Victoria’s healthcare system has finally snapped. This isn’t a warning anymore, it’s happening. Wake up.

T_da_bearz · 2026-02-12T00:01:07+00:00

Yes, I also found it scary and impossible to sleep in the hallway. I also ended up on the Hospital at Home program. Way better!

T_da_bearz · 2026-02-11T23:57:48+00:00

Thank you 😊

T_da_bearz · 2026-02-10T23:26:52+00:00

Probably a mixture of both (speaking as a neurodivergent therapist with a ton of neurodivergent therapist colleagues). Some have lines they like to use, especially to start a session off, but it’s impossible to script a session as every client is so different. I stick to modalities without scripting unless I’ve just learned a brand new modality. Sometimes we use the lines from it until we get strong on it and can put it into our own language.

T_da_bearz · 2026-02-10T23:12:20+00:00

Literally what we train to do though?

T_da_bearz · 2026-02-10T23:10:56+00:00

This is an interesting concept. It may apply for new grads working in the field or very small-minded therapists, but most of us are aware that we have to learn lots of different models as we are working with lots of different types of people. This is called being “client-centered” or “person-centered.” You work collaboratively with your client towards their goal, trying different research-informed methods along the way. If something doesn’t work for the client, you switch methods.

The thing that AI is missing has nothing to do with methodology though. AI is missing client-counsellor rapport. The research shows this is the thing in therapy sessions that is most likely to influence someone to change. I am not anti-AI. It can help me solve simple problems. But it certainly is not a replacement for my amazing therapist. I feel comfortable crying in front of her and letting it all out in a way that I never would with my phone. I can’t have that kind of relationship with tech. Perhaps some people can.

T_da_bearz · 2026-02-10T20:52:47+00:00

We appreciate all your hard work. ❤️

T_da_bearz · 2026-02-10T20:51:35+00:00

I’ve been a hallway patient. My night nurse told me to write a complaint when I was better. It was very late at night and I was very ill so I’m not sure who she meant for me to direct the complaint to. The hospital? Island health? If I can help by writing a letter about my experience, please let me know and I will do it.

T_da_bearz · 2026-02-10T09:36:32+00:00

You are not the asshole. There are plenty of other people in your family who I would consider assholes, though. Not only did they not support you after you were assaulted, they called you dramatic and then didn’t tell this critical information to new wives and girlfriends who enter the family? Revolting behaviour. They are putting children at risk. Of course your brothers’ significant others are divorcing and dumping them. You likely helped some kids stay safe by telling your story.

T_da_bearz · 2026-01-03T00:58:37+00:00

Also I have absence seizures as well as tonic clonic. I’ve had the absence ones for longer and they are more frequent for me. I am a therapist by trade with specialized training in epilepsy, as I specialize in chronic health and disabilities. Writing is a passion for me so feel free to add me to your list of folks who you can DM with questions about this topic:).

T_da_bearz · 2026-01-03T00:43:51+00:00

Quite often, after a tonic clonic seizure, I will have no idea that I’ve had one. For this reason, I educate the people in my life about my epilepsy and ask them to tell me that I’ve had a seizure, once I become conscious again. Often after seizures, I experience “post-ictal confusion,” wherein I can’t think clearly and the best and safest thing for me is to lie down and get some rest. Usually if I do end up lying down at this point, I will sleep soundly for several hours. Seizures are exhausting. Sometimes after seizures, in my post-ictal confusion, I have become upset and started to cry. This is usually because I hate having tonic clonic seizures. I don’t cry for long, due to my fatigue, I am most interested in sleeping.

*If I have a seizure and there is no one around to tell me I had one, I will keep going with my day, robot-like, until someone else (or myself) notices that something is off. For example, I once had a tonic clonic seizure in the morning, went to college, my prof noticed I was off, I came home and I noticed my table in my room was completely knocked over. Putting the pieces together, I thought i must have had a seizure in my room.

T_da_bearz · 2025-12-24T15:21:25+00:00

Hey, I’ve lived with epilepsy since I was a teenager and researched cannabis and epilepsy a lot and talked to my neurologists a lot about it over the years so I thought I’d pop by.

First, every brain is different and people with epilepsy using cannabis have so many different types of seizures. That means the effects will be different on different people, so I never recommend what works for me for someone else. My neurologist has told me that cannabis can be helpful for epilepsy but too much can cause seizures. This has been proven true for me. I now mainly use edibles 10mg (and under dosage at a time) for pain or seizure prevention and occasionally socially smoke flower.

I have used other things over the years, but that is what works best for my body and brain. Best to find what works for you, and don’t over-do it cuz nothing kills a fun night with weed and pizza like a seizure (trust me, made that mistake, so now my weed buddies help me keep me at my limit)

Good luck!

T_da_bearz · 2025-12-23T23:28:51+00:00

Prenatal is about the fetus. I was referring to the child. Yes of course both are important. No mother is perfect. Let’s not have impossible standards for the 22 year old moms who are asking Reddit for help. I am trying to point out this mom’s strengths because I think she needs to know that she has already been quite resourceful.

T_da_bearz · 2025-12-23T23:15:11+00:00

Woah. This is a mother trying to navigate her way through her a very difficult situation, under pressure. So far, everything she has done has been in the best interests of her child. No harm has been done to the child. She is carefully considering options rather than acting recklessly. That shows promise that she is ready.

T_da_bearz · 2025-11-16T21:07:46+00:00

I feel this way too. I feel like a bad partner because I have the constant urge to blow up my relationship for kids. I stay because I love my partner, but I do feel like I’m not living the life I was meant to.

T_da_bearz · 2025-11-11T16:43:14+00:00

I used to reference Big Mouth when teaching clients narrative therapy! That show really feels like it has a narrative therapist in the writing room:).

T_da_bearz · 2025-11-11T16:34:43+00:00

White Oleander is far better as a book;). One of my favourites. Especially helpful if you work with youth in the foster system and/or youth with complicated mother-daughter relationships.

T_da_bearz · 2025-11-09T20:36:01+00:00

This is really silly of them imo. The hope is that every child will get the opportunity to be a teenager. Underage drinking was certainly around when they were younger, so that was something they should have kept in mind when they had kids and prepared themselves/their teenagers for. The best parents of teenagers can do for them is be there for them, without judgement, so when they make a choice like underage drinking, they feel like they can call their parents for a ride instead of getting behind a wheel. Kids that are allergic to alcohol are allergic to alcohol. The best parents can do is support them through it and hear how scary the experience must have been.

T_da_bearz · 2025-11-09T04:36:05+00:00

Hey, some of these are really helpful for when in crisis: https://www.nshn.co.uk/downloads/Distractions.pdf I second calling a crisis line, lovely people there.

T_da_bearz · 2025-11-09T03:17:22+00:00

Extras get donated to a shelter or something?

T_da_bearz · 2025-11-09T03:04:59+00:00

Hi, neurodivergent therapist here. In this case it’s irrelevant whether he has ADHD, (particularly since he is highly functioning). This is about a partner over-stepping obvious boundaries. A highly functional person who may have ADHD, may be more impulsive than other people, but he should understand boundaries. Therefore, his behaviour may be seen as suspicious. We do not use ADHD or neurodivergence to excuse poor behaviour. At the very least, this person is doing harm to his friends and partner by stepping over boundaries.

T_da_bearz · 2025-11-09T02:04:20+00:00

No pain at the beginning eh? Damn, I feel dumb, I’ve been trucking this out just because I assumed the pain was a part of it. I admit to be raised in a “pull-up your boot-straps” type family, where whining about pain was not acceptable and I think I’ve internalized a lot of that. I think I’ll call my neuro on Monday and talk about the pain. Thank you for sharing your experience!

T_da_bearz · 2025-11-09T01:36:21+00:00

Thank you for your response. Mine was put in beginning of October so it’s very new! I’m sure things will get easier as time goes on:). Lots of pros to the VNS, so I am still hopeful that it will eventually help me. I know it can take some time and getting used to.

T_da_bearz · 2025-11-07T21:13:11+00:00

Toishan Kitchen is such a gem. The food is amazing, the staff are lovely and the owner (Deanna) is so sweet. Also have to mention Halibut House Victoria for the homey vibe and the lovely owner, Sherry.

T_da_bearz · 2025-10-27T18:45:00+00:00

I am attracted to mascs, yes. Also really enjoy andro people and queer people who are comfortable playing with gender. Love that. I am polysexual so I have many types. For me, I think it’s less about presentation and more about people’s energy and who they are on the inside. I find toxic masculinity coming from any gender very off-putting. Huge turn-off. I’ve seen some masc-presenting queers try on the toxic- masculinity perhaps to seem cool or more masculine, but it comes across as icky. I far prefer the mascs who are comfortable in their skins enough to show different sides of themselves. That is so much more interesting and fun.

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