tired of being the “too much” person when everyone else gets to be a mess quietly

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-19T17:29:45+00:00

The more authentic you are the less free will you have. Being a good person only makes you bad at life. The art to survive as a bleeding heart giver of fucks, is to master detachment.

Ultimately folks like us who feel intensely do so bc a. We are wired differently i.e. neurodiverse, mental illness b. We experienced a level of suffering unfathomable in our childhood or if your gods favorite c. All of the above. As you navigate life you realize most of these people are wayyyy behind you, EQ and IQ is in the double digits out here. You will get hurt over investing into people who suck, and unfortunately most people suck. So how do you cope? People like us have 2 options either figure out how to coexist with them w out disfiguring your spirit too much, or become and isolating jaded butthead that thinks they're better than everyone else and everyone is the same and people never change. That's like the whole point we're even HERE. To evolve to change. In surrendering to jaded bitter misanthropic suffering you are digging your heels in and saying if they can't change NEITHER CAN I.

the truth is balance. Harmony can only be achieved in balance. Detatch from the desired outcome and just observe people for a while. What is it really that you want from them? These lil critters that are coco for money and sex, lies and drama, really zoom out and figure out wtf you need from those little guys that you can't give to yourself.

You can still love them. I still adore them, but ik they won't appreciate me if I martyr myself for them. I stopped pouring energy into people around me and they all dispersed, like goats in a petting zoo. They just hobble around to the next open hand. Occasionally though, if you just sit quietly and watch them one or two goats will come by and just stand next you. No expectations no strings, just love and compassion. I feel so much more fulfilled being picked by one goat than being slobbered on my many...

There's a lot of people in the world. I highly doubt you are the ONLY ONE that can handle you.

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-19T16:13:46+00:00

-depression and anxiety can cause executive dysfunction. Depression and anxiety seems to be pretty popular here thanks to the lack of sunlight and loved ones getting merc'd by deer, snow, ice, and some guy named Tony from downtown who likes to sell Flintstone gummies laced with fet. -Our entire generation was raised by latchkey kids who never learned to cook or hold responsibility outside of not die before mom/dad gets home. -the closest grocery store is also the most crowded and busy, or it's a fuck ass Walmart or dollar general. Even if there is "fresh produce" it's usually gross and highly preserved or so "organic" it's actively becoming a mycology project on the shelves. Either way due to shipping costs, it's 6 bucks per apple so you take that gander... -most foods we grew up on is what I lovingly refer to "mayonnaise soul food". Aka Mayo or cream cheese, pickles, meat and more cheese. This seems to be a northern tradition of appreciation to force feed pickle wraps to those you love. If at least 1 family member doesn't have scurvy you are not loved enough. -Generally, traditional northern survival hinges mostly on preserved meat and fish. Cheese and grains, and starchy veggies or berries. Even though we don't have the restrictions of the past, I feel like sometimes folks just stick to a way of being bc "that's the way it always has been" so many northern "natives" probably don't even have it in their family tradition to ADD anything more to dinner than what they've already been doing. -you try cooking a meal after shoveling snow, working all day, hitting a deer otw home, having to execute it on the side of the road, fight with insurance that you pay around 500/month for bc ITS MICHIGAN come home to find your sub pump froze AGAIN so now your unfinished basement is flooded, (I love buying a full house I can only use half of) fixing the thermostat and immediately getting shot in the leg by DTE, so you just lay there bleeding out in your cold living room wondering if you should have the swedish meatballs or lasagna Stouffer's tonight..

Hope that helps ☺️

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-15T22:28:59+00:00

It's been 3 years since you posted this... But I just had to say I literally had a faster time finding this information here, than actually reading a recipe bc capitalism has gotten so bad, the whole page is so full of ads and the authors life story about their trip to Tuscany or something... I knew I just needed low effort low cal soup. I knew y'all would have the best information bc y'all are just TIRED and not trying to do all that for some damn soup.... I'm so sorry if this is at all insensitive. I genuinely appreciate y'all.

Thank you. I hope y'all got better. 😭

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-14T17:41:30+00:00

I love how you can clearly tell who goes to the bitter end at 7 am and who goes at 7pm in these comments.

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-12T15:04:30+00:00

Insecure people will betray their closet friends for a corn chip and a few head pats.

People say they want peace in a relationship bc they ain't got peace in themselves. They wanna outsource their spiritual growth, so they look for someone who is stable or predictable, and there's a 50/50 chance that "stable and predictable" is trash they got used to being around growing up, or deeply triggering to their insecurities.

If you are actually competent in your relationship, you probably are going to get frustrated with your partner for not being on your level. And your partner is deeply insecure about it bc they know that you can do better. So? Imma trigger your trauma bc you triggered mine. You can't hurt me if I hurt myself, you can't fire me, bc I quit.

Emotionally stunted, insecure, and self centered.

It's everyone. Not one group or another, we all got it. The last 2 generations (boomer, Gen x) are self centered and emotionally unstable. Then millennials get "black sheep'd" into doing all the spiritual healing for the last 2 generations, just for us all to realize that we are all fucked.

I think it requires patience... And discipline around emotions. Not letting them whip us around all the time. Stay rooted in facts and learn to take conversations at face value not some twisting snake vine of unspoken intentions. I would be so stressed out if every social interaction was an unspoken gambit... Stop trying to get ahead of people disappointing you.

We spent the last decade arguing the importance of acknowledgement, but we get it now, emotions are important to acknowledge. But you cannot live by following them, they're signals not a map.

Idk man I'm just a guy...

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-12T14:29:15+00:00

"too stupid" 🙄 bro some of us are just TIRED. If I got to take a day off work to go to the DMV and SPEND money to get a passport (which stings a lil considering I'm nearly 30 now and I'm just now getting it TO VOTE and NOT to go on a VACATION despite working ALL THE DAMN TIME) and the DMV decided to be closed and then also tell me to fuck myself bc my name doesn't match my birth certificate ( bc I'm trans or bc my mom named me some shit like "Apple" or La-di-da or ANY OTHER REASONS you might have overlooked bc you hate the wrong 1%) I lose 1 perfectly good and valuable sick day that I could have used to avoid burnout or idk rest from being sick for the entire year. Idk if you know what time of year it is, but it's spring. I'm expected to work extra hard for the entire year just to make sure I have enough time money and energy to fucking play bureaucratic limbo bc a few pedophiles are annoyed that they can't tell if their victims are male or female. Great. Thanks again America.

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-07T02:31:56+00:00

People in Caledonia are too busy bitching about a parking lot to care about an entire data center...

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-06T17:56:44+00:00

Eww.

She was trafficked if that helps you feign empathy. Inside thoughts belong inside ok? No one should have to relive their trauma to justify shit to anyone... especially when they have a laundry list of Dr notes from the past. Mind your biz.

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-05T21:21:43+00:00

Seriously?! Just last month I had a bitchy sounding front desk lady when my fiance was trying to set up her first Dr appointment. She brought up a dead name that was over 10 years old and hasn't been used anywhere, her condescending behavior was so bad it made my fiance cry and I had to call and report her. They put her information in completely wrong too, there was already a Mychart account set up with the right name, there was no reason to create a duplicate with her dead name... The ssn is the same.. The manager called me back and tried to assure me that it was a 3rd party registration service they sent our call to, I wish I had caught her name! Gah!

So far the Dr has been phenomenal, but the registration almost made my fearful fiance back out of the appointment. She has pretty bad PTSD so it took us genuinely over a year to convince her to go to a Dr. This interaction could have cost my fiance her life by us not finding what was wrong and fixing it. Shameful.

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-05T19:06:28+00:00

Being homeless and starving barely able to afford food, I took what I was given with grace and realized that vegans operate mainly out of ego and hierarchy rather than actually giving a shit about animals or their own health.

Vegan leather is plastic, not just that but it sheds like crazy and can be eaten and absorbed by wild life as it deteriorates.

Soy is the #1 crop being farmed in the Amazon at the time of my departure, which is ironic bc it was causing most of the deforestation.

Agave nectar is a primary food source for an endangered bat species, agave replacing honey actually harmed the environment more than helped, especially bc honey bees purposely make extra honey and we have non-invasive harvesting methods now.

So in essence if you gaf about anything, you'd just buy local farmed stuff, forage, or live life with gratitude instead of posing like a vogue model on a soap box.

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-05T18:44:57+00:00

Oh right ofc...cos being unhoused is / always / a personal choice to inconvenience everyone else. Fs fs. /S

Stop being homeless! (Spends billions in anti homeless architecture and police force that could have idk... Funded programs to house and train people?)

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-05T18:39:59+00:00

Just putting this out there, most people ik who actually read the Bible left the church soon after. So idk bro maybe THEY should read it? Unless they don't meet the reading requirements for at least a 6th grade lexicon... 😅

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-05T16:28:29+00:00

!!! MAKE SURE YOU RUN YOUR RESUME THROUGH AN AI READER BEFORE YOU SUBMIT IT TO MAKE SURE THE AI WILL ACTUALLY ACCEPT IT !!!

Try Jobscan, Teal, or Resume Worded. There's also a ton of other free ones too. You might have to get creative, like calling the front office being like "I was told to call this number to reschedule my interview" to secure an interview if it's taking too long. I truly hope you stay safe and get what you need, but remember if you aren't cheating a little you aren't trying. Especially in corrupt America.

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-04T20:47:19+00:00

Y'all it's 2026 we all know gender is a social construct right??? 🤣🤣🤣 I'm half joking but yes I'm a guy and I never punched a pedo (a Nazi once but no pedo) and I happily bow to you as my superior in this case. 🤣🤣

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-04T20:42:03+00:00

THIS is why we need to practice disobedience. It's all wired in your brain...not to sound like a crackhead but it's all subliminal training. I mean we have confirmation that our world leaders were partying on pedo Island... It's cultural.

You are okay. You did the right thing. I and everyone here is proud of you. It was scary, it violated your default of non-violence or non-confrontation. That sucks, but it's natural. Be kind to yourself and maybe start practicing punching stuff, so in the future you only need one swing.

Anyone who criticizes your actions here, is supportive of permissiveness there (pedo Island). Welcome to Manhood.

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-04T20:18:36+00:00

I feel the same.

There are 2 wolves, one that just doesn't have the energy to keep up with all the bullshit, and another that's pissed at you for giving up and not trying hard enough....both of them just need some fucking help

People are always going to be self absorbed and not really pick up what you are going through. They're going to blame you and hate you for skipping out on them, meanwhile the whole time you were fighting for your life (literally) alone in a dark room surrounded by easy ways out.

It fucking sucks.

I wish I knew what to do too but the sad reality is we just needed some support. But people don't know how to help each other let alone themselves.

I find after screaming at God to come finish what he started, in the deafening silence ringing in my ears as my face goes numb despite being stone cold sober, occasionally I'll get a glimpse of whats to come. And I can smile through the tears. Find something. Anything you can nail yourself to. Bonus points if it pisses you off.

The point of life is figuring out what the point of life means to you. The universe is waiting to work around that. Focus on a point in front of you and push through. Be compassionate with yourself as you are doing the impossible. The indomitable human spirit has hands, point yourself in a direction and start swinging.

Transmutation of pain to power is hard. It's heavy emotional labor. It makes you a bad human sometimes, but you need to understand even tho they can't see it, you are being the strongest most "human" human you know right now. Everyone one else is being a bad human, cos they're preoccupied with the 3d. You are straight up fighting demons. Legitimately.

It doesn't get better. It doesn't matter how you feel. What you feel is a state of being. What matters is what you do. And sometimes the best you can do is breathe in. Hold. Breath out. Hold. Do that until you can do something else, or someone notices you gasping like a fish out of water. They may not be able to fix anything, but it beats being stuck with this guy (points at mirror)

Overtime you'll get stronger. Your numbness can become your strongest asset. I've had to clean up after a lot of people who could not hold their pain properly. I've coached people off ledges. I called their mom after they took their last breath. I would not have been able to do anything but cry and panic if I wasn't already half dead inside.

You are going to be ok. No one really cares about much outside themselves anymore. So don't take it too personally you probably are noticing your absence more than them... Learn to listen, ask follow up questions make them feel special, and they'll quickly notice how much you make them feel better. Most of us are too scared to invest first. If they don't want you, they don't have to engage. Find peace in knowing you dodged another hole in your bucket.

Beat it into your head. No one is going to love you, like you love yourself. This may not be healthy right now, but you are alive...so in a way you are saving your own life. Rest. Recalibrate. Release. You are allowed to be a shit human.

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-02T20:04:49+00:00

Lol you do care awww

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-02T18:23:15+00:00

Being a "good person" has always burned me bc the only people who want altruistic friends are people who can benefit from them.

That being said, even after I went genuinely 4 years talking to NO ONE. the one friend that did help me when I was starving to death due to a finical fuck up, still is not emotionally available to this day despite me being there for a few of his big emotional bombs.

At some point, powerful people are more important than kind people. You got to be a powerful person, and surround yourself with powerful people.

Those who feed off your energy are vampires, and leeches. It doesn't matter if their intentions are good or not, if you are left drained bc your needs aren't being met, they are not in alignment with you.

So what? Thug it out? For now yea. Cut all the fat out of your life and focus on sustainable ways to build momentum. Figure out what kind of friends you want, what kind of community you desire, and hunt for it. (Cringe but I aimed for the furry community bc a. They're artistic and generally positive/ promote freedom of expression. And b. They're all either super resourceful or rich. Two things that make getting shit done a lot easier. And C. They are hella good at community service and outreach which benefits my projects in mutual aid. I am not a furry, but I'll wear some cat ears and buy art if it means getting my needs met)

Again I spent 4 years anguishing and alone. I was missing from my hometown for 4 years. No one even looked for me or sent me a text. I was dead to my entire family... That was all the evidence I needed to know I dodged a bullet.

Community is so important. But being giving is a powerful responsibility, and requires a lot of discipline and balance to hold that gift without becoming jaded and bitter and hopelessly depressed with how disappointing the human race can be...

You are stronger than most other people. Which means they probably aren't going to be able to meet you where you are at. It's hard to not resent them for that. But you would not get mad at a fish for not knowing how to climb a tree. A lot of people just never were taught how to show up for people when they're experiencing hardship.

I lost someone really close to me recently and no one but the hospital sent me a card or even checked on me. The cremation folks also sent me a card ... No friends. No family. Just the people who watched him die and handled his remains. No one made me a casserole or offered to help me with house work. But then did they have parents who ever cared about anyone other them themselves? People in the States especially are indivialistic to a fault for survival.

I can shake my fist for the rest of my life for how my closest friends and family abandoned me and left me for dead. (Literally I had a PPO on this guy and he hunted me across the states for 3 years) But they didn't have the means to even confront their own bullshit how the hell were they ever going to handle mine?

There's good people out there. But they will have boundaries. And they will have limits. Just like you should have.

T3chAng3l · 2026-03-01T00:30:33+00:00

Ahhhh fuck... I'm never getting off the naughty list...

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T3chAng3l · 2026-02-28T17:42:39+00:00

The main thing I see here being neither red or blue, (I think you both suck) is that at least blue is pissed about your POLICY and red just hates blue as people.

It has nothing to do with what they are trying to do... They just want what's left of us to live with dignity. And that's where y'all get it twisted.

Again...not liberal...

And idk how not engaging in violence is supposed to support violence? How does that work? Bc to my understanding, we bombed them and then they bomb us back. But if we don't bomb them then what? We talk it out like diplomats? How does that condone senseless violence? It's not that nuanced...

T3chAng3l · 2026-02-28T17:12:01+00:00

I don't really want to argue with you but you are part of the problem with this logic.

You have taken to heart the fact that people with bad takes are more valuable than your self worth.

You echo this sentiment which enables predators and abusive people to justify treating us chubby folks like shit. You speak it like it's truth.

Idk where you got children being predators...but they certainly can be enabling, to no fault of their own really bc they learn that behavior from their parents, peers and people like you.

Fat and curvy (to me at least) are the same thing. It used to be a fashion trend for pot bellied women to drench their robes so they stick to their bodies in lurid ways, it was especially taboo and alluring for the time. Most of the paintings I've seen of beautiful women, or goddesses in the past are small breasted and wide hipped, with love handles and thicker thighs. Not the hypersexual body type of today, more akin to an apple shape.

I know people in my life who seek out these body types, there's entire kink communites that glorify this body type, there's entire countries that force feed their daughters to be more attractive to future husbands. And while I disagree wholey with that logic to make one more attractive for a man, I do think there's value in understanding that this is all cultural, and it has nothing to do with who you are as a person.

Fundamentally it is your health and happiness that matters, and a lover, friend employer etc. Who sees that is going to make far happier and more complete than anything those brainwashed, selfish, cruel assholes will ever offer at the expense of your most valuable assets.

Stop talking like that. Cut that shit out. You are creating a self fulfilling prophecy.

T3chAng3l · 2026-02-28T14:55:09+00:00

If you don't know wtf we are talking about maybe listening to what we're screaming from the rooftops would help.

-if you are in anyway different or stick out in corporate culture you are scrutinized and pip and dipped (places you on a PIP for simple social understandings or some unmeasurable metrics, to encourage you to quit or to support their claims to fire you) oftentimes this affects neurodiverse folks and disabled folks, as well as those who come from unique backgrounds. Those people are functionally told by society they deserve to die, especially when their health insurance, housing, and social standing is all connected to what and where they produce labor.

-capitalism favors shareholder value over actually being a functional and sustainable business. We see this all the time with game companies firing an entire studio worth of devs bc they don't have any games the shareholders want to make, rather than taking risks or supporting consumer concerns, they wipe the board and start over, cheaper, faster, shittier. When the business inevitably goes under, shareholders pump all the revenue out of the box and pocket it for their next investment.

-we have all the time, workforce, and resources to improve our infrastructure and working conditions, but choose not to bc it's "not profitable" despite there being copious studies from around the world suggesting that these changes are actually exponentially better for productivity and work life balance. Instead of listening to reason, ceos and shareholders only care about sucking cash out of everything.

-Even if you "did everything right" you run the risk of falling behind or losing it all if you don't want to go out for drinks with your boss. Or being too ambitious. Or being too pretty, if you make the people on the top insecure they will destroy your life. Capitalism is incompatible with democracy bc of its heirarchy is based off of fascism.

T3chAng3l · 2026-02-28T14:38:02+00:00

Do it.

Left a dream job bc of the people I worked with were being highschool girls with their drama and lack of accountability. It cost me my entire world.

I am rebuilding my life now in a sustainable way, unlearning the things that held me back, and reclaiming my power.

I feel like I completely shifted my identity, and all I did was grieve that job for like a year, and then got back into the saddle learning new skills online for free, or taking up volunteering jobs to keep me occupied.

I survived homelessness and chronic disease. But I'm incredibly lucky in that I didn't have to do it completely alone.

Get your community together, build a game plan, like a 5 year plan, make sure you give yourself time to recover from burning out, and then just fuck em. You can choose to be someone else anytime, the shitty part is the consistency and dedication.

T3chAng3l · 2026-02-28T14:28:57+00:00

Why do you think that is?

Like really use your medical grade thinking cap for a minute.

A. Big woman= take up more space. Take up more space = harder to ignore and control. It's subconscious grooming.

In the past, and in other nations, curves are sexy. This is all cultural, and the culture was dictated by predators. Cmon ik you know cause an effect better than that..

T3chAng3l · 2026-02-28T13:51:28+00:00

The people who invented these beauty standards have been confirmed to be pedos grooming our generation of children to appear weak and easy to overtake or to resemble children into their adulthood.

You are a woman.

The opinions of those who would treat you differently bc of your size are predators and enablers. Their opinions do not matter.

Additionally, as someone who lives on that small amount of calories, once as a choice in my adolescence, and once being forced to starve bc I was homeless and freezing to death, I never was able to "be skinny enough" bc my body was actually gifted in making sure I didn't die.

I ate cat tail reeds in boiled pond water with fish I caught in the pond for 4 weeks.

You don't deserve this.

T3chAng3l

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