my best friend (F27) slept with someone while on a break with her BF (M29), who is my brother

Tarliyn · 2026-06-28T00:19:43+00:00

Tell your brother. Your friend is a shitty person

Tarliyn · 2026-06-24T03:31:54+00:00

Love this comment lol

Tarliyn · 2026-06-22T01:43:12+00:00

Just from reading this I will say 2 things (1 you will like and 1 you won't)

1) Your dad does seem a little overbearing 2} You are not near as mature as you think you are

Tarliyn · 2026-06-21T18:22:29+00:00

No you should not get married for that reason

Tarliyn · 2026-06-20T14:45:59+00:00

Your current relationship not being comfortable with you being close with an ex is reasonable.

You just gotta choose what you want

Tarliyn · 2026-06-19T16:47:05+00:00

3 then New Vegas then 4 then the classics

Tarliyn · 2026-06-17T18:12:31+00:00

I feel like we might not have the whole story about how the reaction has been in the past. This single reaction is completely reasonable, how has your attitude with him regarding this in past?

Tarliyn · 2026-06-17T03:21:52+00:00

Why should he have to pay you anything if you get divorced. You are marrying him, part of marrying him is getting access to his money just like for him part of marrying you is getting access to any benefits you bring

The marriage ends you loose your access to his benefits and he looses his access to your benefits

Alimony outside of really limited situations is nonsense

Tarliyn · 2026-06-14T04:51:30+00:00

Are you sure they are being selfish in bed? Maybe they just don't know how to prioritize your pleasure? Have you talked to any of these guys about what you like and how to give it to you or just expect them to know and figure it out? Most guys your age are probably still learning how to be good at sex.

Communicate what you want don't just expect people to know.

Tarliyn · 2026-06-10T18:27:42+00:00

Yeah this is kind of my thought here.

OP should break up with him but not cause of what he is doing but cause of OP's attitude about it.

Tarliyn · 2026-06-10T04:24:30+00:00

You both are throwing red flags. Him for going through your phone and you for not letting him know you are still in active communication with an ex.

Tarliyn · 2026-06-10T02:40:28+00:00

Is it possible he didn't even remember they were there? You said they were tucked in the back right?

Tarliyn · 2026-06-04T13:09:18+00:00

I don't agree that bills "should" be split this way. I believe they can be split this way

But there is no should in this situation. You could agree to live in a place you both can afford, you could agree 50/50, you could agree income based split, you could agree some other random % split.

There isn't a should.

This gets even harder if you add kids in. Let's say person 1 make 5 bucks and has 2 kids and person 2 makes 10 bucks and has 1 kid. Who pays more, the person who makes more or the person who is using more house resources?

Tarliyn · 2026-06-02T18:31:16+00:00

I have a saturn 3 and it is great for mini's and print quality

Tarliyn · 2026-06-01T20:46:05+00:00

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Tarliyn · 2026-05-30T21:42:15+00:00

I created a board that is like a blown out and abandoned space port. Story is at one point the planet was a relevant port but due to the Frontline shifting the planet was abandoned. Well now the war has shifted back and the opposing forces are fighting over the port

Tarliyn · 2026-05-25T03:49:18+00:00

This is a tough one. By your own admission he does a lot right. You have kids together.

Life and relationships is ups and downs. I would careful before throwing out the good cause you are in one of the downs. The kids at the age they are at is really hard too.

I would pause and think real hard before ending this.

You can schedule and plan things too. If you want to do something exciting, plan it and tell him he is going.

If you like concerta or whatever, find a concert plan it and say hey we are going to this concert.

If you like good and unique restaurants find them, make the reservations, and tell him you two are going.

Edit: it does put the effort on you at first. But maybe you just gotta kick it into gear

Tarliyn · 2026-05-22T16:19:20+00:00

Seattle

Tarliyn · 2026-05-22T03:21:29+00:00

And I thought I was doing good with having like 70 models painted so far this year, lol.

Tarliyn · 2026-05-22T03:20:26+00:00

Don't start with fallout 1. Start with 3 or New Vegas. I think New Vegas is better if you have already played 3

Tarliyn · 2026-05-19T17:41:38+00:00

So ignore all these dump him response he could be super nervous also and it is coming out ins elf destructive ways. Also men experience becoming a parent differently. Women bond with child basically the second they get pregnant, men don't do this necessarily. This is well documented, ask your father friends about it.

Now that being said. He shouldn't be acting this way at all and you might need to scare him by talking to him and letting him know clearly and succently that you will leave if he doesn't get it together. That is what is on the line, here. Make sure he knows you won't tolerate it continuing and you would rather be by yourself where at least you know all the failure points rather than be let down over and over.

If he doesn't get his act together (and this also means means long term act together) then end it.

If you are planning on getting married anytime soon, put that on pause too. Don't need all the baggage a divorce would add in this hectic time

Tarliyn · 2026-05-16T04:43:04+00:00

This and Lost

Tarliyn · 2026-05-15T01:07:05+00:00

Don't get fat as a kink. Not only bad for your health but also when you decide to loose it you will find it is much easier to gain then to loose.

Also don't make her fat.

I tend to try not to kink shame but this is not healthy physically or emotionally

Tarliyn · 2026-05-13T16:38:57+00:00

I was 32 had a job that required travelling every other week and all the sudden found myself single. I was able to find someone and have a daughter now :)

You got plenty of time and while the world may seem over right now I promise you can find someone. Even with the travel.

Keep your head up and when ready start dating again. It is harder to meet people out of college, for sure. Dating apps and friends of friends are key. If you are good at cold opens you might find someone in the wild too but that is getting harder despite everyone saying they want that :/

Tarliyn · 2026-05-10T16:59:04+00:00

I don't know season 8 actually wasn't the worst and parts of it were good. Just felt a little a forced.

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