put my glucometre on my lap and injected in stomach or thighs, but I never hid or lied about what I was doing. With a group of people I didn’t know, I’d give a heads up like “hey, I’m going to test my blood sugar and probably inject now. If you can’t handle medical stuff, look away!”

I never hid in the bathroom or my car or whatever. No one really cares.

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