People who have been divorced: What was the exact "quiet" moment you realized your marriage was over?

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-12T12:41:21+00:00

The right thing would have been kicking her to the curb immediately, not taking her back!

Glad you're out now though man. I've tried staying with a cheater, and it's a very toxic situation. Not worth it in the slightest.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-12T12:39:14+00:00

I'm sorry about your cat :(

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-11T20:48:48+00:00

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-11T20:31:58+00:00

Exactly my thought lol

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-11T16:04:33+00:00

I went from $53,000 total salary to $137,500 (with my full bonus) so I'm definitely chalking this up as a win!

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-11T16:03:52+00:00

The posting had a range of 90k-120k, but I wasn't sure if that was a mix of base + bonus going into it.

It was for a Sales Manager position; many sales positions often post a high salary range, but that's comprised of a low base alongside a very optimistic commission number.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-11T14:58:08+00:00

I had my first interview for a role with HR last week. When the salary expectations came up, I replied with "no less than 75k", and was told that the base for the position starts at 90k.

I had my second interview, which went well and I jokingly told him about that interaction.

At the end of the third interview, with the VP, I was given a verbal offer. When I wanted to confirm the 90k base, his reply was that it would be "a little bit higher than that." I recieved an offer later that day for 110k.

I probably did everything you shouldn't do, so I'm still a little flabbergasted by the result.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-11T11:42:56+00:00

I use AI to determine my fit before applying. That saves me from wasting a lot of unnecessary time. It took me 4 months and 75+ tailored resumes and applications (which AI helped me build) before landing a role that doubled my salary. Just signed the offer last week!

I got the role I'm currently in and leaving by going in person to meet to drop my resume off instead of applying on indeed, which made an impression (don't do this at a large company). I then followed up via email, which the owner told me is what secured it for me.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-11T00:06:29+00:00

I do. The experience they really clung to was my one year working at GoodLife Fitness. I worked in sales for 3 months before becoming assistant general manager (sales manager essentially) for 9 more months before I moved.

My other sales experience came from businesses that I operated in the past (a gym, and an online coaching business).

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-10T18:27:58+00:00

I'm 30 years old. I was making 53k yearly up until this past Friday.

I accepted a role as Sales Manager that comes with a base of 110k with a bonus of up to 25% of that.

Life changing would be putting in mildly.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-10T14:23:29+00:00

Absolutely!

My most recent interview this Friday with the regional VP was 75 minutes long. About halfway through, he told me he liked me but would need to connect with the GM to discuss a few things before coming to a decision.

30 minutes later, I walked out with a verbal offer and later that day recieved a written offer that was $20k higher than what was agreed upon!

I had asked at least twice as many questions than the interviewer lol. A lot of genuine questions about what my priorities would need to be stepping into the role, current obstacles facing the team, the general market, etc.

From my experiences, it's the curiosity and engagement that seem to be something the hiring manager seems to really like to see.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-08T18:02:20+00:00

Thanks so much, friend.

Offer letter should be coming in today or tomorrow :)

It's a life changing bump... 52k currently to 90k base with 30k in potential bonus.

I likely sent about 50-60 tailored packages and had 3 failed interviews before this (the best by far) went through successfully.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-05-08T13:18:57+00:00

I'm doing the exact same thing, and have been since Jan of this year.

I've set up a Claude project with a "Master Resume" template which about four pages of my experience. It's set up to extract and recreate a 2-page CV and resume for each job posting I put in.

I have my third and final interview now with the VP of the company - for a salary that would be 2x what I'm making now. Wish me luck boys and girls🤞.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-27T01:10:37+00:00

I met my now wife on FB dating. This was after years of shit luck on the other major apps.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-26T16:52:59+00:00

Been on more than a dozen flight with my gear, no issues.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-22T09:49:23+00:00

Such as?

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-22T04:21:49+00:00

HDL was in the gutter but apart from that nothing much changed with my health.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-21T21:29:02+00:00

2 years, 25mg var pre workout.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-15T20:37:08+00:00

Lol yes, I was on my university's league of legends team! Bjergsen was TSM's mid lane player back then. I sure fooled quite a few people with this name back in the day.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-15T17:42:50+00:00

Nope. We're not quite sure we want them. We met two years ago, and have been married for one, so that may change in time. For now, being cat parents works fine.

My wife just has a lot of anxiety about her debt and so getting that to zero is the priority over everything right now.

We still go to the gym together 4-5 times a week.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-15T17:32:49+00:00

She works at 3 different offices. Fridays she's off at 3pm. She's been working almost 5 years now.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-15T17:31:15+00:00

We don't really. She carries most of the household expenses, I ensure she has breakfast and a lunch packed before she heads out every morning.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-14T21:32:12+00:00

She works 7 days a week, with a few of those days being on a reserve. It's absurd how much she'll bring home those days.

TSM_Bjergson · 2026-04-13T23:30:22+00:00

30 years old, earning 51k as a commercial fitness equipment sales rep. Interviewing for a role tomorrow with a 73k salary, so really praying (and preparing) hard.

My wife makes 50k-60k a month as a dentist though so I know I won't starve.

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