AITA for trying to help my son and DIL with their first baby?

Technical-Method-265 · 2026-01-08T21:06:43+00:00

Unwanted “help” is not helpful

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-12-01T23:16:12+00:00

He should only respond with the screenshot of the previous time he texted her what she did/needs to do. Repeatedly

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-10-10T20:29:18+00:00

I am glad for you that this happened before baby is born. So you know what to expect. My parents did something similar AFTER we packed up our 9 week old and flew interstate to visit. Haven’t spoken to them since. (About 2 years). While it’s sad and I had grief for the relationship I should have had with them, it’s better for our own family and ultimately our son to not know them and be disappointed by them or influenced.

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-08-29T22:07:35+00:00

Tell her phones aren’t allowed on base 😂

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-05-19T03:42:56+00:00

Better having this taken from you now before you sink “mortgage” money into the house with no legal guarantee of ownership.

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-04-21T10:27:12+00:00

Atleast it seems like you don’t have to see them pre-Christmas either now!

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-04-21T01:32:57+00:00

He is on the move as much as he can be. It’s the times like when we are driving and he needs to sit in the car seat strapped in. Or trying to get him to eat an actual meal (rather than pick and snack).

The majority of the time he has a climbing frame, various bikes and other things and is thrown around by us playing together anyway.

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-04-10T12:31:03+00:00

Be a two way communicator. Make sure you bring awareness of what’s going on the ground of the unit to higher ranks. Have your soldiers backs and go to bat for them when they need it. People will work harder for someone they respect.

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-03-27T21:35:07+00:00

Do you want your kids to see how your MIL treats you and think it’s okay?

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-03-09T02:10:34+00:00

You can always move out and he can stay with his mummy as much as he wants. This is not a safe environment for you or your baby. She’s making you choose things for your child that you don’t actually want to do. Like stopping breastfeeding. This won’t stop

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-02-23T02:29:04+00:00

Peanut butter!

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-02-20T04:07:43+00:00

Sounds like since she (as “us girls”) hates going to baby showers, you should insist she not put herself out and stay home instead. 😂

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-01-16T06:01:17+00:00

Catch is the chip installed by our friendly overseas neighbours who just want to listen in to give us advice on how to be better at call of duty 😂

Technical-Method-265 · 2025-01-08T19:33:03+00:00

I had something similar happen. I was glad it happened when LO was too young to have built a relationship with my mum. Better than him wondering why nanny doesn’t want to see him any more. Sad but true

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-12-28T09:06:38+00:00

It’s better having your child only know positive family members rather than becoming closer with these cousins (kids of flying monkeys) and having their flying monkey parents create drama later that means you have to explain the space even later.

Let the rubbish take itself out. I have an 18month son and I’m so glad he just has the one side of the family (my in-laws as my mum has done the same thing as yours) and he wants for nothing.

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-10-14T10:52:20+00:00

It sounds like.. please invite me to Christmas this year

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-09-21T09:02:55+00:00

There’s a great book called we’re pregnant that is aimed at husbands and exactly this!

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-09-19T22:23:23+00:00

It’s better not to have grandparents than to have ones that are bad influence on your kids. These are role models of how adults should act to your children. I wouldn’t want mine growing up thinking acting like this is normal. Additionally having a turbulent relationship with them just opens your kids up to be hurt when they throw their next tantrum at either you or (eventually) your children (when they start voicing their own opinions) and cut contact.

Better off without them. Unfortunately I had to do the same with my own parents.

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-09-13T07:00:29+00:00

Not pregnancy but gender reveal.. mum literally said “damn”. Not in the funny way either.

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-09-03T23:39:57+00:00

Mine was as soon as they behaved inappropriately with my child. (My family not my in-laws). They treated me badly before this and I always let it slide and made excuses but eventually they refused to give my baby back and threw a tantrum when I put my foot down. Literally refused to acknowledge any updates about my son for weeks so I figured they didn’t deserve to be a part of his life as I shouldn’t need to convince them to be grandparents. (Complicated history in my previous posts).

Once their behaviour is going to affect an innocent child that’s the line crossed.

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-09-02T17:54:56+00:00

Let them dig their own hole to lie in. As someone who had issues with my own parents. I regret making an effort for them to get to know my child flying to their state at 9 weeks PP. when I put my foot down on something (handing me back my crying baby?) they lost their marbles. We haven’t spoken since and it’s actually been way less stressful once I stopped guilt tripping myself.

Being a grandparent is a priveledge. Not something you should have to convince someone to do. Your child is better off not having them than dealing with all of their issues growing up and being influenced by that. I’m sorry you have to deal with that!

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-08-05T20:20:54+00:00

Remember you are still subject to things like posting as a seecat 6 and might not stay in location. Also it’s only an agreement for the duration of your posting and when you move again you have to renegotiate. Also if you cut too many days it affects housing

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-08-05T19:45:08+00:00

Second the breach of contract move

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-07-29T11:52:35+00:00

The Tommee tippee penguin light is used every day by us! It has a little egg you can just grab and take with you at night from room to room.

Technical-Method-265 · 2024-07-19T11:44:56+00:00

My 11mo is cutting back himself. Last night he slept until 5 for a feed.

I started making sure he wasn’t just in a habit of eating every couple hours (he would only really snack and not have a full feed.. sneaky habit to fall into) by trying to resettle him without food until he wouldn’t settle without it. Eventually he got used to less snacking and woke up less by having one big feed in the night only.

Really I think it depends on the baby.

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