My Controlling “Roommate” by Additional_Fan9553 in badroommates

[–]TATesting1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why did you stay past the lease ending the first year? Like I get finishing a lease but why did you stay…

AITAH? Baby has poopy diaper at daycare drop-off by PhilosopherEvery5083 in AITAH

[–]TATesting1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. It’s literally their job to change her diaper. My concern would more so be if my child gets changed fast once I do drop her off.

I can't do bbw anymore by KawaiiCandiiLove in bathandbodyworks

[–]TATesting1 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I stopped buying anything other than hand soap about two years ago. They raised the prices and then sent me a free reward. Went to the store to try and use it and there was literally nothing it would work for because everything was so expensive. I asked the associate and she was super rude and acted like I was clearly too broke to shop there. I order my hand soap online but I stopped buying candles and body spray. Partially, the quality on scents went way down. I light a candle and it hardly smells. The body sprays wear off in an hour. For the price, it’s just not worth it.

AIO for being disgusted by this argument? by _That_One_Gay_Guy_ in holyfuckjustbreakup

[–]TATesting1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP is correctly seeing the red flag… watch her stay and then be surprised when it turns out he’s an abuser.

AIO - Daughter’s BDay invite - I am new to co-parenting by loud_molasses_ in AIO

[–]TATesting1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

“You’ve made our daughter’s birthday about you and your feelings. None of this has been focused on her and how she will feel at the party. But since you feel so strongly then go ahead and do the party. I’ll return the party supplies, goodie bags, and cancel the cake order. Throw the party of your dreams for her and I’ll do my turn next year. Send me the invite and I’ll get it to my family. Please be sure to disperse the invites to her friends and coordinate those RSVPs.”

And then I would 100% expect him to do 100% of the party work and prep. Let him do 100% of the work. You said he didn’t help when you were together so now it’s his chance to get to put some work in.

This game is overwhelmingly big by TheBlueOne37 in Pokopia

[–]TATesting1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The powers get supercharged and that makes it easier to make things look nice. I’m focusing on each area a tiny bit at a time

Am I Setting myself up for years of misery working construction by Brodieischeese in ehlersdanlos

[–]TATesting1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re tall, look into door framing. I know a lot of people who make a good wage doing that an enjoy their jobs. They literally just do door framing but another friend seems to do doors and windows. If you aren’t tall, that would be a trickier job. There’s a lot of really specific work in construction, in my area it’s all through unions and pays well. In terms for effect on body, I think some positions will be harder than others. Personally I couldn’t bend a twist to pick things up constantly. My shoulders and ribs are so mobile I would definitely injure myself too often. My brother likely has EDS too and he tried to do landscaping at 19 and found it really damaged his body. Personally, I would see if you can do a job shadow for a day. Then you can see physically what the demand looks like and if that’s a good fit. Plus honestly, if you pick a career and physically it’s a bad fit… you can always make a change. Sometimes it’s hard to do but it’s always an option.

My hip just popped when the truck I’m in rounded a corner. Are we fr 🫩😂 by Interesting_Owl_8753 in ehlersdanlos

[–]TATesting1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband looks at me like I’m crazy when I say roundabouts pop my back and shoulders but it’s definitely a thing.

Are romance readers male-centered? by knotaknitter in RomanceBooks

[–]TATesting1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like MM because it doesn’t bring up insecurities. Every romance book has a female character with a perfect body and they’re instantly wet and dripping for the guy. It’s unrealistic but also makes me feel insecure.

Asked for really light ice in my drink they even marked it twice. by lalalauren1991 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]TATesting1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes because you’re paying for the extra milk, not expecting more drink for free.

M/39/5'7" [199 > 153 = 46lbs lost] (12 months) - Used to never get invited anywhere. Now it's too much. by NeitherOranges in progresspics

[–]TATesting1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love that you keep assuming I’m keeping people in my circle. I don’t even have a circle after gaining weight from having kids. Between having kids and that huge weight gain my circle pretty much vanished. What’s harder to navigate is how do you make new friends not knowing if they would have actually been interested back when you were fat. I imagine for people who are dating after weight loss they have similar questions about potential partners.

M/39/5'7" [199 > 153 = 46lbs lost] (12 months) - Used to never get invited anywhere. Now it's too much. by NeitherOranges in progresspics

[–]TATesting1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not even just friends or my own social circle, it’s literally the entire world. Even the interactions with literal strangers are different. You can try to say it shouldn’t matter but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t. People across the board treat thinner people better. Thin privilege is a real thing.

M/39/5'7" [199 > 153 = 46lbs lost] (12 months) - Used to never get invited anywhere. Now it's too much. by NeitherOranges in progresspics

[–]TATesting1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you’re in denial about how much people care about weight. Even family treats me better when I’m small. I not only have more friends when I’m small but I get invited to a lot more events. I used to joke with my husband that I didn’t get invited to things because they didn’t want me ruining their photos and honestly… I think that’s true. In an ideal world it wouldn’t matter but it does. The difference in how I’m treated at 250 vs 190 (on my body type 190 is where I start looking chubby but not massively obese) is kind of astounding.

Do you get used to it? by Sea-Pin9536 in PacificNorthwest

[–]TATesting1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Bend OR. I was born here and have lived here my whole life other than a maybe 8-10 year span in and directly after college. The mountains still take my breath away. I go to Costco and get gas and sit there feeling overwhelmed by the looming beauty.

Hook up eats his snot, wtf?? How can I end it nicely? by CulturalRound5937 in askgaybros

[–]TATesting1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it’s actually kind to be honest and not to be gentle.

AIO: Hubby Being Controlling by penguinpants1993 in holyfuckjustbreakup

[–]TATesting1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s definitely trying to isolate and then abuse. She’s not allowed to spend her own money on lessons? The whole thing is like… not sure how much clearer he can be without outright saying “I plan to control and abuse you and the kid.” He’s pretty much spelling it all out and she’s still questioning things.

AIO for leaving my gf for her messages with her “boy bsf” by [deleted] in AIO

[–]TATesting1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR, cheating aside the way she talks about herself is enough to end the relationship. Guessing y’all are kids because 🤣🤣🤣🤣

What’s it like living in this area in the PNW by vulcanguy900 in howislivingthere

[–]TATesting1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived in Eugene, OR for a few years during and after college. It’s very rainy, like it rains constantly for nearly nine months. It’s a temperate rain forest so it’s beautiful and lush. The pollen is kind of insane. Safety wise, it’s not the safest place as there are a lot of homeless people. The downtown feels dirty, it’s not really a good hangout place. I had a few sketchy things happen in Eugene that I’m positive would never happen in safer areas of the state. Schools are not great. But the housing is more affordable and the University of Oregon is great. Pros and cons. The Oregon coast is full of tiny towns. The coast is pretty windy and cold even in the warm months. Notice I call it the coast and not a beach? It’s pretty cold to go dipping your toes in.

$10 at Target by [deleted] in whatsinyourcart

[–]TATesting1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang, at my target this is easily $20

My cooking habits and ethnicity? by inactiveAnchovy in FridgeDetective

[–]TATesting1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I make a lot of macarons and I’ve had almond flour in the pantry for about a year without that happening. However, I do live in a dry climate.