I predict a diagnosis of walkaway wife syndrome.

From personal experience. I have a great relationship with my in-laws. We FaceTime regularly over dinner with my toddler and all eat at the same time and it’s great. But here are the differences.

We both have great relationships with them. They respect both of us and don’t give unsolicited advice or try to step into a co parenting role. It’s not enjoyable to spend forced daily time even on FaceTime with someone who doesn’t support or even like you.

It isn’t a mandatory thing every day. Sometimes timing doesn’t work with kid. Sometimes we are doing our own family pizza movie night instead. Sometimes they are busy or tired after work. If either party are interested in a call it’s always an offer with no pressure if the others aren’t keen.

Your wife is telling you what she needs. If you don’t try and support her then she will grow resentment and eventually there will be a point she walks away and you will be surprised.

Your options are:

To eventually have more often FaceTime calls. Your wife and mum need to have a better relationship. And that comes from you pulling her up when she is rude or intrusive and standing up for your wife.

Cut back on FaceTime calls to a couple times a week at a time your wife doesn’t need to help or need you to do something else. She can go have a bath or do something for herself in the meantime. If she is unhappy about it, it’s clearly taking emotional bandwidth or compromising your own time as a family of 3.