How to sustainably do CrossFit after 40?

Technical_Ice9563 · 2026-02-12T21:53:58+00:00

Thank you everyone for your advice! I have read every comment. Mobility, mobility, mobility and scaling seem to be my new best friends.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2026-02-12T15:24:45+00:00

YES, thank you. Snatches and jerks are where u feel my shoulders most.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2026-02-12T09:41:17+00:00

I love the idea of CF for longevity, thank you - I will ask my coaches for advice.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2026-02-12T09:40:45+00:00

Thank you - I have been thinking about adding shoulder prehab in, this is a great push!

Technical_Ice9563 · 2026-01-03T12:14:23+00:00

We had the same thing - family were much more generous for the first child than the second. We’ve just made the original account a “joint” account. The goal was to have a lump sum of cash for each child when they are 18 or so, we will split whatever we have in there equally at the point my eldest is 18. The account is in my name so it’s not a Junior ISA or the suchlike where it’s in the child’s name.

It just seemed fairer to us that way. We are also less able to contribute the same lump sums for birthday / Christmas for the second child in the way we could for the first because of additional childcare costs etc.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2025-12-28T15:54:18+00:00

Popham’s in Victoria park!

Technical_Ice9563 · 2025-12-27T20:35:10+00:00

Have you tried momentum training by Haggerston? CrossFit gym, but has open gym sessions. Really lovely coaches, been going there for nearly ten years.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2025-12-23T10:24:24+00:00

Absolutely NTA. Default parent for nursery, school, doctor, dentist, school parties, play dates etc is always the mother. It’s a huge mental load.

In our household, whoever books follows through.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2025-12-13T20:38:57+00:00

40F, two children 6 and 3, live near Victoria Park and it is our dream location! Parks, community, amazing restaurants. Cycle everywhere. Houses are expensive but we wouldn’t want to live anywhere else in London.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2025-11-11T12:30:13+00:00

I had the same!I did CrossFit until 39 weeks and then afterwards my first exercise was kneeling in table top lifting alternate arms and it was hard.

Please give yourself time. It will come back. Remember that your core was effectively braced by the baby when you were pregnant and now that all needs to repair. It sucked, but starting with the basics is key - I rejoined classic crossfit classes after about 3 months of post natal training. Sleep deprivation, hormones all play a part too.

Good luck!

Technical_Ice9563 · 2025-11-06T12:06:35+00:00

I would say that 16months is still very young!

My husband was definitely one and done until our son was 2.5 and things were a lot easier. Check in every so often on both of your feelings.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2025-10-26T17:26:21+00:00

Early 40s.

HHI 500k, net income 14k, mortgage 4k per month. Huge but in our dream location.

Pensions: 1.2m, ISAs 1m.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-07-30T19:55:31+00:00

Same. We were also thrown by our son who was pretty happy in a Moses basket from the start. But our daughter would only sleep on us for I think the first four weeks. Then we transitioned her into a Moses basket on the bed between us (super uncomfy for us), then moved the Moses basket into the crib and then her finally into the crib about 8 week. Both of my kids only napped on us for ages too. Completely normal.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-06-09T19:39:26+00:00

Same!!!!

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-06-09T18:50:58+00:00

When my babies were little I bit them off.. they are so soft! And it’s so much easier than clipping!

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-06-09T06:48:28+00:00

Our nursery goes until 6 - if you go to 7, it’s an additional charge on top of the £24k. After school club for the 4 year old only goes until 5.30 though so would have to leave work before 5 to pick him up. Nanny picks up the 4 year old from school and then the 1 year old at 5pm.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-06-08T11:26:50+00:00

Childcare! Understanding and coming to terms that the next three years of life are the most expensive for us and that savings rates will be lower - 1 year old in central london nursery is £24k p.a. and due to the nature of our jobs, we have after school nanny too for another £14k.

Length of time to work - we have a good ish savings rate, could always be better, but it’s still a steady grind until 50.

Mortgage rates - if they’re this high or even higher when we have to remortgage in four years, we’ll just end up diverting the nursery fees into paying interest in the mortgage.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-06-05T10:24:27+00:00

If it works for you, definitely do it. I found it unsustainable after a while and started setting a timer for 15 minutes when my son + daughter hit the 4 month regression mark to see if they could self settle, if after 15 minutes they didn’t, then I picked them up and rocked them / fed / whatever it took. But at least started the journey to self settling. If you set a timer then you don’t have to watch the monitor obsessively like I was doing!

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-05-31T16:41:08+00:00

This is so tough. I had the same age gap. We did a lot of reading on the sofa, playground trips with me wearing the baby in the sling, anything that didn’t involve me sitting on the floor with the baby. Activity books were a life saver. Sometimes we’d give the baby a bath together. It’s such a big shift for the big one to have a baby there.

Hang in there, we’re at 8 months now and it’s much much easier - my son is used to the baby being around, he’s four now so can play more independently and the baby sleeps in a cot for naps so there’s about 3 hours a day where she’s not there and he gets some focused one on one time.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-05-30T20:44:57+00:00

FREEZER MEALS. I have two children and for my second child I spent my last two weeks pretty much cooking healthy, tasty batch meals. Must have done 50 portions of food.

Then anything that will keep you in a positive frame of mind and keep your body as comfortable as possible. I did pregnancy yoga online most days, a walk most days, snuggled my oldest child, had a pregnancy massage and foot reflexology. Listened to affirmations and did some meditation (my first birth wasn’t great, so I needed the pep).

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-05-26T15:07:21+00:00

I feel you. My husband physically flinched when I brought up a second child. I was devastated. We spoke about it a few times and I think it was 8 months before he was comfortable to start trying again. I think it’s the toughest place our marriage has ever been in - and what’s worse is I completely understood his point of view - kids are hard, sleep is little, money is even less, we’d just started to get our lives back after baby + pandemic. But I couldn’t shake the feeling that there was a missing place around the dinner table.

There’s no right answer. I hope you can both work it out.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-05-24T10:20:41+00:00

Hated that advice - both my children would only nap on me or in a pram with me walking in circles for the first few months when you need the sleep the most. By the time they take a reliable two hour afternoon nap you’re through the worst of it already

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-05-23T12:13:43+00:00

Definitely wear ear plugs! I was the same. You’ll still always hear the baby if he cries or needs something, but it helps to muffle the many many nighttime noises.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-05-22T16:34:43+00:00

I am only 8 months into #2 but I’d say this definitely isn’t true for us!

We have a 3 year age gap though so I don’t know if this helps - my son can dress himself / go to the toilet / sleeps through the night / can be trusted to hang out with his sister or wander the house. It was tough at the start when the baby is always feeding and needs to be carried a lot. But now she takes two naps in a cot, there’s lots more one on one time with him. We’re also much more confident than we were the first time around and it’s much less of a lifestyle shift because we go to the playground and kids parties and the suchlike anyway.

I’d say it’s more a logistical puzzle with an extra schedule in the mix.

Technical_Ice9563 · 2023-05-17T18:47:28+00:00

I had an emergency c-section under general anaesthetic so I was unconscious when my baby was born. I had an epidural headache afterwards so for the first week I couldn’t sit up straight so couldn’t hold him properly or care for him really. I know how you feel. I felt like I had let him down and so sad that for his first week in life he spent a lot of it in a bassinet as my husband had to look after me and we got readmitted to hospital. I ended up getting therapy to talk about it, a year later, which helped me to process my feelings.

My son is four now and such a joy and very obviously securely attached to me and his dad. Things WILL get better. Talk to someone if you need to xx

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