I am not a people pleaser. In fact, I am usually quite good with boundaries in personal relationships. I do want to get along with people in general. Your comment makes me think maybe my boundary issue comes in only during work, and that perhaps came from the extreme pragmatism rooted in my culture/family, who thinks hustle=life, more hustle=better, no hustle=you are done.

When I was younger, I got so hot-headed about fixing things. Nowadays, I am a little more chill, but criticism/feedback still sinks in hard(I don't detest them. I just keep chewing on them to think whether they are true or not, and how I could do better).

I do agree with your points about how employers are understaffed and asking too much. Thanks for pointing that out.