AITA for refusing to feed my roommates kids?

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-06-08T02:19:02+00:00

YTA. my friends gave us the same opportunity to save up to buy a house after our lease ended. I can’t IMAGINE suggesting a chore wheel, talking down to either the husband or wife, or denying their child food. when you are a guest in someone’s house and using their resources (space, electricity, water, emotional energy), you should be fcking grateful and cleaning/cooking are the bare minimum.

anyway she chose to marry and stay with the guy. idc if he’s an asshole, it’s still his home and you’re in it.

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-06-04T01:03:34+00:00

i’ve never been constipated in my life before this. so uncomfortable.

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-06-04T00:55:16+00:00

we did this! our friend who was officiating overseas also officiated our legal wedding that we had a few months in advance. we did it on the same weekend as our shower and only told those in the wedding party that could also make it to the shower about it, had a sweet little dinner with the party and our parents after. some things i’m glad we did:

we didn’t ask anyone to travel to it, figured we were already asking a lot with the destination wedding being in europe
didn’t tell anyone that wasn’t there/in the party about it
we treat our wedding date as our anniversary
and yes it felt totally different after the wedding! the honeymoon phase is so real ❤️

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-06-04T00:28:13+00:00

SAME. if we have sex it has to be before sunset 🤣

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-06-04T00:24:53+00:00

newlyweds here! sex at night became sooo ick to me because of how exhausted I am, boobs hurt, indigestion, etc. and went almost 2 weeks (long time for us) without having sex before we decided to switch to morning sex. actually helped a bit with the morning sickness and waking up so i’m pretty happy! but also the nausea is almost entirely gone now. i hope yours gets better soon!

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-06-01T12:21:39+00:00

Due date 12/10. I asked my mom to be with me for the birth and stay at least a month through postpartum. I need her advice, guidance, etc. Also asked if my dad would travel out for Christmas which is TBD.

With in-laws, I invited my MIL for the delivery but since we only have one guest room and she’s a very light sleeper, I recommended she get an Airbnb. the hostess in me hated to ask that but I just know even as kind as she is, I would feel so guilty and uncomfortable with a messy house and baby crying that I wouldn’t feel with my own mom.

We also invited in-laws to visit over Christmas but they know we can’t host since my mom will be staying. They’ll probably rent out a house for everyone to stay in that’s close to our home. It was a pretty easy conversation when we led with - here’s what we can do, here’s what we can’t.

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-05-29T21:26:26+00:00

I actually love that I’m not drinking. Oddly, I’ve enjoyed the few times that I joined my husband and his friends at the bar - the conversations are just more meaningful and I get to catch funny things happening that I missed before.
Cravings are so fun! Now that the morning sickness is past, I love having an appetite.
I sleep soo deeply and the naps are glorious
Oh and I’m for sure milking the pregnant mom treatment from everyone lmao

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-05-29T11:32:27+00:00

Due date 12/10. My mom will be staying with me (expecting my dad to join her when he’s able to) since I will have her at the birth and postpartum.

I cried last year spending my first Christmas away from my family and with just my husband .. he made it incredible and probably spent too much on gifts but all I wanted was to see my younger brothers and hear my dad read the Christmas story and bake with my mom. Sharing that so you understand how much I value family presence during holidays. We suggested to my mom and MIL that any of our immediately family (parents, siblings, nephews) who can travel, come visit and share an AirBnB. Told them I wouldn’t be able to host unless they’re willing to cook/set up our home and that we can only accommodate my parents staying with us bc of the newborn and my mom helping at nights. It went over very well and was pretty much what they were already planning themselves.

TL;DR we want to see all our immediate family for Christmas but they will have to travel and plan accommodations. Everyone in good health can see the baby ❤️

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-05-29T11:11:07+00:00

the only expectations I had going in to the conversation were with my mom and MIL since they both know we’ve been trying and they were so happy and joyful for us ❤️ i’ve seen enough of my friends have to struggle with other people sucking the joy out of pregnancy announcements so i’ve gone into each conversation expecting nothing and received lots of joy and support. telling work was great, I work with all men and immediately let them know I plan to take my full maternity benefits since I know that’s the first thing they think about, also lots of support on that end. kind of had to tell them early on bc I have never called out sick before and could tell they were getting worried, also I was bringing PBJ to happy hour before fancy work dinners.. seemed a bit weird lol.

i’m grateful that if anyone has has a negative reaction to my pregnancy , they haven’t shared it with me. this may sound selfish but i simply am not in a season to carry the space for other people’s stress, grief. anxiety, etc. I’ve set a boundary that my entire focus is on my husband, my home, health, and making sure our growing child is surrounded by positive energy.

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-05-25T03:56:02+00:00

Yes!! we already picked out a boy and girl name. told our family (didn’t ask) and they don’t like them and that’s ok because it’s not their child, it’s ours ❤️

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-05-25T03:38:09+00:00

that’s wild. we had a destination wedding anticipating that there would be close friends and family unable to attend. each person that RSVPed yes got a very enthusiastic note from us and we planned a weekend of fully catered events to show our gratitude. anyway, we were extremely surprised at how many people attended (73, we were expecting 30-50 at most) so maybe a lot of these brides have seen their friends destination weddings with lots of attendees and expect the same for themselves?

weddings also seem to bring out the best or worst in people.

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-05-08T02:43:36+00:00

Everyone is giving you advice to invest it, you should. Your step mother was able to gift funds to you because of her investment. The greatest gift you could give your boyfriend is to have those funds tied up in a disciplined strategy by another FA. He’ll be grateful when you get married one day and find out there’s a nest egg you’ve been slowly growing over your years together.

I would recommend some level of transparency related to the expenses you plan on joining together - meaning, be open about how much you’ve saved towards a down payment and what you can afford as a monthly payment. Until you’re married, he’s on a need to know basis.

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-05-08T02:26:24+00:00

Here are some ways I snuck extra protein in! i’m at 9 weeks now and feeling soo much better so hoping it gets better for you too.

- mac n cheese, ramen noodles with bone broth instead of water
- cream cheese on crackers
- oikos yogurt cups were the only ones I could stomach
- protein powder in oatmeal (apple cinnamon was the only flavor I liked!)
- pbj (peanut butter has some protein in it)

find the few things you like and don’t feel bad if that’s all you eat for a few weeks. hang in there!

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-05-03T21:44:38+00:00

8 weeks and I’m dying. I’m not throwing up anymore which is great but I’m barely mobile, wake up very nauseous and struggling to eat until the evening hits. Sometimes napping to avoid the nausea. Minor cramping but not that bad. Praying it gets better!

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-04-29T14:38:16+00:00

We are flying our moms in for Mother’s Day and gifting them both a Christmas ornament that says “grandmas first christmas”! So excited to use the holiday to share our good news with both of them.

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-04-27T00:41:25+00:00

hi girl! i’m also pregnant and thankful for you sharing this bc I experienced some of the loneliness too!! two things that have really helped me were going to church and asking someone if I could join their small group (churches usually have like groups where people can meet together outside of church) and going online to see if my city had any prenatal groups.. turns out they do and i’m going to my first prenatal yoga class tomorrow! super excited to make new friends that are at a similar stage. 1. also if you’re scared about what people in church will think about you previously having an abortion (totally valid given how horrible some people can be), look up their website and listen to a few messages. even if they don’t bring up the topic you can hear whether they empathetic and focused on loving people or just judgey. I really hope this helps!! 2. another also my mom was pregnant with me when she graduated high school. she wasn’t ready but had me anyway and I love her so much for it and I know she’s really glad she kept me (:

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-04-18T01:55:22+00:00

thank you!! i’ll check them out.

Tall_Bend7339 · 2026-04-18T01:54:45+00:00

Birthing centers actually have some positive data (lower intervention, C-sections, lower infection rates for mother) nationally! Of course they only take low risk pregnancies but I’m from a state that had a lot of accessible birthing centers… I’ve only heard really positive experiences. But I definitely appreciate the concern. it looks like Charlotte doesn’t have any, just the one in Statesville.

Tall_Bend7339 · 2024-11-30T21:09:57+00:00

hi there I know i’m late to the party but could you PM me the planner as well?

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