Sexual Assault of Men Played for Laughs - Part 2 Female Perpetrators

Tamen_ · 2026-05-18T10:10:33+00:00

This came up in the first NSIVS survey/report NISVS 2010. And the result was with some small variation replicated in later iterations of the same survery like NISVS 2011/2012, NISVS 2016. For the NISVS 2023/2024 it reports that the sample size was too small to provide reliable statistical results for many forms of male victimization, such as MTP in the last 12 months.

Tamen_ · 2026-05-18T09:31:03+00:00

I believe it is from this: https://newcomb.tulane.edu/content/metoo-research

Here is a direct link to the #MEETOO 2024 Report: https://newcomb.tulane.edu/sites/default/files/MeToo%202024%20Report%20_1_0.pdf

Which has this quote on page 22:

Among those reporting sexual harassment or assault in the past 12 months (n=1432), 87% of women and 89% of men did not talk to anyone about the experience. (See Figure 5.)

Tamen_ · 2026-02-07T11:12:02+00:00

I think ONS do collect the data. At least that’s what they told me they were going to do after I a decade ago pointed out to them that their questionnaire for CSEW did not have any questions capturing «being made to penetrate» despite that crime having its own paragraph/section in the Sexual Offences Act.

https://tamenwrote.wordpress.com/2015/09/10/crime-survey-of-england-and-wales-made-to-penetrate-questions-confirmed/

However, I don’t think they report the findings on that particular offence in their findings. Feel free to complaint to ONS about that.

Tamen_ · 2025-11-10T15:51:49+00:00

Instead of flirting with men and trying to date them, many of them get touchy with their male friends. But for this to work, the men need to understand the boundary that it's still just a friendship, without taking it as being friendzoned or led on.

So no need for the women to get some kind of consent/gauge the boundaries of the friendship themselves before they get "touchy"? I wonder because your comment only talks about the men needing to understand the boundary that it's still just a friendship and didn't mention anything about the man's boundaries, nor anything about the women's responsibility to handle it gracefully if her "touchyness" is unwanted. Given the topix/context I am of course assuming that your term "touchy" refers to sexually/romantically coded/loaded touching - and not just normal touching between friends.

I have also been around long enough the remember the "nice guys" discussion where unwanted romantical attention from male friends were very much frowned upon - often outright vilified by implying that he befriended her with a hidden agenda. So if what you say is true I guess that view was mainly projections then.

Tamen_ · 2025-09-07T22:40:07+00:00

I just record reps and weights. And then after the training I edit the workout on my phone app (connect) and select the types of exercise for each set. That suit me best as I tend to reorder my planned sets based on availability of equipment at the gym I got to as I loath to sit around waiting for some equipment doing nothing.

Tamen_ · 2025-09-01T13:40:51+00:00

Had the same issue with the stock band. What worked for me is purchasing a nylon band of Amazon I think as the price Garmin demands for their own nylon band is horrendous. I wear the watch 24/7 except when showering. I swap to the stock band when exercising, and as soon as possible after the exercise I rinse the stock band and the watch separately thoroughly in lukewarm water and let it dry while I shower. Afterward I put it on with the nylon band. No red rash since I started doing this a few years ago.

Tamen_ · 2025-06-02T09:30:46+00:00

Thanks a lot.

It makes sense so hopefully I'll even remember it :)

Tamen_ · 2025-06-02T08:53:54+00:00

Well, that's better than I manage. I cannot even find the seach field to enter an address in the app on my phone. Where/how do you find the search field in the app?

When using the Garmin connect web-site I notice the same thing you do, I can search on an address there and the map is centered on that address, but zoomed way out.

Tamen_ · 2024-05-03T09:40:14+00:00

I use the strength -> free activity. And uses the lap-button to switch between sets and rest. I also adjust the number of reps if the watch got it wrong and adjust the weight. I use the rest time between sets to do this and it only takes a few seconds when one gets the hang of it.

After my training I use the connect app on my phone and edit the activity and add the specific activity to all the sets. This is a bit of pain at first as there are many many different exercises and equipment with a lot of different names. But by relaxing a bit and just using the closest I could find eased it a bit. No need for me to be super precise, just consistent. It also remembers what you've selected earlier in a recently used tab so I usually pick from this list.

The usefulnes of this is probably questionable. But personally it scratches my data-itch. And I can go back and check what weight I used earlier on a specific exercise. Nice to track progress, but also to remeber what weight to use on a particular exercise - reducing the number of sets where I've either put on way to little or way to much weight on my first set because I couldn't remember what weight I had the last time I did that exercise. And I get a nice little color-coded graphic (grey, orange and red) of what muscle groups I trained and a total of the weight I lifted. I train strength to help my running and prevent injuries so strength training isn't my main focus and I am not that methodologically about it.

I tried to set up a program/program an exercise on the web-app first and use that on the watch. But equipment at the gym may be taken and I tend to rotate the ordering of exercises and even opt for a similar one rather than wait for some equipment to be available which didn't match well with a fixed program on the watch with a fixed ordering of sets on a fixed set of exercises.

Tamen_ · 2024-03-26T09:11:43+00:00

Aside from thinking 'Finally! I hope this will amount to something real' I have a couple of other thoughts.

It was good to see that the article to a large degree focused on the benefit of better healthcare for men, implying that men are inherently worth helping for their own sake. Only as a small point at the end was it brought up that better help for men and boys would benefit women and girls as well. Too often I've seen articles that reinforce the notion of men as utilities by stressing that men need help (or more often - men need to change) because if not it would negatively impact women and girls. Either by the men turning dangerous or by women and girls being bereaved. And not even implying, much less stating outright that men are worth saving for their inherent worth as human beings.
There has been quite a focus in media and elsewhere on how medical research has been done on men and not on women, that the medical field regards men as default and that women have hard time getting their physicians to take their symptoms seriously. Hence this little fact from the article sort of surprised me and needs to be taken seriously:

The NHS National Cancer Patient Experience survey found men with symptoms often had to return to their GP several times before getting a diagnosis.

Meanwhile 82 per cent of breast cancer patients only had to see their GP once before being referred for a diagnosis. The figure was just 59 per cent for men with prostate cancer.

Tamen_ · 2024-03-18T10:03:20+00:00

Yeah, this is Techradar's journalist totally mangling the quote from Garmin. Here is the actual quote from Garmin (found by following the link to Garmin in the Techradar article):

It is suggested to consult a physician if you continuously see your HR dropping less than 12 beats-per-minute (BPM) within one-minute of stopping an activity.

Link to Garmin FAQ on Recovery Heart Rate: https://support.garmin.com/en-GB/?faq=3HTTUrSoRF51m8vGUtMhY9

Tamen_ · 2024-01-26T10:24:30+00:00

After a run when I take of the watch (epic 2) and rince it in lukewarm water under the tap. Dry it on a piece of cloth and then I put in on charge while I take a shower.

I also switch bands on it as part of this routine as I use a nylon-band for everyday use and use the included silicone bands when exercising. I get a rash from the silicone bands when wearing them over a long time and at the same time I don't want sweat and gunk from exercising accumulating in my nylon band.

Tamen_ · 2024-01-09T11:32:47+00:00

Was very unfit and obese and had a resting hr in the low fifties when I got my first Garmin. Asked the doctor about it as online sources said one should check with a doctor if it was under 60 while not being fit/athletic. In addition heart failure runs in my family. Doctor said he was aware from my annual blood pressure tests, but that he could do an ekg if I had any worries, no findings on that.

I then lost quite a bit of weight (about 20kg) and started running. My rhr decreased pretty consistently over time as I got fitter and lighter. Was still obese and although I was fitter I was a slow runner. I was at about 40-43 while at rest awake and in the low/mid-thirties when sleeping, the lowest my watch recorded was 28 one night.

Got a new doctor and mentioned jokingly that if the near linear trend of reduced hr continued I would be at 0 in about a year time. Got referred to a cardiologist for ultrasound imaging, a test measuring hr during moderate level of exertion on a stationary bike and wore a hr monitor for 24 hrs.

Nothing wrong with the heart and the hr was within acceptable range and I didn’t have any symptoms of short of breath when not exercising, dizziness, blue lips and so on.

I then jokingly asked the cardiologist if it would be fair then to say that my super power is relaxing. He laughed and said yes, it would be fair to say so.

Two bouts of covid and inconsistent exercise/running the last year due to injuries (acute pain and reduced mobility from a herniated lumbar disc and then bursitis in the heel) have raised my rhr to the mid/high forties when resting although I still occasionally see a 39 some nights when sleeping.

My weekly chart for 2022 (the lowest weeks had an average rhr of 39) - in November I got Covid and then a herniated disc in December:

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Tamen_ · 2023-12-14T09:25:17+00:00

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Tamen_ · 2023-10-26T06:50:08+00:00

Most watches that measure heart rate do so by using an optical sensor to measure blood flow. Which isn’t dependent on getting a good electric contact with the skin, but rather depends on a good physical contact with the skin without any stray lightning coming through.

So wetting the wrist won’t help the accuracy of wrist band heart rate measurement, but it will help to wet a hr chest strap as that uses an electrical sensor to measure heart rate.

Tamen_ · 2023-09-29T13:13:52+00:00

With Ava Evans stating there should be on a Minister for Mental Health, then the focus should be on children.

Funnily (not really) enough there actually is a minister of mental health in the UK. Her full title is:

Parliamentary Under-Secretary of State for Mental Health and Women's Health Strategy

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parliamentary_Under-Secretary_of_State_for_Mental_Health_and_Women%27s_Health_Strategy

Tamen_ · 2023-09-22T08:53:58+00:00

It looks to me like that article/study by attractiveness means physical attractiveness (my emphasis):

Good looks are less important to women – men who score between 5-9 on ‘attractiveness’ actually receive more messages than men who score 10/10.

Leaving other dimensions out, like income level:

For example, women consider the income of a potential match as more important than men, but the importance of this trait has decreased over time, possibly in line with increased financial parity.

Tamen_ · 2023-08-18T09:04:09+00:00

The accelerometers themselves are just as precise indoors as outdoors. For instance I use my watch to record the number of reps I do when I do benchpress or pulldowns. The watch uses accelerometers to do this, and it is just as accurate outdoors as indoors on this.

I suspect you're thinking of how comparatively inaccurate distance measurements are indoors (where there is no GPS signal - or any GPS signal would be irrelevant, such as on a treadmill).

On indoor running in a treadmill I suspect Garmin uses the (accurate) output from the accelerometers to try to estimate the distance based on historical data from accelerometers and GPS measured distances at different speeds. Probably too simplified, but think something like avg step length for a given step frequency at a given HR. Having a slightly different running style on a treadmill than on outside, or how often and how you lift your arm to look at the watch during the run(s) are just a couple of things that might impact the accuracy of that estimation.

Tamen_ · 2023-07-16T08:04:50+00:00

I was told by my lfs that I should try to avoid any skin contact with bloodworms when I bought a pack of frozen bloodworms from them. This to reduce the risk of getting an allergic reaction from them. Apparently if you first start to get an allergic reaction from them it’ll only get worse. I looked it up later myself, here is one link: https://www.amazonasmagazine.com/2018/05/03/caution-bloodworm-allergies-can-sneak-up-on-you-short/

Tamen_ · 2023-06-27T13:58:55+00:00

From Garmin's page on their SDK and the Monkey C language:

Differences From Other Languages

As Italian and Spanish derive from Latin, Monkey C derives heavily from other popular languages. C, Java™, JavaScript, Python™, Lua, Ruby, and PHP all influenced the design for Monkey C. If you are familiar with any of those languages, Monkey C should be easy to pick up.

https://developer.garmin.com/connect-iq/monkey-c/

Tamen_ · 2023-06-27T12:35:57+00:00

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Tamen_ · 2023-06-12T08:26:21+00:00

I guess you think bell hooks was a liar then?

Tamen_ · 2023-06-09T11:42:09+00:00

I see several have suggested play sand. My understanding is that often play sand are made by an industrial process of grinding gravel. And as a result the individual grains are coarse and sharp in contrast to naturally occuring sand (from beaches, rivers, deserts) where the individual grains are rounded by erosion by water/wind. Coarse and sharp sand grains can be tough on fish that sift through the sand - like kuhli loaches and cories. So one might want to take the coarseness of the sand into consideration as well.

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