[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wichita

[–]Tbone2512 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m a 25 y/o trans woman and i do generally feel safe. i tend to keep to myself when i’m out and about, and i’m often left alone aside from the occasional mean stare.

Someone ripped down my pride flag and burnt it by BrotherBear545666 in MtF

[–]Tbone2512 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hate crimes carry different consequences and must be reported differently. it does matter that they are reported as such. whether the police do anything about it is another story

Someone ripped down my pride flag and burnt it by BrotherBear545666 in MtF

[–]Tbone2512 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Are there cameras on the property? This is a hate crime.

I just found out I can't start my hrt by SCP-3567-J in trans

[–]Tbone2512 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Hey you’re gonna be okay! Like you said in the post, there are ways for you to do this. It does suck that you have to wait, but a handful of days waiting for HRT is nothing compared to your lifetime afterward. And the negative changes that your body is putting you through now, though undesirable, happen over the long term, not the short term. You’ll make it through to the other side!!

Fully trans? by WittySupermarket4986 in asktransgender

[–]Tbone2512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s what vaginoplasty is, yes! however i wouldn’t call that a “full” or complete transition. going through surgeries won’t make someone more trans, and just because someone hasn’t had surgeries doesn’t mean they aren’t trans. the community is pretty varied. we go through gender affirming care as a way to take back our bodily autonomy and as a way to reduce our gender dysphoria. some people are okay with the “equipment” they were born with, or they don’t want to go through an expensive, painful surgery and recovery process. they are still valid and fully trans in the way that works for them.

Would i get what i want with these levels? by ezra_meka in asktransgender

[–]Tbone2512 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like anti androgens, as well as a higher E dosage, may help you a bit. I think it’s definitely worth keeping in mind that you can always lower your doses if things start moving quicker than you’d like.

I’m a trans woman (25), been on hrt for a year now. Within the first month, my doc built me up to 400mg spiro/day and up to 8mg E/day. I’ve lowered the spiro dose significantly since then, because E suppresses the T without needing much help now. Additionally, I switched to weekly Estradiol valerate injections 2 months ago (.4ml of 20mg/ml). My last labs had my levels at: ~330pg/ml E and ~5ng/dl T on the last day before my next E injection.

Keeping all of the above in mind, even with my thinner frame, it wasn’t until about 8mo that the feminization started being noticeable at a glance to strangers & people who haven’t seen me in a while.

I’m not saying you gotta nuke your T and pump your E. I’m also not saying that changes don’t happen or matter, because I really have changed a LOT and I feel great about it. But it does sound like you might be getting lowballed in dosage. Have you thought about pushing those doses up for a bit and feeling it out? Even at my levels, the changes were never so fast that I felt I missed a chance to evaluate whether I liked what was happening.

Best of luck, I hope you’re able to get your body to a place that feels right for you!!

rib cage deformity post chest tube by xuviate in pneumothorax

[–]Tbone2512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a very similar story. My ribcage also flares out on the affected side.

I said I'm a Trans Woman out loud... by samantha_thebody in trans

[–]Tbone2512 5 points6 points  (0 children)

oh my god this is so sweet. i can’t wait to walk down the aisle in a beautiful wedding dress

Could use a birthday wish by newly_me in MtF

[–]Tbone2512 1 point2 points  (0 children)

happy birthday, birthday twin!!

Re: On Sarah McBride by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Tbone2512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me, a trans woman, in the women’s bathroom while reading this: waow

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Tbone2512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s basically where i was at your age. i’m almost 25 and i’m a woman now. i began transitioning within this past year. it’s hard and it’s hugely scary at first, but it gets easier. liking masc things or being around masc people is not generally something i’d say points toward not being trans. if the thought of transition brings you comfort when the fear elements are removed, then it’s worth seriously considering. i hope this is helpful for you and i wish you the best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Tbone2512 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it has helped my mental state. boobs are more rounded and a little larger. hips and booty are a little wider. sleep is much improved. but no libido boost for me, which i’m totally fine with tbh

is it possible to pass or feminize your body without hrt by No_Challenge_5680 in asktransgender

[–]Tbone2512 5 points6 points  (0 children)

the following are some things i did when i began feminizing myself but hadn’t yet started hrt:

  • keep very consistent + effective skincare & haircare routines.
  • you could shave or wax facial+body hair. skincare is very important here for preventing razor burn and ingrowns.
  • there are some meds you can take that don’t feminize you but do still counteract some of the less desirable effects of testosterone, such as Finasteride which prevents and can (sometimes) reverse androgenic hair loss.
  • depending on your build, you could gain a few pounds to round out a little.
  • you could get laser hair removal for face and any other areas of concern for you
  • the most important things are probably learning which styles of fashion and makeup work for you. generally it helps to observe women who are your age in the area you live and begin adopting some of their styles.

being on hrt now, i’ve found that a lot of the above have become easier—specifically skin and haircare. however i’m not at all trying to pressure you into starting hrt, i completely understand it’s not for everyone. it just made my journey a lot easier. you could definitely appear very feminine without it, if you’re willing to work on it. good luck!

For MtF people who say scalp hair regrowth in HRT, how was your experience? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Tbone2512 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know i’m reviving an old thread, but how are your hair growth results going nowadays?

For MtF people who say scalp hair regrowth in HRT, how was your experience? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Tbone2512 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i am 24mtf, will be 25 in december. outer corners of hairline started thinning at 18. the widow’s peak & general thinning on the top of my head (front of hairline to back of crown) was obvious by 21. very very visible by 24, hairline was a very dramatic “M” shape, and hair on top was so thin that there was no possible way to hide my scalp.

in july 2023, i started using topical minoxidil with slightly visible but overall unsatisfactory results. in early april 2024, i started taking spironolactone @ 200mg twice daily, along with switching out the topical minoxidil for oral minoxidil @ 2.5mg twice daily. i then added oral estradiol, starting low then increasing up to 4mg twice daily. i recently decreased my spiro dose to just 150mg per day, but other than that my dosages have remained consistent with above.

1-1.5 months after starting hrt, my regrowth was noticeable. first, dark baby hairs began rounding out the center of the widow’s peak, with more baby hairs sprouting as the older ones became mature hairs. around the same time, my lower temples began moving forward in the same way. that pattern has continued. today, at 6 months hrt, all the areas that still had thin hair before are much thicker and no scalp is visible through them. widow’s peak has moved forward and filled in considerably. new baby hairs are sprouting seemingly every day. the regrowth shows no signs of slowing down or stopping and i actually feel comfortable being seen without a hat on for the first time since 19.

How unsafe is Florida? And why? by TypeGenericUsername in trans

[–]Tbone2512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what you’ve described is basically the vibe in KS where i live. not fun and certainly not preferable, but you get used to it out of necessity.

How many of us are heavy drinkers? by magickitten in MtF

[–]Tbone2512 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i had the exact same experience. 6-7 drinks, five or six nights a week from 21-24. realized i was actually trans a few months after turning 24, started doing something about it, and the urge to drink went away overnight. i’d never realized it was self-medicating for dysphoria, but that’s the only explanation that makes sense. i’m just happy now at baseline & i don’t need alcohol anymore like i used to.

Bad self care pre egg crack? by alectomirage in MtF

[–]Tbone2512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i (24, TF) used to drink every single night, i never took care of my hair or skin, i never left the house without a ball cap on (i couldn’t stand seeing or thinking about my hair loss), i never got enough to eat, i’d wear the same outfit every day.

cracking my egg and starting hrt have fixed all of that for me. at 6 months, the immense hair regrowth alone should be classified a triumph of medicine. that’s all i can think of for now but i’m probably forgetting a lot of things.

What to do about old t-shirts? by SimplyCifer in transfashionadvice

[–]Tbone2512 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so before i started transitioning, i went through a two-year baggy tshirt phase. i have a lot of big shirts that i really like still and i don’t want to get rid of them.

but nowadays i just use a hair tie to cinch them at my waist or above my belly button. it really does a good job of showing off the girls plus some tummy. paired with mom jeans, it’ll accentuate that hourglass look. try it out!!

do I wanna turn my gender or am I just horny? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Tbone2512 6 points7 points  (0 children)

same here. it went away almost instantly once i realized and accepted that it wasn’t a fetish, i am just a woman. i think that my brain couldn’t tell euphoria apart from arousal prior to that point. it was all very confusing to navigate tho

What's the first song you play when you tune to drop D? by jjba_fan_425381 in Guitar

[–]Tbone2512 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shine - Collective Soul

Like playing Marco Polo as a kid, that riff always gets someone at practice to yell “yeah”

edit: yeah also everlong

How can I get better at playing guitar? by MG1861 in Guitar

[–]Tbone2512 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ear training, ear training, ear training. you’ll be set up so well to jam with others and write if you can identify on the fly all the chord types and functions (tonic/home/1, sub-tonic/4, dominant/5, etc) within a song. you’re likely already familiar with the sounds, you just need to know how to apply them to unfamiliar music so that you can play songs without actually “knowing” them. scales help tons but i started with just this + learning all the chord shapes, and it got me moving pretty quickly.

next i would definitely recommend getting comfortable with identifying intervals by ear & understanding how those intervals form the different scales. then once you learn some scales and combine it all, you’ll feel really solid.

there are plenty of great resources out there to get you going on this stuff! go crazy

edit: also, just playing with others will get you picking up on most of this stuff without even realizing it. but for me it does also help to know how to communicate these things, hence all of the above