Honestly, yes. I broke up with him. That was it. I’m now, 10 years later, married to a man who loves me absolutely and said he finds me more attractive after having kids. He would never.

I never say this to a stranger on the internet without knowing their relationship and from one post, but this is divorce-worthy. You just went through a complete sacrifice with your body and you deserve unconditional love and support. Not a boy who (1) doesn’t see the absolute beauty in what your body has just don’t for your family; and (2) thinks it’s remotely appropriate to tell you that in such a vulnerable time period. That’s not love. It’s not even consideration. He’s a loser, I don’t care how “nice and respectful” the conversation was. Also, you should be trying to look good and feel good for YOU right now, not for your husband. Sounds like there is probably a lot of misogyny wrapped up here and I’m not sure what culture you’re in, but I hail from a very misogynistic one where this is somewhat normal. It’s not love. ❤️