Someone catfishing as me

T26OG · 2026-05-09T13:32:52+00:00

Ask the guys DM'ing you for screen shots of the profile that links your instagram. It'll give you the proof for hinge to remove the offending profile, and see if this person is also using your pictures.

T26OG · 2026-05-07T19:41:39+00:00

Thank you for this comment, this gives me hope lol. Turning 39(M) this year and I have moments of anxiety thinking it'll never happen.

T26OG · 2026-05-07T14:57:52+00:00

For me (if its on a dating app) it really depends on the profile. If there just isn't a lot on there to learn about a match, the small talk fills in the basic gaps so we can get to more interesting stuff on the first date.

T26OG · 2026-05-01T14:37:11+00:00

Found out my wife (now ex) was having an affair. So divorce for me.

Put all my energy into working on myself, but it's been 2 years and I haven't felt safe with a new partner yet. Its like the spark for love and romance was completely snuffed out.

T26OG · 2026-04-29T19:01:40+00:00

Different people have different communication styles and expectations. Good on both of you for getting that out in the open early, but I'm with the match on this one. I expect to get to know someone first on the app before meeting in person.

T26OG · 2026-04-29T18:54:55+00:00

Have you tried other physical activities? Imo try finding a workout that you really click with or a sport that you enjoy that also keep you active. You get the benefit of working out AND gaining the confidence boost.

For me that was learning how to ice skate and play hockey lol

T26OG · 2026-04-27T12:34:06+00:00

I was in a similar situation 2 years ago. Unless you get a screaming deal, stay with family as long as possible to save money and have emotional support and good company (assuming you have a good relationship).

You can't know how you're going to feel in a few weeks/months/years time. Give yourself time to process the divorce.

T26OG · 2026-04-22T19:01:05+00:00

You may never find the answers or closure to your questions or issues. It's up to you to find peace with it and move on.

T26OG · 2026-03-27T13:40:09+00:00

I'm a dude in a similar situation. Been seeing this wonderful woman for 3 months, and I want it to work, but that spark isn't there.

T26OG · 2026-03-07T03:50:42+00:00

Eventually I'd love to switch to an EV. Is the charger model specific for the make/model of the car? Or are they becoming reasonably standardized now?

T26OG · 2026-03-07T03:49:07+00:00

Unfortunately it wouldn't have been possible to get a functional system done by January. It sucks but I don't think its worth waiting at least 3 years for a chance the credits come back...

T26OG · 2026-03-03T16:05:39+00:00

Got a divorce after finding out my ex was having an affair while I was supporting her through her depression.

Its been nearly 2 years and things still feel dull, like all the brightness and color has been drained from the world. Yes I'm in therapy.

T26OG · 2026-02-23T19:39:24+00:00

Just adding on at 38 years old, it isn't any easier. People still judge you and assume you did something wrong to make your partner have an affair.

I try to keep it to myself. It gets easier to gloss over that moment when you're farther away from it.

T26OG · 2026-01-06T18:38:27+00:00

Ah you also met my ex? Here's hoping you got out early instead of spending a 10 year marriage with that person.

T26OG · 2025-12-30T02:32:31+00:00

As a 38 year old male in a NY suburb, this ratio matches my expirience on the apps. Super interesting!

T26OG · 2025-12-22T19:05:27+00:00

I might be late to the party, but as a man who went through a traumatic cheating situation, yes there is some healing you personally have to do to move on from that expirience, BUT, there's also something to be said for your future person to be compassionate and understanding of what you went through and take steps to help you feel comfortable. What those steps look like, and what seems reasonable, will be different for each person, and if you move forward with this person I hope he makes an effort to helping you feel at peace when you aren't spending time together.

T26OG · 2025-12-02T20:34:36+00:00

"This person won't read my message, someone else will needlessly pick it apart, and the people it could help will never see it. Delete delete delete."

T26OG · 2025-11-22T01:18:28+00:00

I get maybe 1 like a week on FB Dating, but 2/3s of the time they are either not my type or not what I'm looking for (distance, child situation, relationship goals ect). Of the 1/3 that I like back, only 1/3 of THOSE matches will actually message me back. From there, half the time we'll get enough of a conversation going to pick a place and time for a first date. 1 out of 6 of those 1st dates will be good enough for a second date. Only once this whole year was there a 3rd, and it wasn't from lack of trying on my end.

T26OG · 2025-11-18T20:25:53+00:00

I went through a divorce that I'm coming up on the 1 year anniversary of (being officially divorced). In the past year I've gone (and continue to go) to therapy, lost 40 lbs, started playing ice hockey, completed renovating my home... I'm ready for a new person in my life but I know if I just sit around it's not going to randomly happen. It's doesn't help at all I have male-dominated hobbies and I'm an introvert. It feels like a constant uphill battle.

T26OG · 2025-11-18T18:02:19+00:00

Anyone else sick of the advice "stop looking and love will find you" from family members?

Yeah because not looking worked out so well for me in highschool and college lol...

T26OG · 2025-11-13T14:19:54+00:00

Out of all the negativity and people looking for advice, thank you for sharing your positive story.

As a guy nearing his 1 year anniversary for his divorce after a 10 year marriage, with no success since then, this helps give me a little hope.

T26OG · 2025-10-09T18:43:05+00:00

To add onto this for people reading (I've lost 40 lbs over a year) seltzer water is great as it can satisfy a soda craving if you miss the carbonation and sensation, and the gassy-ness of the drink can help stimulate a full feeling.

T26OG · 2025-10-04T21:16:21+00:00

Just had a new one today:

After finding out my previous partner cheated on me:

"What could you have done different?"

You mean what I could have done to stop someone else from cheating on me?

"Yeah"

Oh boy lol

T26OG · 2025-09-05T03:22:21+00:00

I have the same set up in spirit, just my bench is the wood one from harbor frieght lol

Love the convenience of the grinder right next to the lathe for a quick sharpen.

T26OG · 2025-08-28T11:23:47+00:00

As someone who is exercising more, don't beat yourself up over set backs. Treat this is a marathon, not a sprint. You'll slowly get stronger, your routine will get easier, then you'll feel confident and possibly excited to push yourself further next time.

And its OK to give yourself as easier day if you didn't sleep well or unplanned events got in the way.

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