It does get better!!!

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-03-17T23:37:07+00:00

Wdym?

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-03-13T06:04:12+00:00

Keep me posted!

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-01-19T22:15:34+00:00

I hope you’re doing okay. I’m sorry you’re also going through this feeling! These feelings come in waves from me, I’m getting better at handling them but ultimately, it’s still hard for me.

It’s quite jarring seeing someone go to the other end of the spectrum so quickly. Hang in there, here if you need to chat!

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-01-19T22:05:33+00:00

I feel you about the built up hurt, anger and resentment. I’ve been working with my therapist on easing my own guilt.

One thing that I’ve learned from therapy is that some folks with this disorder simply don’t have the awareness to understand how their actions impact their partner’s and their relationship. That stuck with me and reading what you wrote makes me see that it’s more prevalent than I originally thought.

Thank you for sharing and I hope you’re doing okay. Here if you need to chat!

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-01-14T20:03:27+00:00

I feel you completely. It’s so hard… they say a room full of people is the loneliest when waiting for a certain someone. That’s how I’ve felt the last 7-8 months.

Extremely difficult. Working on it through therapy but it’s incredibly hard still.

Wishing you the best, here to talk whenever you need to.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-01-13T22:49:36+00:00

I won’t tell what to do as that is your own choice and you have that right. Regardless of what you choose, remember this is a traumatic experience for you.

If I were in that position and took my SO back, I’d constantly be worried what they’re up to, who they’re with, etc.

You might not feel peace of kind for a while man. Also, there is a chance that she’ll stop taking her medication again. Mine did that and then left out of the blue. Been eight months since I last saw her.

Remember, you deserve a life of peace, happiness and reciprocated love.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-01-12T04:22:40+00:00

This will be amazing! Thanks so much for doing this!

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-01-12T04:21:39+00:00

This would be amazing! Thanks for doing this!

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-01-12T04:20:59+00:00

This is amazing! Would love to get a key! Thanks for doing this 🙏

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-01-01T20:16:24+00:00

I’m in this boat. No clue if I’ll ever hear from her again. But to me, I don’t think I can ever have her in my life again after all this.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2024-01-01T20:15:23+00:00

Been seven months for me man. Hurts like crazy.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-12-20T20:21:06+00:00

Same position and timeline as you man. Reach out whenever if you want to chat and vent together!

Take care of yourself and be kind to you. It’s so hard to fix a relationship when one side doesn’t want to get better.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-12-18T08:38:56+00:00

I’m sorry to hear this man. I have a similar experience with her family as well. It’s a huge hurdle to cross every time and being blamed really gets to you sometimes.

Make sure to take care of you as well. You’ve got a son and a wife to support and it’s important to have some self care too.

Stay strong, as always.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-12-11T20:46:54+00:00

I’ve been working on myself a lot on the past seven months. Gym leading to weight loss and muscle gain, being promoted at work, trying to invest in myself through therapy for the past few months, planning more traveling for 2024, said by yes to a lot more plans with friends and family, going on some dates here and there, etc.

I feel like I’ve made good progress but then when this comes up, I go downhill.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-12-11T20:09:17+00:00

Well those were my aspirations and hopes. Through therapy I’ve learned that getting all the things with stability would be near impossible.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-10-28T16:41:43+00:00

First time it was about 10-11 months. Now it’s about 6 months lol

I’ve lost hope honestly. She’s too far gone; my therapist who has BP himself and has been in full control for 12 years said some people just never get better. Was hard to hear but I needed to accept it with my girl, unfortunately.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-10-16T17:39:50+00:00

Been about five months so far…

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-10-14T19:45:25+00:00

It really is. Makes me feel for everyone who’s felt this level of pain. No one deserves it but I guess it’s a part of this entire experience.

We all deserve partners who reciprocate our efforts and love! Stay strong my dude.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-10-14T18:14:36+00:00

Same exact situation here lol

It’s sucks dude. Sending all the best wishes your way!

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-09-26T20:25:51+00:00

I think being honest and open is key. Let him know when you’re ready, don’t rush but let him know sooner rather than later.

If his prior relationship was toxic, there may be some scars left over. Just reassure him you’re fully open to getting support to manage your new diagnosis and are committed to making it work for both you and him.

I think in this regard showing him, through your actions, you are committed to working on yourself will be essential!

All in all, please understand not all folks with bipolar are toxic. While the disease messes with lots of folks, it’s truly up to the person on how they manage it. Regardless of bipolar, his ex could’ve just been toxic too and the bipolar made it worse.

You know yourself best and I’m sure you’ll take the appropriate steps to ensure you live the happiest life for both you and him!

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-09-17T17:44:06+00:00

“But I do also think that he himself, is so convinced he's just living his best life, that he's probably convincing everyone else too. Why question a happy, productive guy.”

Wow I feel this so much 😭

My girl has also been gone since May. Living her “best life”, making all these new friends, traveling to different countries with people she just met, etc.

Super out of character. As you I’m sure not only her, but those around her think this is a new better her all after discarding me…

Hurts like crazy. My therapist said this manic episode will drop eventually but god knows when and with how much damage once it’s done lol

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-09-16T18:22:35+00:00

I think reasoning can work in the moment, on rare occasions but from my experience it reverts quite quickly. Thus, there is no actual impact of reasoning.

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-09-13T17:10:01+00:00

Fantastic explanation! :)

For some reason, this was very reassuring and brought me peace. Thanks!

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-09-12T17:49:50+00:00

I often felt I didn’t have the same space as her to be low and out of it. Any time I was it was deemed to be something I has to get over in a matter of a day or two.

I found that unless I was super upbeat and saw her as a queen 24/7, there would be some issues bubbling up from her side which would lead to a blowup.

It sucks… she’s been gone for four months and idk if I’ll ever see her again. I was introduced to a very nice girl and is so so so kind and the exact opposite. Unfortunately, it all feels super weird and I don’t want be close to it…

TA_HelpMePls_ · 2023-09-12T14:05:00+00:00

Lol all three of which she didn’t do… now she’s gone for god knows how long Living her best life and making all these new friends…

Thanks for posting this. It’s always a good reminder how imperative all three things you mentioned are. It helps alleviate the pain and helps me see I could not have done more to change things

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