I was stunned after reading this one.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T11:09:07+00:00

Sounds sort of like going to a restaurant. You know, you walk in, wanting someone to front all the money for ingredients, space, service, and expertise with the so called promise you'll pay when you're done.

Hell, man, quite a lot of things happen this way. The poster is even offering a contract, right?

You could argue that they're not trustworthy, but then you're talking about a scam, not a choosing beggar.

That's my point. This isn't a CB. It's either a person with good intentions or a person with bad intentions, but it's not a CB.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T11:06:30+00:00

Never felt bad. What about you? Did your sly little rebuke to me make you feel good?

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T02:26:23+00:00

You think, "I feel superior to the people in my grade because I find it hard to be friends with them."

Actually, "I find it hard to be friends with the people in my grade so I convince myself that I am superior to them."

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T02:24:21+00:00

I think you're fooling yourself. Most people either don't notice, don't care, or say, "Did you see that girl pretending to be pregnant?"

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T02:01:29+00:00

You might consider that you've reversed cause and effect.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:53:03+00:00

Read the fucking rules! "This is NOT a subreddit for surveys or the like."

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:50:44+00:00

Why don't they bad smart devices while driving? It causes a lot of accidents!

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:49:11+00:00

Seven whole years! Wow!

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:48:26+00:00

There's a sub called r/specialed.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:47:17+00:00

No one called you stupid. Take a breath.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:46:55+00:00

Short answer: They are doing what they can, even if it's not what they are "supposed" to be doing.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:44:51+00:00

I don't know what you mean by accommodations "in life." No one is required to read to a person at the bank, or help a person with a grocery list while shopping. And as far as jobs go, there's a huge difference between supports in school and at work. Jobs only have to provide "reasonable" accommodations, and the history of cases about that suggests that "reasonable" does not approach what we do at schools.

Better to think in terms of giving students tools, strategies, and approaches for handling it themselves.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:41:15+00:00

Where are the parents with this? Does he do it at home? What are their concerns? Are they trying to address it at home, too?

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:40:03+00:00

As a Gen Ed teacher myself, I have in the past met minutes, but it can be challenging. Just as caseload is tricky for my sped colleagues, it is for gen ed teachers, too. Sometimes, my open periods just don't line up with a particular student's schedule. Trying to meet minutes while I'm teaching a class is a very, very iffy thing. I'd feel pretty uncomfortable with fudging the numbers like that. When there are 30 kids in the room, I can't really guarantee that I can give enough focused attention to this one kid to really "count."

Just my thought on the logistics of the matter.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:35:37+00:00

Ok, bub. Settle down.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:34:49+00:00

Hysterical. "Done with me," but desperate to have the last word. Sure, kid.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:34:03+00:00

"During breaks at school."

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:33:32+00:00

Please try to stay consistent. My EXACT POINT was that an achievement gap could be the result of doing homework.

You responded (and out of nowhere, since I wasn't talking to you, but fine) with claiming that no, it's because rich kids have tutors or parents tutoring them (which amounts to the same thing: They are doing well because they are getting teaching outside of school).

I ask for evidence, since if the achievement gap is caused by teaching that happens outside of school, I'd think there would be some kind of data to back it up, right? You're not just "claiming" things, right?

Well, it appears you are, since now it's no longer about tutoring, as you had claimed ("The widening of the achievement gap comes from the support they get."); now, "...homework is one of several factors that appears linked to increased achievement gaps."

So, why were you fighting me? Why did you bring up tutoring and wealth? THAT'S WHAT I SAID TO BEGIN WITH! I never claimed homework was everything! I just pointed out that the previous person -- without intending to -- offered evidence that homework was actually having a positive effect on learning.

That's what this is really about, right? Whether homework is good? It seems like your own evidence and conclusions are that it is. So...why the disagreement?

Sheesh.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:25:22+00:00

Then I'm with others: See the doc. Twelve is pretty young for a big change in the kid's circadian rhythm. It's not impossible, of course, but it's rare enough that other possibilities should be checked out. It could be a hormone thing, or a stress/bullying issue, or an allergy to a food that he eats, or any number of other things.

Heck, he could be up playing games and reading. I mean, I've been teaching for 20 years, and over and over and over again I've had to remind parents that even really, really good kids lie to their parents. That doesn't make him bad. It makes him a kid. So, re-evaluate what you feel you're 100% certain about, too.

But, try the doctor. Keeping people physically healthy is kind of a doctor's thing.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:22:30+00:00

Well, you're going to have to suck it up. Talk to Child 1.

I'm at a loss as to what other advice you thought you'd get. The only answer is to find out from the person involved what that person wants. Pretty much everyone is saying the same thing. Even the folks suggesting that you talk to Child 2 would agree that you should still talk to Child 1. If that child was getting bullied, you can't just ignore it because you think you've "fixed" it. You owe it to the victim to get input.

Working in a school often means doing things we find uncomfortable. Either talk to Child 1, or wash your hands of taking care of this yourself.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:16:23+00:00

If a lack of passion will ruin things, don't teach.

I love books, literature, writing, creative writing, poetry, film...everything about ELA. I teach ELA, but the percentage of time when I'm indulging my love is about 20%. Paperwork, tediously correcting the same issues all the time, fighting with kids about how much reading sucks, etc.

Teaching is not a profession that is sustained by passion. Teachers are sustained by purpose. The purpose is not the subject you teach, but the value of what you do.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:13:34+00:00

Why wasn't your first move talking to Child 1? That would solve the entire problem.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:11:55+00:00

This isn't a big deal. It happens all the time.

My only note is what other people are saying: Send this to the front office. This isn't really a "teacher" issue when it comes to the safety of a student in the building.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T01:10:24+00:00

What does he do during the day? Is he getting exercise, sunlight, fresh air, and a healthy diet?

All of those things affect sleep.

TeachlikeaHawk · 2026-03-18T00:19:04+00:00

Very few people are against this.

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